NY2k1 wrote: mpharris36 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:I’m taking my friend to a family members wedding as a guest.The weddings two and a half hours away so we’re gonna be staying at a hotel after the wedding in the same bed as well.
People are telling me it’s an aggressive move and implies more then friendship..do you think it does?
We’re friends but I’m not gonna act like the thought of being with her hasn’t crossed my mind I’m just not 100% sure.
Do you think it’s sending strong signals doing this and beyond a platonic friendship?
well that pretty much sums up it is not a platonic friendship
when will people realize that single woman and men can't be friends
Single women and men can be friends. It's just in this case, the OP clearly sees her as more than that.
I guess personal experience has told me other wise. It's in our DNA to be attracted to women as heterosexual males. Especially if you single.
A couple examples why I believe this to be true.
1. your in a relationship/married whatever. You are getting off work and you call your wife/GF and tell her its been a long week and you are getting drinks after work with friends from work. Do you think she will react the same way if those friends names are James and Chris or if those names are Jessica and Sheri?
2. your single its friday your most likely going to be hanging out with your boys (watching and game drinking or doing something). Or you are trying to get it in. How many single heterosexual males are going to say im just going to go out with a drink with my girl thats just a friend? I mean is that a common occurrence?
3. Also when we think of friends (guys I mean). Those are life long friends whether its buddies from childhood/high school/college/work. Those guys most likely will always be a part of your life. Usually when you start dating a girl the first group of people that usually get dropped from your life is "friends from the opposite sex"...why because why would you want to put extra strain on a relationship if the other person may or may not be threatened by the relationship you have with another single friends for the opposite sex.
Its just the way of the world my man. Can it happen? Sure, in rare instances successful opposite sex relationships happen but most of the time it creates extra stress on a relationship or if your both single and enjoy hanging out with each other someone will eventually catch feelings...its just in our DNA.