Capn'O wrote:EricAnderson wrote:Capn'O wrote:I just saw one of my closest female friends solo in NYC this past week. While I was doing that, my wife was meeting up with a close male friend from grad school. Neither of us questioned any portion other than how the logistics would work (NYC is kinda difficult to work with as a now out of towner). We know the other will be trustworthy in those interactions.
With my friend - Maybe if the cards had been dealt differently something might have happened at some point but she was with one of my closest friends in HS and into college and I got to know her well enough to figure out we wouldn't be a good romantic match anyway. Still - if I'm in a pinch or need to wrap my head around a tough situation, she's my go to. That's worth so much more than a **** and duck. Neither of us would ever let that happen and my wife doesn't need to ask.
It can't happen with all female friends and "friends." You need to figure out who can be what. But nor does it with all male friends. Only a few pass the gauntlet into a longer term connection.
I hear you but you’re also married..which helps lol
Thing is these days it’s harder and harder to meet people especially at my age where most of my friends are married with kids.
My friend I’m physically and emotionally attracted to..we always have an awesome time together and seem to have great chemistry
It’s natural to catch feelings in that case.
This was more to others posting that it's not possible to be friends than to your situation where the relationship status still seems fluid. My wife was fine with this woman when we were dating (but not with some others - she knows what's what.)
I do agree with others that advise you to be clear with her about the arrangement (that there's currently only one bed in the room and would she be ok with that) and let any conversation flow from there. A text stating just that should be fine.
I’m not sure what the arrangement is with the beds yet..it depends on availability