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sorry to all the women who roam these boards but...

WHY do you think my GF always asks me "what did you and her/he talk about, what did yall do?" but when i ask that casually, She says "Why are you worrying so much?" BUT she does the same exact thing??

Possessive.....

My girl and I usually ask each other what we did, but neither of us give the type of response your lady does.

You know when you cheat, you suspect your partner of cheating much more as well . So, maybe she's doing things you wouldn't necessarily be happy with and she feels you're doing them too; thus the questioning.

tell her to chill out or leave her

The thing with some women is that they C(an't) U(nderstand) N(ormal) T(hinking).

It's annoying, has she been cheated on before or left for another woman before? If so, tell her this is why, then promptly pack your Otis Smith underwear, your JJ Redick "100 ways to sit on the bench" book and bid her a good day.

Mainly because she's possessive, that or YOU cheated on someone before. With a woman ..or ..man ..

DFlight wrote:Mainly because she's possessive, that or YOU cheated on someone before. With a woman ..or ..man ..

Didn't think about that. As far as I see it, one (or more) of the following are true:

1. She's either been cheated on, or hurt by a secretive man in the past.
>In this case, assure her you wouldn't do that.

2. She's done the above.
>In this case, dump her now after one final booty call (you always regret not getting that one last booty call if you don't).

3. You've done the above (and she knows).
>In this case, you're on your own.

She either got cheated on in the past or she has cheated herself.

some girls are more inclined to worry like that, its just part of their personality. The best thing to do is to talk to her and let her know that your relationship is built on trust and tell her that you trust that she wont cheat on you and she should do the same for the relationship to work. You two have busy lives and life is too short to worry about things like that.

thanks for the help guys, im just gonna chill out.

Also, she has a 44 yr old MALE as a best friend & they have slept together in the past.

So this is fun

sp1187 wrote:thanks for the help guys, im just gonna chill out.

Also, she has a 44 yr old MALE as a best friend & they have slept together in the past.

So this is fun

That means nothing when we don't know how old she is. A 43 y/o woman having a 44 y/o male as a best friend isn't weird, a 23 y/o woman is...

Personally, I wouldn't let my girl have a best friend that she's slept with. Simply because that guy almost undoubtedly wants back in.

thats not good, keep an eye out on that dude and ur g/f

redux is right

If none of the other theory's work. Simply head for the hills running and screaming acting like you've gone crazy. This usually works for me.

N4U|Redux wrote:Possessive.....

My girl and I usually ask each other what we did, but neither of us give the type of response your lady does.

You know when you cheat, you suspect your partner of cheating much more as well . So, maybe she's doing things you wouldn't necessarily be happy with and she feels you're doing them too; thus the questioning.

I didnt actually read this post but I would trust whatever he said. Hes had alot of experience with this type of thing.

shes 20 going to be 21 in a few weeks. sometimes it feels she likes my friends & family more than me.

i dunno maybe im overstressing.

BUT thanks for the advice i appreciate it

MoGrAdY wrote:

N4U|Redux wrote:Possessive.....

My girl and I usually ask each other what we did, but neither of us give the type of response your lady does.

You know when you cheat, you suspect your partner of cheating much more as well . So, maybe she's doing things you wouldn't necessarily be happy with and she feels you're doing them too; thus the questioning.

I didnt actually read this post but I would trust whatever he said. Hes had alot of experience with this type of thing.

LMFAO!, ah memories...

sp1187 wrote:shes 20 going to be 21 in a few weeks. sometimes it feels she likes my friends & family more than me.

i dunno maybe im overstressing.

BUT thanks for the advice i appreciate it

Dude, she's 20 and slept with a guy over 40? That should be a good first warning sign.

I don't know, but from what you've told us, if you're banking on this being a great longterm relationship, I wouldn't.

Come'on pimpin....seriously...best friends?..Shes 20 RIGHT NOW and hes FOURTY THREE?...Do the math, they slept together "in the past" but she barely over 18? That means it was recent (max two years ago), Unless hes was doing her at 40+ cruising around high school parking lots.

My 2 best friends (both women) and i had been together in the past but that was like once 10 years ago on both cases, hell one of em were not even 100% sure if we did or didnt, anyways we dont even look at eachother like that...your senerio and lady has a whole nother box of issues, you might not even wanna get caught opening.

Problem is this. Your a man which makes you stupid. Shes a woman, which makes her (Please Use More Appropriate Word)...You can send a stupid person to college, there isnt a damn thing you can do to fix (Please Use More Appropriate Word). Point blank.

N4U|Redux wrote:

MoGrAdY wrote:

N4U|Redux wrote:Possessive.....

My girl and I usually ask each other what we did, but neither of us give the type of response your lady does.

You know when you cheat, you suspect your partner of cheating much more as well . So, maybe she's doing things you wouldn't necessarily be happy with and she feels you're doing them too; thus the questioning.

I didnt actually read this post but I would trust whatever he said. Hes had alot of experience with this type of thing.

LMFAO!, ah memories...

Them were the good ole days corn bread.

Paranoia... women that are like that usually imo have been hurt before and are totally afraid of being hurt again. It creates possessiveness and that really will ultimately hurt or end a relationship. Dealt with that in the past and you'd be better off getting away from that. Once and a while is not a bad thing, but a constant line of questions every time you talk to someone just isn't a good sign that she trusts you.

Lol, ironic..... Cheat on You by Mase just came up on my playlist......"All women flirrt, all women cheat..." Maybe that's ur answer...