OT: Death, love and my wierd life.

[mybloodisorange]

Ok let me start with a quick backstory since im in an unusual situation.

About 5 years ago my parents started having health related issues; my mom had some complications after valve replacement surgery leaving her basically confined to a lift chair and with many physical problems. My father was phyically very fit but he had dimentia which was getting worse also. So I ended up moving in about 3 years ago to take care of them full time. My eldest sister Angel then died of breast cancer and my brother Bob ended up being diabled after going into a diabetic coma (he has many health problems now as well). The last Christmas my remaining sister Chris committed suicide which was completely shocking since there was no note and she had 2 kids in their early 20s (my nephews). Theres alot more but thats enough backstory onto the wierd!

Fast forward to 2 months ago my father was really starting to drive me crazy as his dimentia was getting alot worse (there was a pile of paperwork waist high when I moved in and he was 4 years behind on his taxes). Then a routine colonscopy revealed that he had colon cancer about 6 weeks ago so we had the surgery scheduled. Due to his dimentia it got really hard post op (he ended up being restained) and he ended up getting pnuemonia and fever among other problems. Sadly the cancer still was in his lymph nodes and he also couldnt swallow anymore so they said he could never eat or drink again so at that point my mom decided to move him to hospice. For those who dont know hospice is about dying in comfort; hospitals are very uncomfortable and sterile.

So last Monday night my mom needed some pills for something so I ran up to the Frys on 43rd and Bell like usual. So im grabbing her pills and I notice a really old scraggly dude (like 80) talking and laughing with a really sexy hot younger girl. I wasnt stalking they were right behind me in the isle just for the record lol. But anyway they were laughing about something and I turned to see why and our then our eyes locked onto each others like lazers. Turns out the old guy was just some random guy she didnt know and 2 minutes later im giving her my digits. Keep in mind I havent really put any effort in dating for awhile (due to my family situation) so I wasnt looking for anything.

So Tuesday night I talk to her and it turns out she is actually pretty cool. Turns out she was one of those girls who got married really young to the wrong guy so now she is 30, divorced and has 2 kids 10 and 11; so she is taking care of her kids in the same way I am my parents. Ok heres were it starts to get wierd. I dont know how but at this point I just didnt know or remember her name (in my defense she has a southern accent and talks fast!).

Wednesday morning she calls me at 7am and tells me to pick her up after the kids go to school at 8am. So I was like what the hell and she was pretty cute so ya. Luckily she only lives about 2 miles away so I picked her up and brought her to my house. Turns out she is amazingly sexy. I'm not quite sure how to say this but the next 5 hours were earth shattering. Yes I said 5 hours. I had bruises and bite marks & even had a bruise on my johnson for 3 days. Needless to say it was the most amazing sex of my life but I still didnt know her name. The worst part is I know she knew mine because she was screaming it all day.

So after I take her home I go home and complete pass out - I hadnt slept the night before at all. When I woke up my father had passed away. Now before crying for me keep in mind his passing wasnt sudden and his dimentia was making him almost unmanageable (I have stories lol) so it was grief tempered with relief.

I spent Thursday physically recovering and spending time with my mom so I told her about this girl I met at Frys...I even told her that I didnt know what to do because I really like this girl but I didnt know her name ala Jerry Seinfeld. So Friday night I bring her over and introduce her to my mom and without skipping a beat my mom was all "oh hello dear, what is your name?"

Her name is Carrie. Thanks mom!

I think I might be in love. It sucks.

[ATTL]

I spent Thursday physically recovering and spending time with my mom so I told her about this girl I met at Frys...I even told her that I didnt know what to do because I really like this girl but I didnt know her name ala Jerry Seinfeld. So Friday night I bring her over and introduce her to my mom and without skipping a beat my mom was all "oh hello dear, what is your name?"

I was expecting her name to be Mulva. Your mom is a great wing man.

I'm happy you found an earth shattering chick, man.

[RunDogGun]

Bummer about your dad. I understand about dealing with dementia. I think we talked about this in the community thread.

Congrats on the marathon sex, though. Is she a Suns fan atleast?

[mybloodisorange]

Not sure on the sports fan thing yet, all I know so far is she is alot like me is certain ways. Neither of us drink or smoke cigs but we both smoke weed. She REALLY loves music like I do and she even plays guitar. Not to rub it in but she came over today for 2 hours earlier at like 9am today and I just got out of the shower....new bruises.


I need help.

It's just that the one time it was the absolute furthest thing from my mind love just completely fell right into my lap. Neither of us has stopped smiling in a week.

[RunDogGun]

Yep, when your not looking for it, you find it. I had put girls on the back burner for a while before I met my wife. Imet her at a club, and tried to hook her up with one of my friends. We kept catching each other's eyes at that same club for about a month, and then I asked her out (11/8/98) We've been together ever since. Have one kid, and one on the way. I hope it works out the same for you sir.

I play drums, and at the time I met my wife, I just didn't really care for casual dating, but still wanted girls to come to my band's shows. If I thought a girl had a chance to be the one, I asked her out on a second date, but hadn't slept with anyone for a year before my wife. Because of this, girls were attracted more (I guess because I didn't seem to care), and my wife thought I was a player, because all these chicks were around. When I was younger, I was always chasing them, then when I didn't seem to care, they started chasing me. It's all about timing.

What guitar does she play? I just bought another one the other day, not that I needed another one. But it looked pretty cool, and had some good reviews.

[mybloodisorange]

Cool man do you guys live in phx too? I dont know what she plays to be honest I havent known her that long; give me a break man I just learned the girls name.

