I have been trying to deal with my family situation as best as I can. Over the summer, I got a paid internship off-campus that would continue on-campus during the school year. I have been there about 4ish or so months now. The thing is, I don't really like the job all that much (customer service) and while I am trying to make the best of it, school is still the #1 priority. I am in a little bit of a bind since the minimum amount of hours they will allow me to work is 20 hrs. I normally take 15 credits a semester, so that is already pushing it. Even though I came into university with a lot of credits from high school (51 to be exact), changing my major after fall semester of my freshman year and some missteps from advisers have put me pretty close to a 4 year track.
In order to graduate early (as planned in high school with the IB Credits), I would have a couple of options. I have 36 credits left until I graduate. So, I would remain with the 15 I have now, take 15 again next semester, do 6 credits (two classes) over the summer (something I never really had to do and was exempt from because of all the transfer credits) and finish off in fall 2016 with the final 15 credits. The other option that was brought up was taking one more class, bumping me up to 18 credits, and also doing 18 in either the spring or fall, which means in the semester that I don't do 18, I would be back down to 15 credits again (no summer classes required in this scenario).
I have already had second thoughts about my internship since they are not as flexible as I thought they would be with my schedule preferences in the beginning (I had an oral surgery during one of the training days and because I did not mention it during the interview (I did not have a date set yet) it counted against me as 'unscheduled time' which affected my 'dependability' and put me low on the schedule preferences list) . Not to mention that the 20 hr minimum obligation seems like a lot with me being a full-time student.
Some people have asked me "Well, why are you trying to graduate so early? You are a junior right now. What is so wrong with the normal 4 year track?" I mean, choosing the university that I did coming out of the IB program geared me towards that mindset that I was going to graduate early and get a head start on the next chapter in my life. On top of that, with the possibility of my dad threatening to force my mom to sell the house and displace us, I don't want anything else on my plate. I have taken over a lot of my own expenses since I started the internship that my parents would take care of when they lived together (gym membership, groceries, etc. in addition to what I was already paying on my own for my car payment, gas, tolls, etc.). My dad stopped giving me any sort of financial help before the spring semester ended, and aside from the mortgage, he hasn't helped my mom with any of the household expenses (i.e. utilities) like he was doing at the beginning of the separation.
Also, my gf is nearing the end of her second year of two-year college program. So, naturally, she wants to transfer out to a university. While she has kept where I am currently attending in mind, it isn't her preference. Based on her current program, she thinks she should be shooting a little bit higher Her top choice is the U, if they give her a full scholarship. And from her rigorous honors college curriculum own experience, even with good grades, UM is stingy with financial aid and scholarships. So, she does have other schools in mind, including the other FL schools, as well as schools in the DC, and NC areas being good possibilities. She is probably the most stable person in my life right now. Given the uncertainty in my life, it would suck to have her be so far away. Originally, the plan was that I technically should be graduating in the spring with my BA while she gets her AA and I start working on grad schools (I already have 120 credits done now) and she considers applying to those grad schools under grad programs to finish her BA. But, of course, things worked out differently with advisers and such and the soonest I can graduate in Fall 2016. If possible I don't want the long distance aspect of the relationship to be too long if I can help it.
Part of my motivation for wanting to graduate early is so that I wouldn't be alone for such a long period of time. I know it's stupid. Relationships come and go. I have two really good friends who went through long distance relationships now. While they love their gfs and learned how to deal with it, that first year of their gfs being away was very tough for them. And given my current situation with my parents, I don't believe I can be as mentally strong as my friends.
At this point, I don't have control over my gfs transfer. I will continue to help her write her essays and make the best decision that she can make for herself.
What I am wondering is on my end-- should I go forward with graduating in Fall of 2016? Will 18 credits kill me (I have a pretty good GPA, so I don't want to hurt that too much). Or, if I do summer classes, would it be worth it to pay out of pocket since most of my scholarships don't cover summer? My supervisor is telling me that I should scale back to 12 credits and do the same next semester so that I can graduate in Spring 2017 finishing 12 or so credits. Because, as it stands, if I did the normal 15 spring, no summer, 15 fall that I have been doing, that would leave 6 credits (two classes) left to do in the spring of 2017. And my scholarships only cover a minimum of 12.
Given everything and how school should be my main priority, should I go on with the internship even though I don't like it that much and try to find an opportunity that doesn't require as much hours/has more flexibility with my schedule? Thankfully, I am not in dire need of the money because of my scholarships and what I have saved up. Plus, because of everything that happened with my dad, I actually qualify for the pell grant right now lol. So that is a little bit more financial stability for me that I did not have before.
It's a lot to think about before the add/drop deadline expires this coming Monday. You guys always come through with your life experiences lol. I am trying to figure out what would the best thing for me to do right now is. I can definitely tell you that I can't see myself working at that customer service job much longer. I don't like it, and it is unnecessarily complicating my school schedule and taking up time that I normally would have to study and other things. My mom would like me to be there for her during mediation and such. I wasn't in such a need for flexibility when I originally signed up. But now it just feels like I need to take a step back and re-evaluate everything.
Any input would be awesome. I know it's a lot to read lol.