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[Fat]

wait this was a girlfriend off an app

[Mecca]

OP- This happens on Bumble and Tinder. Mecca kind of hit this thing on the head. They got a buffet to eat from and if they dont know what they want, they keep it swiping.

Earlier this morning, I met a super bad girl on Bumble. Got her math and finessed the convo. Asked to grab a drink & didn't receive an answer. I check an hour later to see I got blocked on IG and my #. Why? I have no clue, but again, either found someone new or didn't know what she wanted. And this is today alone. It's just an example of the side-effects from having so much access to dating.

[Fat]

OP- This happens on Bumble and Tinder. Mecca kind of hit this thing on the head. They got a buffet to eat from and if they dont know what they want, they keep it swiping.

Earlier this morning, I met a super bad girl on Bumble. Got her math and finessed the convo. Asked to grab a drink & didn't receive an answer. I check an hour later to see I got blocked on IG and my #. Why? I have no clue, but again, either found someone new or didn't know what she wanted. And this is today alone. It's just an example of the side-effects from having so much access to dating.

sound like catfish

[MP4LIFE]

Where did you meet her? context helps

Bumble, which I think is a step above Tinder.

Welp, there you go. You met her on a dating app. You got your answer.

I use Bumble and Tinder. They're one in the same. The issue is what I said in my first post. Girls who have access or use dating apps are almost impossible to date because they know they have the entire menu on their plate so there's no need to settle for one.

I've dated approximately 15 different women from Tinder/Bumble this Winter alone and can tell you similar things have happened to me. She found a new guy to play with on Bumble or is having second thoughts as she doesn't know what she wants. I'm giving you that advice because it's happened to me so many times before via dating apps.

Thank you, brother. I really appreciate you talking about the struggles of meeting a good girl, whether on or off the apps.

You’re right - you think you got something going and they dead you right then and there. Then it just feels like you wasted time and money for no reason, and you feel emotionally spent. You feel fooled because you put this effort in and you genuinely liked her but she never really did and just played a role until she got tired and moved on.

I don’t blame the girl at all. That’s life. You can’t force these things. I appreciate her being up front with me and I told her that I’m my last message. I can’t blame her - which sucks, because then you’re only left blaming yourself.

[Mecca]

OP- This happens on Bumble and Tinder. Mecca kind of hit this thing on the head. They got a buffet to eat from and if they dont know what they want, they keep it swiping.

Earlier this morning, I met a super bad girl on Bumble. Got her math and finessed the convo. Asked to grab a drink & didn't receive an answer. I check an hour later to see I got blocked on IG and my #. Why? I have no clue, but again, either found someone new or didn't know what she wanted. And this is today alone. It's just an example of the side-effects from having so much access to dating.

sound like catfish

I would've had to have met them if I was a catfish.

[MP4LIFE]

It hurts because I am normally shy and reserved and it takes a while for me to open up. And when I do and I'm rejected it hurts. I just have to learn to step back a bit. I have stomach issues too (IBS) that also don't help me when I'm on dates or my confidence in general. This girl was really understanding and cool and I guess I felt more attracted because of that.

Sometimes you need to vent to non-bro friends who tell you to ‘f that girl, move on to the next’. Which is fine advice but doesn’t really solve anything either.

[Fat]

Earlier this morning, I met a super bad girl on Bumble. Got her math and finessed the convo. Asked to grab a drink & didn't receive an answer. I check an hour later to see I got blocked on IG and my #. Why? I have no clue, but again, either found someone new or didn't know what she wanted. And this is today alone. It's just an example of the side-effects from having so much access to dating.

sound like catfish

I would've had to have met them if I was a catfish.

im talking about her she blocked you after you asked to grab a drink

[HarthorneWingo]

yep.

Hey, don't knock it. It's sex with someone you love.

[HarthorneWingo]

I do prefer tough chicks who can be submissive at times. I don't like to be the leader, you're right. I want a girl who can kind of push me to do **** and just be very outgoing. I'm a little quiet and laid back so I want the opposite. This girl was that but she didn't up liking me.

For the guys with the sound advice - thanks and I appreciate it. It just sucks I can't really let my true feelings be known too soon. I also need to know how to step back and not be infatuated too quickly. i don't know how to control that urge. My natural instinct is to be no nice and loving and it hurts when that's rejected.