I love music but unfortunately the only thing I play is the plastic rockband guitar but I am decent if that counts. And yes I played for her demonstrating my mad skills while she laughed at me - it was awesome.

[RunDogGun]

We used to live in PHX, for just another month we live in SoCal, and right now I am in Minny, trying to find a place to live for the next two yrs.

[EB2]

Great story. I'm glad you found happiness in your life, because it seems you've had to deal with a lot of hardships in your life, but it doesn't show on here because you are one of the more up-beat posters on here. I hope your relationship with her works out.

[bwgood77]

Cool man do you guys live in phx too? I dont know what she plays to be honest I havent known her that long; give me a break man I just learned the girls name.

I love music but unfortunately the only thing I play is the plastic rockband guitar but I am decent if that counts. And yes I played for her demonstrating my mad skills while she laughed at me - it was awesome.

Wow, crazy story....cool though.....I used to live in Phx right near there and actually used to work at a movie theater on 43rd and Bell.

[bwgood77]

We used to live in PHX, for just another month we live in SoCal, and right now I am in Minny, trying to find a place to live for the next two yrs.

Wow, from LA to Minny.....I moved from Phx to Minny about 10 years ago, and lived in St Louis Park for about a year. Embrace yourself for that weather. The snow turns into ice and doesn't melt until like April.

[RunDogGun]

We used to live in PHX, for just another month we live in SoCal, and right now I am in Minny, trying to find a place to live for the next two yrs.

Wow, from LA to Minny.....I moved from Phx to Minny about 10 years ago, and lived in St Louis Park for about a year. Embrace yourself for that weather. The snow turns into ice and doesn't melt until like April.

Yep, I figured it will be rough. We are here right now to search. I think I will be fine, but my wife really doesn't do well with the cold. The real hard part will be renting out our house and dealing with the taxes and everything else.

[bwgood77]

We used to live in PHX, for just another month we live in SoCal, and right now I am in Minny, trying to find a place to live for the next two yrs.

Wow, from LA to Minny.....I moved from Phx to Minny about 10 years ago, and lived in St Louis Park for about a year. Embrace yourself for that weather. The snow turns into ice and doesn't melt until like April.

Yep, I figured it will be rough. We are here right now to search. I think I will be fine, but my wife really doesn't do well with the cold. The real hard part will be renting out our house and dealing with the taxes and everything else.

Stock up on gloves, scarves and something to keep the ears warm (beanies or something) because I was kind of ill equipped and just about froze my fingers and ears off a couple of times.....also ice scraper for car. I do remember once I went from my apartment to a TWolves game though and never set foot outside...there are tunnels between buildings, parking garage, heated parking underground at apt complexes, etc, so sometimes you can avoid the outside entirely.

[bwgood77]

Sorry..computer froze...triple post

[bwgood77]

Sorry..computer froze...triple post

[Kerrsed]

A++ Story!

[mybloodisorange]

Rundog my moms family was from Minnesota so I deeply apologize. Horrible freezing wet winters and humid miserable mosquito ruled summers. Coming from Arizona I had no idea mosquitos could be so large, hostile and overpopulated-I made the mistake of going outside without "Off" once. ONCE. Seriously 4 large ones can carry off a small child its recoculatory.

Leave immediately regardless of the consequences.

[mybloodisorange]

Ok just when I thought the craziness was over boy was I wrong.


So I went over to her house today for the first time. When she said she loved music and played guitar she wasnt kidding. Nice place with guitars on the walls - really nice ones like flying V etc. Also I could see where she builds her custom guitars...plans drawn out various stages etc with an almost finished guitar next to them.

So come to find out her mom dumped her and was on heroin when she was young so her grandmother raised her. Then she shows me a gift bag from some music award show (im talking really nice stuff not cheap) and starts telling me how her mom always sends her these trying to make up for what she did blah blah... She said her mom and aunt are producers in the music industry. Then she shows me a picture on the web of her mom who happens to have the hyphenated last name of something + Santana. I was a bit in shock as she was talking but if I heard her right I think Carlos Santana is her uncle...

Then she told me about how her exhusband had won the lottery or something so both her kids have trust funds set up. Oh but not wierd enough? He got hooked on crack and started to get crazy stalking her and culminating in him attacking her with a blade and he sliced her up pretty bad-she needed like 60 stitches near her eye and she almost lost it. Fortunately hes in prison now in Florida. Even with a couple scars she is still amazingly beautiful, in fact before she told me and pointed them out I hadnt even noticed really.

Just when I thout it couldnt get any wierder.

[mybloodisorange]

She just brought her kids over to meet my mom. Im so screwed.

[Kyler Murray]

She just brought her kids over to meet my mom. Im so screwed.

Good luck buddy!

[mybloodisorange]

Ok just an update on the deathtoll to those who know my situation.

As you remember my sister Chris committed suicide last December leaving 2 boys 22 and 24, Ryan and Tyler. So on Thanksgiving day about 2:30 Ryan shows up unexpectedly (he told us he wasnt coming) looking really freaked out. He had just come from his apartment where he had found his older brother Tyler dead. Ryan had recently rented a house in Scottsdale but couldnt break the lease on his old apt so I guess he let Tyler stay there.

The worst part is we knew Tyler was strung out and in trouble (esp after his mom died) but he wouldnt return our calls because when he was in between places he stayed here 6 months ago for a month then he left after borrowing some money that he wasnt going to pay back. To make matters worse his father is a high ranking fireman (not sure if hes a capt but he makes well over 100k) who is also an alcoholic drug addicted douchebag who was enabling Tyler the whole time. And the woman his dad cheated on my sister with who he later married after divorcing my sister? - of course she went to my highschool and was the same graduating class as me...

I think I might need to write a book about my life.