MrProb wrote:DievsZingis wrote:AmazingJason wrote:
You're welcome, it's my pleasure
And thank you all for the And1's, very much appreciated Sometimes, all you can do is laugh at the drama.
Yeah man....I think that's the best cure sometimes, it's why I appreciate it...cheers
As for these flip flopping reports...man, you come back and it's a different story each time...brain hurts. I can't believe I was naive to think that what the media reports has some legs, because they care about their credibility right? Yeah, right.....should've known better before attacking somebody's character or defend them for that matter, feel so stupid right now. Knickstape and a couple of others were right...wait for the man to speak, then come to your conclusions.
Dumb, sad, terrible *Trump voice*
That's why I said I wish people are more careful about what they judge/think about other's situation, this is not about Melo here, this is just about anytime rumors of famous people came up.
Have you ever read a book called "The Selfish Gene" by Richard Dawkins ? great book, he talked about human is not monogamy in their nature, it's something developed as a culture, before I heard about this I was always wonder about the same thing, "is human supposed to be monogamous or not? is it actually something against our nature?"
Now I'm not supporting cheating or anything, I was thought and wired to think that it's not acceptable and not good to do to someone you love but I've tried to understand people that are in open relationship or ppl that share their lovers and I try to understand that there's nothing wrong with that if that's what make them happy and it's acceptable on both sides even though it's against my moral/concious (because we're taught not to and it's ingrained, wired into our brains)
The King of many countries have hundreds, thousands of wives/women, people still bow to them, honored them, being all smile and happy when they see them, my question is why wouldn't they be judged by the society the same as other human ? this is even worse because many of women were forced against their will.
I know an Asian girl, 9/10, sexy, beautiful, smart, successful, young and can just get about any man in her life, she married a much older white guy because that's her type, she's what people called "hot wife", she sleeps around but both are very happy.
Now most people would called her a slut, hoe etc. but I don't, she don't sleep with guys for money nor just because the look, she finds people of all colors attractive, appearance doesn't matter much to her, she likes the nerdy, shy type guy, sometimes just to help them be more confident and I respected that, she has pretty much 0 ego, a sexy, beautiful, very open-minded woman who doesn't judge people based on their look/appearances ? nor how rich/succesful you are ? you can't find that kind of women too easy.
I find her really interesting, some kind of a case study for me personally, part of me is jealous of her because I wish I wouldn't judge ppl based on their appearances, personally, I have low self-esteem, I always date beautiful woman my whole life and sometimes I hate myself for that, luckily I also care a lot about personality so I never run into anything bad.
Anyway, sorry for the long post, I just want people to be a bit more open mind about things and try to look at both sides of the coin before you judge anyone(but TBH and TBF, most people do, I do too sometimes but being more careful about it would be better!)
Na man, no need to be sorry, thanks for taking the time to make this post, and thanks for the book suggestion, I'll definitely check it out, love Dawkins. I've read a lot of different material on the subject too, and have seen his and others lectures on the subject...and I believe them too, but here is why I changed my tune.....
I was such a disgusting human being in my younger days, I got satisfaction out of sleeping with one woman and going and sleeping with another the same night, no shower, no nothing, knowing that she doesn't know what she's tasting... I put my hands behind my head and laid back and relaxed, said to myself...this is natural, this is what animals, men do...it's science, mannn...and justified it. But still, these women didn't ask me for a commitment, didn't make me feel I was worth more than just a dick with a body laying there...so I didn't care. I always used that as a defense, a man going around looking to spread his genes and a woman looking for the best genes in that man to reproduce is natural, it's why they are selective and most men are not. Monogamy and marriage is mostly a religious and societal concept...so I didn't do it.
If Lala and Carmelo were in an open relationship, then she has nothing to be mad about, why is there a problem? Because they're married. Marriage is just one more of the many other laws and rules we have made as humans so society can work, so a family dynamic of support and trust can work, and it can work...but only if you really take the responsibility that you have of taking care of what's yours, having pride in that, and being committed. If you can't then DON'T GO THAT ROUTE....it's that easy, but we feel the pressure of religion, family and others and sign on the dotted line. If this couple we are talking about want to believe in being open, then they shouldn't have been married. If you are going to take the road to a certain responsibility, then they should know what it entails, but they didn't do that, and that's why they're judged. Nobody had a problem with Jeter using women like the concubines of those Kings you speak of. You see, there shouldn't even be such a thing as an open marriage....it's contradictory. Just go **** whoever you want if that's the case...what is the point I ask? It leads to this problem Mr. Anthony is having.
I was with my wife for many years before we got married. Made sure I didn't come home smelling like another woman's vagina in those years. Because of my wife, I started having more self respect for myself. It's weird to say that as a man, because mostly women are the ones who are held to that standard....."HAVE A LITTLE SELF RESPECT...STOP SLEEPING AROUND YOU SLUT!"....but it's true, it's why men get played, because of their thirst. When I come across a woman now, who sees my ring and still flirts and wants to do something, I just compare her to the dignity and class my wife carries herself with, and it has become a turnoff, like this is what I'm worth to you, an ejaculation? I'm worth a LOT more than that to this other woman I know...and that makes me feel appreciated, loved, and like my time, energy and effort are worth something. I feel that because I'm married to her, because she's not just another girl on the night's hit list. Yeah, it goes against nature, but that's human nature.