I hear you, bro. If you're a romantic guy and you're out there it's going to happen. Don't beat yourself up over it because, trust me, after going out with her a few months chances are you'd regret it because of the better one that is about to come your way. Springtime is around the corner. Chin up.

[Mecca]

Bumble, which I think is a step above Tinder.

Welp, there you go. You met her on a dating app. You got your answer.

I use Bumble and Tinder. They're one in the same. The issue is what I said in my first post. Girls who have access or use dating apps are almost impossible to date because they know they have the entire menu on their plate so there's no need to settle for one.

I've dated approximately 15 different women from Tinder/Bumble this Winter alone and can tell you similar things have happened to me. She found a new guy to play with on Bumble or is having second thoughts as she doesn't know what she wants. I'm giving you that advice because it's happened to me so many times before via dating apps.

Thank you, brother. I really appreciate you talking about the struggles of meeting a good girl, whether on or off the apps.

You’re right - you think you got something going and they dead you right then and there. Then it just feels like you wasted time and money for no reason, and you feel emotionally spent. You feel fooled because you put this effort in and you genuinely liked her but she never really did and just played a role until she got tired and moved on.

I don’t blame the girl at all. That’s life. You can’t force these things. I appreciate her being up front with me and I told her that I’m my last message. I can’t blame her - which sucks, because then you’re only left blaming yourself.

Word, I'm happy you made this thread because it's something that's been ticking me off for a minute. I honestly haven't heard of anyone have success from online dating and there's a reason for it. It makes them think that they have an entire smorgasbord of options at their disposal at all times so there's no reason to settle or make up your mind.

I think at the time they believe they're interested in you, but don't see it as anything other than speculation. This is especially true for girls that are 7+ out of 10, as they have a million matches and messages at all times.

I still online date, but in the Spring I'm going to change my approach. Concerts, yoga, marathons etc. as social meeting places. You know as well as myself that when you get older, you vaguely see attractive women at social events unless you're at a bar, thus these are high quality options.

[Mecca]

sound like catfish

I would've had to have met them if I was a catfish.

im talking about her she blocked you after you asked to grab a drink

LMAO where do you get these emojis? And idk bruh, I asked her on bumble if she blocked me on accident because it was so random, and she responded that "she's not interested." First time that ever happened to me, I was sick smh lol.

[Fat]

It hurts because I am normally shy and reserved and it takes a while for me to open up. And when I do and I'm rejected it hurts. I just have to learn to step back a bit. I have stomach issues too (IBS) that also don't help me when I'm on dates or my confidence in general. This girl was really understanding and cool and I guess I felt more attracted because of that.

Sometimes you need to vent to non-bro friends who tell you to ‘f that girl, move on to the next’. Which is fine advice but doesn’t really solve anything either.

just get yourself a doll these things can even develop personality traits to your liking.

Watch on YouTube

[Fat]

It hurts because I am normally shy and reserved and it takes a while for me to open up. And when I do and I'm rejected it hurts. I just have to learn to step back a bit. I have stomach issues too (IBS) that also don't help me when I'm on dates or my confidence in general. This girl was really understanding and cool and I guess I felt more attracted because of that.

Sometimes you need to vent to non-bro friends who tell you to ‘f that girl, move on to the next’. Which is fine advice but doesn’t really solve anything either.

Double post

[MP4LIFE]

It hurts because I am normally shy and reserved and it takes a while for me to open up. And when I do and I'm rejected it hurts. I just have to learn to step back a bit. I have stomach issues too (IBS) that also don't help me when I'm on dates or my confidence in general. This girl was really understanding and cool and I guess I felt more attracted because of that.

Sometimes you need to vent to non-bro friends who tell you to ‘f that girl, move on to the next’. Which is fine advice but doesn’t really solve anything either.

just get yourself a doll these things can even develop personality traits to your liking.

Watch on YouTube

Nice.

Is this what you have?

[Fat]

It hurts because I am normally shy and reserved and it takes a while for me to open up. And when I do and I'm rejected it hurts. I just have to learn to step back a bit. I have stomach issues too (IBS) that also don't help me when I'm on dates or my confidence in general. This girl was really understanding and cool and I guess I felt more attracted because of that.

