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I'm pretty desperate for some advice but I don't want to have to resort to joining some sappy break up forum, and I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this in real life at the moment.

My (now) ex girlfriend recently ended a 1 year 2 month relationship with me. I know it's not too long but it was my very first relationship and we were so damn happy... up until the end of course. I also found out she's interested in a new guy. At first I thought I could bottle up all of my feelings but I've finally come to the realization that I'm depressed as hell. I can't find enjoyment in anything right now (I didn't even feel like watching the Heat/Lakers game yesterday). All I feel like doing is moping around in bed thinking about her.

How the hell do I get out of this funk? I'm literally sick of feeling like this. How do you guys get over your break ups?

It happens bro... it's part of life, they are plenty of women out there that would gladly be willing to be with you, just be the best you can be. However knowing that she was interested in someone else goes to show that you guys weren't compatible for the long run! So better sooner then later to get it done. Also please do not go finding another relationship as soon as possible because it will make it worse. Just do you... pretty much it and enjoy life and do things that you love to do. I personally love hitting the weights for my stress or any troubles that am dealing with.

Everyone starts somewhere! This is your first experience now use this to better yourself. We got your back!

The feeling will sting am sure, but it will go away a lot faster if you put your mind to it. I almost guarantee you the second time around you will be a lot more stronger in a relationship and will hold yourself better.

It is part of life! Only time will make you feel better. This experience will only make you stronger.

I highly suggest you to spend time with friends and family for the first couple of weeks and DO NOT CALL or TEXT her at ALL, and i really mean it. The more strings there are the hardest it gets.

Go to the Beach, Gym, ride a bike. Don't be at home by yourself, that's your worst enemy.

Best advice just do you.

Do things for yourself go out with your friends be with family do not take in all the emotions and try to fight them you have to keep yourself occupied on things you like to do, as said above, do NOT TEXT or CALL her it will make things worse. If it was meant to be she would come back to you. Do not chase her around.

Good luck dude

Just takes time man.

Do things to keep your mind off her.

I went through a breakup last summer, and I literally would just hit the gym up, and re-watch the Finals to keep my mind occupied. (also hit up the local bar with friends)

Man life is too short to Keep thinking about someone that you used to know. Keep your head up and stay active. Plenty of fish in the sea.

For god sakes, Get out of the house...

Just like what everyone else just said. Do things you normally would have done. If she broke up with you to just be with another guy. Then that's her loss, whatever you do. Don't talk about it to anyone else you know. Those words could spread like a disease. How old are you if I may ask?

Also, that feeling isn't going to fade away. There's no hiding it but it'll make you wiser as long as you're walking on the right foot steps.

HEAT111 wrote:How old are you if I may ask?

20

Thanks for the responses everyone they really do mean a lot... It's just so hard trying to come to grips with the fact that someone I cared about so much won't be around anymore. I know it's cliche but we did literally everything together at our university... We went to class together, we ate together, we studied together, we showered together, we slept together, etc. We were as close to a married couple as you could get at my age. I regret it now cause every little thing reminds me of her. I can look at something as obscure as a pencil and it will remind me of a memory I had with my ex somehow. At first the memories were painful but now I just feel numb all over.

People really weren't lying when they said break ups were hard. God damn.

Luckily I am able to leave the house every other day for school but I can barely focus in class.

TRG wrote:

HEAT111 wrote:How old are you if I may ask?

20

Thanks for the responses everyone they really do mean a lot... It's just so hard trying to come to grips with the fact that someone I cared about so much won't be around anymore. I know it's cliche but we did literally everything together at our university... We went to class together, we ate together, we studied together, we showered together, we slept together, etc. We were as close to a married couple as you could get at my age. I regret it now cause every little thing reminds me of her. I can look at something as obscure as a pencil and it will remind me of a memory I had with my ex somehow. At first the memories were painful but now I just feel numb all over.

People really weren't lying when they said break ups were hard. God damn.

Luckily I am able to leave the house every other day for school but I can barely focus in class.

You're twenty bro, do school, get good grades, get your career prospects and think about women.

strip club is good whenever you want to get over a woman. if you live in miami i recommend tootsies.

also a lot of alcohol

I recently ended my marriage of only 5 months and was the same until I joined a dating website to meet new people. Don't mean My main target was to get a girlfriend but see who was interested and that helped my confidence so damn much and I met my GF on there and been with her for 2 months and I've never been happier..sometimes getting back out there helps with confidence and keeping your mind off the ex.

hope this helps.

BRO YOURE 20!

Come to Tampa so I can slap some sense into you! lol JP.

Man, You Are WAAAAAAAAAY too young to be like this. Focus on school, get out the house, Meet new women, Life goes on man.

Listen, if you thought you're having it rough. During high school, I was manipulated by the girl because I was too noble and we had our thing going but nothing in particular because she already had boyfriend, so she cheated on him on me and didn't want to date because she had a boyfriend but throughout the year it felt like she really wanted to be with me. When she admit she did, she actually lied. One school year older than I am, ignored me until my senior year. We were still connected as friends and I was still seduced within her manipulated ways. That was a life a lesson that I will never forget. One thing that saved, I had always have class. And fortunately, some girls matter and some don't. Now I have one that she's practically my best friend but I respect her because she has a boyfriend. Thanks to that friendship, it had mature me and made understand more about women.

