W. Unseld wrote:AlohaWiz wrote:A. How long have you been married? And do you have kids? Need a little perspective and I'll do my best with suggestions

-5 years plus, with a 3 and a 1/2 year old and a 9 month old.
Guys, thanks for all of the help thus far. I have solved the i-pod/cd player problem but I probably spent too much but I'm quite happy with a pioneer radio installation at best buy for $200 including installation.
Still working on the wife idea and whoever suggested Anthropology every girl in my office agrees with you.
Netbook question: I've got a work laptop so this would be my internet at home laptop, is it any good for games, will it run word or is it purely for surfing?
The reason I asked is that I'm married (about 4 years) and have 2 boys (3 and 1 y/o), so I know how the duration of the marriage and kids can affect things.

So to answer your question, what you should give your wife is the ability to feel like an adult again, even if only for a short while, by giving her time away from the kids. And, personally, I think Miller was on to some excellent ideas (spa, B&B, etc.)
Last year for Christmas, a few months after our second boy was born, I gave my wife a gift certificate at a local spa for a full massage treatment, plus the extras (facial, etc.) Now, I agree that giving a gift card or certificate to your wife/girlfriend is generally a big no-no, but in a situation like this it works. Especially, if you do like I did and call your wife's best friend to ask where the best spa in town is (plus, I didn't know a thing about spas & massages, so I needed the help). Not only does your wife get a wonderful day away from the kids (whom she loves, but bless her heart, she needs the time away from) but all her friends then know what a wonderful husband you are. That's a gift that keeps on giving.
Another thought is to plan a special, romantic evening for you and your wife (or the B&B idea Miller had). Get away from the kids for a little while and reconnect. Again, feeling like adults without your kids around is a priceless feeling.
I was previously unaware of Antrhopology as a source for gifts, but fully intend to check it out (thanks Zerocious). However, I would suggest going to the store (wheher online or stand alone) to pick out a gift that you think your wife would appreciate. Because, again, gift cards are generally not a good gift idea for the significant other. Plus, if she doesn't like what you get, then she can take it back. And what woman doesn't enjoy shopping?
