[Official NYK Board Community Thread] NSFW (Part 3)

[thehandler3]

Don't do anything. Keep your mouth shut and stay friends.

Damn bro, Really? Not a great response for a guy who's notoriously gun-shy when asking girls out. But thanks for your honesty and objectivity. What did you read that makes you feel it's not worth it?

The past couple dudes that are in the same damn situation. You dudes need to learn that friend to lover shyt is rare and happens mostly in movies. Girls are notorious liars and flip floppers. Think about it like this: If you thought you'd be friends first and build a strong friendship overtime what makes you think she's just going to want to change that with a relationship? It doesn't make any sense. If you liked her from morning you should've eluded to that and if she was dumb enough to think you wanted to talk to her and get digits to be friends then that is a huge issue. I have no prob with the Friend Zone because I prefer having a good set of female friends. Most of my female friends are hot and I know my boundaries with them and never fall in love with them. Of course I'd pipe but I'm not gonna pine over them.

I hear you Tribe. I wouldn't consider our friendship "strong" but I understand your premise and generally agree. With this girl, like I said she seems to be freaked out by guys coming up to her and immediately trying bag so I don't think telling her from the start would have worked at all (I told the story about my friend). With her, I think I needed to build some type of relationship beforehand if I want anyshot of getting her to go out with me. In General I feel the "Friend Zone" girls create is moronic and the reason why they always fall for douchebags and say "there are no nice guys out there." If your only going to go out with guys who don't have the patience to create a friendship with you for them to see what kind of guy he really is, how do they expect to have a healthy relationship?

[thehandler3]

Any other thoughts on me predicament?

[atribecalledrch]

Yea man I hear u and if u HAVE to tell her Id just come on lightly. Don't pour your heart out. Just gesture and start flirting.

[thehandler3]

Yea man I hear u and if u HAVE to tell her Id just come on lightly. Don't pour your heart out. Just gesture and start flirting.

Yeah if I do decide to make a move that's my plan. The pouring your heart out non-sense never seems to work and knowing this girl absolutely wouldn't work. I wouldn't even say I am "in love" with her like some of the previous guys in this thread seemed to be but I do take a liking to this girl would like to take her out to a movie or something. She seems to be one of those girls that's just had bad luck with guys and is waiting for that one normal, cool guy to take her off her feet. Again I appreciate your objective viewpoint.

[ComboGuardCity]

You best ask her out fast. Trust me. Do it now. Like right now. Call her up and tell her how you feel. I've waited too long once and it took me forever to get over it.

[NBA Fan 1234]

Does 2010 actually have any legit connections or is he just saying things that he read somewhere?

[ComboGuardCity]

Does 2010 actually have any legit connections or is he just saying things that he read somewhere?

Personally I think he's full of it.

[ComboGuardCity]

nevermind

[HarthorneWingo]

Some funny shyt on this show. Eddie Murphy was given a lifetime achievement award which was more like an "It's ok for you to come out now" award. Eddie still looked uncomfortable and kept it short.

Coming up? .... "a surprise appearance from the star of Two and A Half Men." That's what the dude said.

[KnickelandDime]

My advice to asking out a girl who you've been friends with is don't put it all on the line. Put yourself in the situation where it's ambiguous as to whether you are trying to get romantic or if you're just trying to spend time with her as friends. If there's a formal, ask to go with her and let her interpret as she wants. Go 60% and see if she meets you with the last 40%. If you think she picks up on the hints and still doesn't respond, then accept the rejection and continue on as friends. If you don't think she picks up on them at all, then maybe you have to be obtuse and just tell her.

[Mecca]

My advice to asking out a girl who you've been friends with is don't put it all on the line. Put yourself in the situation where it's ambiguous as to whether you are trying to get romantic or if you're just trying to spend time with her as friends. If there's a formal, ask to go with her and let her interpret as she wants. Go 60% and see if she meets you with the last 40%. If you think she picks up on the hints and still doesn't respond, then accept the rejection and continue on as friends. If you don't think she picks up on them at all, then maybe you have to be obtuse and just tell her.

Yup. It's exactly what I did. I invited this girl to a party, and in order to invite her, I knew I had to make it nonchalant, so:

I asked her if she's close friends with this girl that my boy has been with before, and previously gone out with, and she said yea, so then I told her '"Can you give this to her, and tell her it's from my boy.'' She says sure, and then I said, ''Oh yea, here's one for you too, you should come, you'd love it.'' She's going away, but still, I'm happy with the way I did it.

However, she saw my boy on the train that day, and said ''This girl gave me this invite, and said it's from you.'' My boy said ''Um no, I didn't tell anyone to invite you.'' (Even though he did, just nervous) So, right now I'm currently screwed, as tomorrow is the 1st day I see them since then.

