Official Random Thoughts Thread - Part 3

[closg00]

Wow! Antoine Walker on losing $110 million
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/former-nb ... 44672.html

[Rafael122]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

[pineappleheadindc]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's just terrible.

You're a great guy. You are a wonderful uncle to that little niece of yours and a loyal, kind, and dedicated BF to your girl. And you're a real pro in your real life.

All of these traits are the legacy of your pops, alive within you. And for his excellence in how he raised you, those in your life continue to benefit.

Here's sending you thoughts and prayers of peace and comfort. Hang in there. And if you need anything.....you know you have lotsa folks who respect the hell out of your and would do anything to help you.

Hang in there.

[Rafael122]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's just terrible.

You're a great guy. You are a wonderful uncle to that little niece of yours and a loyal, kind, and dedicated BF to your girl. And you're a real pro in your real life.

All of these traits are the legacy of your pops, alive within you. And for his excellence in how he raised you, those in your life continue to benefit.

Here's sending you thoughts and prayers of peace and comfort. Hang in there. And if you need anything.....you know you have lotsa folks who respect the hell out of your and would do anything to help you.

Hang in there.

Appreciate it brother!

[montestewart]

My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it.

I lost my mother a few years back, and my wife lost her father this year. We were both close to both of them (I used to watch every Wizards game with my father-in-law). I don't think we'll ever get over it. We just try to honor their memories and learn to live with the loss.

I know that's not easy, and I'm sorry for your loss.

[Chocolate City Jordanaire]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

Rafael, my Dad died Monday, six days ago. His funeral was Friday.

He was my best friend and my hero.

If when you cry it hurts all through your body, you are not alone.

If it seems surreal, like you cannot quite process what you are going through and at the same time snap out of it to match the busy-ness of others who may or may not give a rip; relax.

People deal with their own stuff and even the most compassionate can only say "Sorry for your loss". They may engage a couple minutes. Those of faith may pray for you.

I had unexpected strangers ask if I wanted a hug.

I broke down and cried a few times already.

One lady who I apologized to told me not to be ashamed. Men cry.

If you are feeling guilt, anger, sadness, what ever. ...identify the feeling and accept it.

-- Be compassionate with yourself.

PM me if you want.

I wondered about if my dad was saved. My step mom had the funeral really fast, before I could come IF I could have made it. I went through a rough few days....

God and the prayers and support of a host of people just amazingly happened. I got affirmative answers.

Raf, you are NOT alone.


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[montestewart]

CCJ, sorry to you as well. You're right, you and Raf are not alone.

A hug from a stranger.

[closg00]

Shout-out CCJ, sorry for your loss.

[doclinkin]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

There's not really words that fix or even help much but maybe it helps that total strangers empathize and wish you well. I've been through parts of that, though my dad was gone before I was three. I guess that's the part that you'll appreciate more after 6 months or whatever than the sadness: the fact that if you do reach out, okay not with a phone call or a hug but with your spirit, maybe you get the sense of him still being there, that you had him for a long while and he helped make you everything you are. It's not that it gets better, ok the sadness fades a little, but at least you do also get that warm grin when you see things that your dad would laugh about, and hell sometimes if in your head, or by yourself, if you talk to him as if he were there I suspect you'll know what he'd say back, as if you could hear him. He's not here, like he was, but he's still there. Hard to express, but its true.

[Induveca]

My father died some years ago, it's a very difficult thing. The surreal feeling you speak of, I know well. It passes eventually. Nothing makes you feel more mortal and reflective than the passing of a parent.

Sorry for your loss.

[Rafael122]

A roller coaster of emotions the last month or so. My dad passed away a month ago yesterday and I guess you can say I haven't really gotten over it. Like I didn't expect to get over it any time soon, but it's like I've been on a cloud and I haven't really been able to process the fact that he died until now. I broke down in front of my girlfriend while we were going to church this morning, there are times that I would wake up 3-4 times in the night b/c I keep thinking about him. Sometimes when I do think about him during the day, I feel like I get an anxiety, heart starts racing etc. I just feel lost and confused, I miss the **** out of my pops, I can't just pick up the phone and call him and start talking about baseball or wrestling...it's definitely changed me, it's definitely made me more reflective on life. It's just a really weird feeling, I'm taking it a day at a time but I wish that I could fast forward my life 6 months from now and hope and pray that it doesn't hurt as much as it does now.

Rafael, my Dad died Monday, six days ago. His funeral was Friday.

He was my best friend and my hero.

If when you cry it hurts all through your body, you are not alone.

If it seems surreal, like you cannot quite process what you are going through and at the same time snap out of it to match the busy-ness of others who may or may not give a rip; relax.

People deal with their own stuff and even the most compassionate can only say "Sorry for your loss". They may engage a couple minutes. Those of faith may pray for you.

I had unexpected strangers ask if I wanted a hug.

I broke down and cried a few times already.

One lady who I apologized to told me not to be ashamed. Men cry.

If you are feeling guilt, anger, sadness, what ever. ...identify the feeling and accept it.

-- Be compassionate with yourself.

PM me if you want.

I wondered about if my dad was saved. My step mom had the funeral really fast, before I could come IF I could have made it. I went through a rough few days....

God and the prayers and support of a host of people just amazingly happened. I got affirmative answers.

Raf, you are NOT alone.