I'm currently jobless, haven't started school again because economical issues. I have been at my house my entire soon to be 5 years at home while seeing my friends from high school accomplishing many things in life. As for me, can't seem to get something going...

My family is all I have at this point, I'm just 23 years old. And despite all the things we have been going through these past several years. I just hope for the best because I have been applying for jobs, can't be garaunteed of financial aid...yet.

I'm thankful that Miami Heat formed a big 3, thanks to these guys I have been trying to stay strong. I've been watching Heat games since 2009, started to watch NBA since Wade and Shaq got to ECF in 2005. At a positive note, I have learned a lot of history in basketball. Which is the most decorated sports' league in histroy.

You're 20 man.

Living life without experiencing heart breaks is not a life at all. This will build your depth of character. I welcome the heart breaks every time they come. It's one of the rawest human emotions you can experience. It makes you realize you are alive and living life.

That's what living is. It will take time to pick yourself up, but in time you will.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUiTQvT0W_0

Listen to that until you emptied your eyes of all the tears. Take time to wallow around in pain, that's inevitable. Then go out there and rebuild yourself. Go to gym, get jacked, meet new girls, bang new girls, have fun, your 20s have just started.

**** Happens. Think of it as a hurdle in your life that you HAVE to cross in order to accomplish whatever goals you have in life bro. First of all, you need to stop thinking about her and stop just laying around doing nothing, youll end up gaining like 40 lbs in like 2 days Start going out, play sports hang out wit people, start seeing girls again. you just gotta move on bro. This happens to almost every guy in the world but you cant let it affect you a lot and its evident that you've already let it affect you quite a lot, so, get yo ass outta the bed and start fresh. good luck to you bro. I bet it sucks that valentines day is coming up

seminoles1993 wrote:**** Happens. Think of it as a hurdle in your life that you HAVE to cross in order to accomplish whatever goals you have in life bro. First of all, you need to stop thinking about her and stop just laying around doing nothing, youll end up gaining like 40 lbs in like 2 days Start going out, play sports hang out wit people, start seeing girls again. you just gotta move on bro. This happens to almost every guy in the world but you cant let it affect you a lot and its evident that you've already let it affect you quite a lot, so, get yo ass outta the bed and start fresh. good luck to you bro. I bet it sucks that valentines day is coming up

Trust me I'm absolutely dreading it.

But thanks everyone I'll do my best to turn things around soon. Tomorrow I need to study for a pretty big exam on Wednesday but after that I'll start hitting the weights again for sure. Lord knows I'm far to skinny at the moment.

But overall I need to stop putting my ex on a pedestal. I need to make her regret leaving me. I don't plan on contacting her for a long while.

TRG wrote:

seminoles1993 wrote:**** Happens. Think of it as a hurdle in your life that you HAVE to cross in order to accomplish whatever goals you have in life bro. First of all, you need to stop thinking about her and stop just laying around doing nothing, youll end up gaining like 40 lbs in like 2 days Start going out, play sports hang out wit people, start seeing girls again. you just gotta move on bro. This happens to almost every guy in the world but you cant let it affect you a lot and its evident that you've already let it affect you quite a lot, so, get yo ass outta the bed and start fresh. good luck to you bro. I bet it sucks that valentines day is coming up

Trust me I'm absolutely dreading it.

But thanks everyone I'll do my best to turn things around soon. Tomorrow I need to study for a pretty big exam on Wednesday but after that I'll start hitting the weights again for sure. Lord knows I'm far to skinny at the moment.

But overall I need to stop putting my ex on a pedestal. I need to make her regret leaving me. I don't plan on contacting her for a long while.

When me and my ex ended a relationship of 5 years, I started hitting the weights hard, for the first time too and got swole as hell! My confidence sky rocketed into stardom but negative side to that is that I became a douche bag LOL a cold hearted son of a bitch to women, such as not caring as much as I use too or not showing enough love... sigh. Am kidding. But not to far off.

Btw my ex does regret ending it now.

and why the **** am I up at 4 in the morning? o_O .. Night guys.. I mean er morning.

^lol

Apparently I'm dreading Valentine's Day even more than I thought I would. The thought of her getting gifts and/or sleeping with other men makes me feel sick. Jealously is a bitch... I'm having a rough time focusing on this test tomorrow.

Maybe this Heat game tonight will cheer me up a bit.

get back out there and date another chick, move on and dont entertain any thought of going back. Look forward to meeting new people and treat you last relationship like a warm up for the girl you are really meant to be with.

TRG wrote:^lol

Apparently I'm dreading Valentine's Day even more than I thought I would. The thought of her getting gifts and/or sleeping with other men makes me feel sick. Jealously is a bitch... I'm having a rough time focusing on this test tomorrow.

Maybe this Heat game tonight will cheer me up a bit.

Don't worry about her seeing other men, it's simple to reassure yourself that regardless of whether or not she's sharing some type of physical intimacy with someone, he's essentially having your leftovers, no nicer way of putting it.

Try running, whether you prefer treadmills or outdoors, it doesn't matter, running relieves stress and makes you feel great about your body and overall health. At this point you just need to regain your stride and exude the confidence needed to bounce back.

I've been with my current gf for 9 months, longest relationship i've ever had. I'm also 20 and I've broken up with her twice, the thing you have to keep in mind with these sort of things is that happiness and relationships aren't mutually exclusive. Get out of the house and enjoy life bro.

Feel better bro, just hang in there till the playoff starts..then you'll be too excited about the Heat to worry about other stuff