[HarthorneWingo]

Oh man, Bill Murray just gave The Johnny Carson Award to David Letterman. Ouch, Jay Leno.

[can o peas]

So I'm watching a re-run of SNL on VH1....my goodness I forgot how smok'n hot Britney was!

--Mags

hey whatever happened to spandau anyway?

Does 2010 actually have any legit connections or is he just saying things that he read somewhere?

Papadukes! He's always been pretty accurate as far as I know, going back to his previous usernames as well.

[atribecalledrch]

My advice to asking out a girl who you've been friends with is don't put it all on the line. Put yourself in the situation where it's ambiguous as to whether you are trying to get romantic or if you're just trying to spend time with her as friends. If there's a formal, ask to go with her and let her interpret as she wants. Go 60% and see if she meets you with the last 40%. If you think she picks up on the hints and still doesn't respond, then accept the rejection and continue on as friends. If you don't think she picks up on them at all, then maybe you have to be obtuse and just tell her.

Yup. It's exactly what I did. I invited this girl to a party, and in order to invite her, I knew I had to make it nonchalant, so:

I asked her if she's close friends with this girl that my boy has been with before, and previously gone out with, and she said yea, so then I told her '"Can you give this to her, and tell her it's from my boy.'' She says sure, and then I said, ''Oh yea, here's one for you too, you should come, you'd love it.'' She's going away, but still, I'm happy with the way I did it.

However, she saw my boy on the train that day, and said ''This girl gave me this invite, and said it's from you.'' My boy said ''Um no, I didn't tell anyone to invite you.'' (Even though he did, just nervous) So, right now I'm currently screwed, as tomorrow is the 1st day I see them since then.

You thought this was gonna work?

[ComboGuardCity]

**** the friend zone. Stay safe and go for her friends or take the gamble and go for her and lose it all.

[Mecca]

My advice to asking out a girl who you've been friends with is don't put it all on the line. Put yourself in the situation where it's ambiguous as to whether you are trying to get romantic or if you're just trying to spend time with her as friends. If there's a formal, ask to go with her and let her interpret as she wants. Go 60% and see if she meets you with the last 40%. If you think she picks up on the hints and still doesn't respond, then accept the rejection and continue on as friends. If you don't think she picks up on them at all, then maybe you have to be obtuse and just tell her.

Yup. It's exactly what I did. I invited this girl to a party, and in order to invite her, I knew I had to make it nonchalant, so:

I asked her if she's close friends with this girl that my boy has been with before, and previously gone out with, and she said yea, so then I told her '"Can you give this to her, and tell her it's from my boy.'' She says sure, and then I said, ''Oh yea, here's one for you too, you should come, you'd love it.'' She's going away, but still, I'm happy with the way I did it.

However, she saw my boy on the train that day, and said ''This girl gave me this invite, and said it's from you.'' My boy said ''Um no, I didn't tell anyone to invite you.'' (Even though he did, just nervous) So, right now I'm currently screwed, as tomorrow is the 1st day I see them since then.

You thought this was gonna work?

My boy wanted me to give this girl the invite for hum, because he didn't want to see her himself, due to a recent fight, so yea, I did.

[thehandler3]

My advice to asking out a girl who you've been friends with is don't put it all on the line. Put yourself in the situation where it's ambiguous as to whether you are trying to get romantic or if you're just trying to spend time with her as friends. If there's a formal, ask to go with her and let her interpret as she wants. Go 60% and see if she meets you with the last 40%. If you think she picks up on the hints and still doesn't respond, then accept the rejection and continue on as friends. If you don't think she picks up on them at all, then maybe you have to be obtuse and just tell her.

Yeah, I think the "non-chalant" approach will likely worst best for me in this situation. I figured this was the way to go but needed to hear from others not attached to the situation

[thehandler3]

You best ask her out fast. Trust me. Do it now. Like right now. Call her up and tell her how you feel. I've waited too long once and it took me forever to get over it.

lol slowdown cowboy. Your right I've waited too long in times before and got burned but asking her out like right now out of nowhere is too spontaneous for this girl (like I said I rarely even flirt with her so that would be a enormous leap of faith). I definitely feel like the clock is ticking and I'll have to make a decision soon (hence why I turned to you guys), but now's not the time. Especially when tonight we just talked about taking possible classes together for next semester.

[can o peas]

Some funny shyt on this show. Eddie Murphy was given a lifetime achievement award which was more like an "It's ok for you to come out now" award. Eddie still looked uncomfortable and kept it short.

Coming up? .... "a surprise appearance from the star of Two and A Half Men." That's what the dude said.

It was Jon Cryer aka Duckie. Kind of a letdown but at least he had Pharoahe Monch performing for him for some reason.

[atribecalledrch]

Do you genius' realize that you put yourselves in the friendzone by initially befriending them? All you lovey-dovey puppy love I wanna relationship dudes make me sick.