Sometimes you need to vent to non-bro friends who tell you to ‘f that girl, move on to the next’. Which is fine advice but doesn’t really solve anything either.

just get yourself a doll these things can even develop personality traits to your liking.

Watch on YouTube

Nice.

Is this what you have?

no but it looks dope

[whocares1]

I don't understand how it de-escalated from "2nd date sex" to "Don't view you romantically". Something has to have changed her mind.

I think I noticed it when she started to have some political talk with me via text. When I said I wasn’t a feminist in the ‘2018 definition’ and that I wouldnt be out in some SJW rallies (even though I’m liberal leaning, I really don’t care that much about politics in general) she started to say she couldn’t date someone who didn’t share her beliefs. She apologized later for ‘being mean’ but I think that could’ve been it. This was on Thursday. I started seeing her texting differently on Friday.

She also went out last night to some gala with her friends. Could’ve met someone new there.

Also we pretty much had sex the first date too so it wasn’t that.

I wasn't implying that the sex was the issue but that better explains it. Women are in fact picky(especially on dating sites) just thought it was weird she was willing to go all the way(twice) and then quickly change course.

[MP4LIFE]

Welp, there you go. You met her on a dating app. You got your answer.

I use Bumble and Tinder. They're one in the same. The issue is what I said in my first post. Girls who have access or use dating apps are almost impossible to date because they know they have the entire menu on their plate so there's no need to settle for one.

I've dated approximately 15 different women from Tinder/Bumble this Winter alone and can tell you similar things have happened to me. She found a new guy to play with on Bumble or is having second thoughts as she doesn't know what she wants. I'm giving you that advice because it's happened to me so many times before via dating apps.

Thank you, brother. I really appreciate you talking about the struggles of meeting a good girl, whether on or off the apps.

You’re right - you think you got something going and they dead you right then and there. Then it just feels like you wasted time and money for no reason, and you feel emotionally spent. You feel fooled because you put this effort in and you genuinely liked her but she never really did and just played a role until she got tired and moved on.

I don’t blame the girl at all. That’s life. You can’t force these things. I appreciate her being up front with me and I told her that I’m my last message. I can’t blame her - which sucks, because then you’re only left blaming yourself.

Word, I'm happy you made this thread because it's something that's been ticking me off for a minute. I honestly haven't heard of anyone have success from online dating and there's a reason for it. It makes them think that they have an entire smorgasbord of options at their disposal at all times so there's no reason to settle or make up your mind.

I think at the time they believe they're interested in you, but don't see it as anything other than speculation. This is especially true for girls that are 7+ out of 10, as they have a million matches and messages at all times.

I still online date, but in the Spring I'm going to change my approach. Concerts, yoga, marathons etc. as social meeting places. You know as well as myself that when you get older, you vaguely see attractive women at social events unless you're at a bar, thus these are high quality options.

See, now, I wouldn’t use apps if I wasn’t so bad at going up to a girl and talking to her. Unless someone introduces me I’m just not great at going up and taking that step and not giving a **** if I get rejected. It’s a confidence issue. Apps like Bumble allow you to break the ice and be friendly so things aren’t as awkward when you first meet.

[NY2TheBay]

OP- This happens on Bumble and Tinder. Mecca kind of hit this thing on the head. They got a buffet to eat from and if they dont know what they want, they keep it swiping.

Earlier this morning, I met a super bad girl on Bumble. Got her math and finessed the convo. Asked to grab a drink & didn't receive an answer. I check an hour later to see I got blocked on IG and my #. Why? I have no clue, but again, either found someone new or didn't know what she wanted. And this is today alone. It's just an example of the side-effects from having so much access to dating.

I was actually going to post something earlier about an experience I had.

Matched with a Miss California beauty queen. I didnt even know she was until we got somewhat deep into convo. Then she says, check out my IG to know a little more about me. So I peep it, she has like 20k followers and is a damn beauty queen. Thought nothing of it other than maybe her brains matches her beauty, and I wanted to find out. Gave her my #, she texts me goodnight etc. Next day hit her up, ghosted. I was like nah, youre weird. I sent her one text and was like just let me know if Im wasting my time, got nothing back. Deleted her # and took note.

[NyKnicks1714]

Is it tooth pain? I would remove the pits next time.

[Mecca]

Is it tooth pain? I would remove the pits next time.

Wtf you’re alive?