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So sorry for your loss bro. It's incredibly hard because this is my first death experience. I haven't had any friends pass away or family members that I can remember, so to have it be my dad is shocking and I sit here and still can't believe he's gone. I always had this idea that my parents are going to always be here, but I felt like reality just punched me in the face. It's just a weird feeling man, the whole idea that someone is here one day and gone the next...it's mind blowing. I wish there was a book on how to properly grieve b/c I've been all over the place, anger, sadness, bitterness, etc.

[doclinkin]

I wish there was a book on how to properly grieve b/c I've been all over the place, anger, sadness, bitterness, etc.

Raf. Grieving support groups can help. Greif counseling. Its definitely worth it if you feel overwhelmed and out of touch. Helps to touch base with other people working on the same deal.

http://groups.psychologytoday.com/rms/p ... DC&spec=14
http://www.griefshare.org/

[Chocolate City Jordanaire]

My mom went that way, 12 years ago. Unexpectedly.

Raf, you're still going miss your dad years from now.

Here's a thought I had that gives me some reassurance:

When you have a book or DVD that's from the library, eventually it's got to go back where it came from. It was always on loan. We're all on loan. The only difference is it really is just like you said. Here one minute and gone the next. We go back to the one that allowed us to exist in the first place, but not on our terms.

Raf, the older you get the more death you're going to live to see...

I remember a kid who committed suicide when we were in the 10th grade. I remember another kid who didn't make it past 17 due to drugs. Another who was driving and wrecked the family car, killing his mother, when he was in HS. My college roommate's mom died our freshman year. Another kid OD'd in the dorm. ... Recently, I got kinda shook up when a Sergeant Major, who had kids around the same age as mine, died in Iraq. I kept thinking he picks his kids up the same time as I do, and now they don't have a dad. One of his kids was autistic, too. It was hard for me to fathom they had a great dad who positively influenced so many people, only to die under some murky circumstances while his kids are so young. In all these deaths, others live on ...

Raf, I have no point to make. Death happens.

My hope is you'll find peace in your grief. A guy at the beach told me his dad died two years ago, but he's still all around us in nature. I found the idea of my dad's spirit living on comforting. My dad isn't suffering declining health. My mom is in a better place, too. I am HAPPY for them.

We just have to press on.

If they were loving and supportive, we should try and LIVE the way they would want us to.

I mourn because I loved and they loved me in the first place. That's a fortunate circumstance.

[Nivek]

Probably interesting only to a stat goober like myself, but...

b-r is posting individual stats per 100 possessions, which is great. There's one issue with their methodology, however -- they're using the team's overall pace, not the team's pace with Player X on the floor. They have the on-court pace data, so they should be able to post the more accurate numbers. I have it the right way in my spreadsheet.

The difference can be fairly significant. The Wizards as a team are playing at a pace of 94.1 possessions per 48 minutes. When Wall's on the floor, it's 96.4 possessions per 48; with Andre Miller, it's 85.8. Same team, but a difference of 10+ possessions per 48 minutes. So, b-r has Miller scoring 17.5 points per 100 possessions, when it's actually 18.7.

[dobrojim]

So sorry for both CCJ and Raf to hear of each of your losses. Losing parents is really hard.
Losing anyone close to you is hard but parents are obviously very high on that
spectrum. My parents have been dead for 9 (mom) and 24 years (dad). The
weirdest thing for my was just the inability to be able to ask them a simple
question. That knowledge is gone. This may be of little comfort but at
the risk of seeming unsympathetic or uncaring, I'll say that burying your
parents is and ought to be the natural way of things. Parents burying their
children is the worst and most unnatrural thing one could be forced to endure.

On much happier note, I am so happy for and proud of my younger daughter
who received notice on Saturday that she was accepted to Hollins Univ which
is also where her sister who is also her best friend, attends. Having both kids
attend the same school will simplify their parents lives logistically for the next
3-4 years. After failing to make the varsity team as a senior, if Jacqui had had
to subsequently endure not being accepted to the one college she really wanted
to go to, that would have been very difficult for her.

[Higga]

I go up to New York every year for Christmas. My cousin just texted me earlier that he's scoring us tickets to the Wiz-Knicks game on Christmas Day. Can't wait to invade MSG and watch the Wiz put another whooping on the Knickerbockers.

[dobrojim]

The person who doesn’t read is no better off than the person who can’t read.
I'd say that applies to proofreading as well.

[Ruzious]

I go up to New York every year for Christmas. My cousin just texted me earlier that he's scoring us tickets to the Wiz-Knicks game on Christmas Day. Can't wait to invade MSG and watch the Wiz put another whooping on the Knickerbockers.

I am so not minding Phil Jackson experiencing losing as GM/God of the Knicks and proving he's not a miracle worker.

[Wes_Tiny_Abe_]

So I just heard the yups in DC had a big problem with water over at the Metro Center station earlier this morning.
I can definitely identify with seeing lots and lots of water on my way to work in the morning.
The only difference is I am surrounded by people wearing boardshorts carrying surfboards under their arms.

[pineappleheadindc]

.
Between now and the end of the season, the New York Knicks are scheduled for 5 national ESPN games and one ABC game of the week. The Knicks are tied in the loss column with the Philadelphia 76ers who are trying to lose. (New York isn't tanking -- you don't sign Melo at $22M per year so you can tank. The Knicks just suck).

By contrast.

-- East leader Toronto has 2 ESPN games during the rest of the year.
-- Second place in East Washington has 7 more ESPN games (sorry Raptors fans).
-- Third place in East Atlanta has 2 more ESPN games this season.

I guess I'm saying that when you're 5-22, you deserve zero national television games. Maybe Toronto and Atlanta have earned more exposure.