Post#277 » by ciregno » Fri May 13, 2016 8:37 pm
I can only speak for myself, but from my experiences, being honest and transparent with your lover is the best way to go. Now, I for one don't date thicker girls, but have dated skinny girls who end up putting on weight with me. I'll cut straight to the chase and say, I'm very active and stay in shape myself. I try to involve them, and if they decline, so be it. But if it becomes a habitual thing and they keep avoiding it like the plague, that shows to me that they aren't likely to make the necessary adjustments for me. That's the first straw of selfishness. When this happens, I say it like it is and as blunt as possible. "Babe, hate to break it to you, but I'm worried about your weight. I fell for you initially because you're beautiful and grew to admire the human being you are. But I worry that this will affect our relationship. If you can't make the adjustments and try to improve your health, I worry about how our future will be if we were to potentially start a family. I'm sorry if you feel I'm shallow but that's the honest truth. Men are shallow, so are women, if you can't handle that, I don't think this is gonna work out."
The best girls (or men depending on your preference) are the ones that will do anything to satisfy your needs. You both are supposed to be a team here. You do things for her, and vice versa right? If it's a one way ticket, that ain't a healthy relationship to begin with. The ones that are willing to take honesty and make adjustments and sacrifices for you. If she's not willing to do that, bro, you're better off moving on. Yeah, you may love her to bits, but you won't be saying that years down the road while she continues to get fatter now are you? You're 31, there are so many women out there, and like you said, you go to the gym and there are sexy girls there. Give yourself some credit and be single again. It's not too late, it's not too difficult. But first things first, before totally giving up, talk to her about it openly. It WILL only help you both at the end of the day, and if she can't take the criticism and dedicate herself to slimming down, I think that says enough about the type of woman you're with. Do you really want that? Right, I didn't think so.
