My son: advice please

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Re: My son: advice please 

Post#21 » by Nbabrothers » Tue Mar 30, 2021 5:46 pm

Update: We switched schools and as a sophomore he started for the Varsity team and being ranked 2nd team all league!
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Re: My son: advice please 

Post#22 » by Def Leppard » Mon Sep 6, 2021 12:49 am

High Performance coach here (not hoops). You are welcome to bring up your inquiry with the coach but, I would advise you only mention your son in the conversation and do not compare him to other players on the team in the process. Posing the question as simply, hey coach, just want to help my kid get more run, wondering if there is any message I can preech to him when we are on the courts on our own to help your system? (Something posed as helpful looking for a quick clear answer).

Lastly, it is impossible for a parent to be impartial when it comes to evaluating their athlete vs. others... I say that with respect but 99% of parents are incorrect in their assessment of their own kids abilitys in comparison to others.

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Re: My son: advice please 

Post#23 » by Def Leppard » Mon Sep 6, 2021 12:51 am

Nbabrothers wrote:Hi Realgm, I have a topic regarding basketball but it is for advice that I am seeking. My son who is 15 years old is an elite point guard who plays for his freshman high school team. He’s played for the third ranked national team of the 11U NYC Gauchos, 12U and was the starting point guard for the 13U Gauchos. He was also the starting point guard for the NJ ShoreShots 14U team.
For some weird reason, the coach has him coming off the bench as either the 6th or 7th man. His confidence has been shattered by this coach because if he makes one mistake he gets benched. He is better than three of the starters and that’s not just because I’m his father but because he truly is better.
My wife and son both don’t want me talking to the coach regarding how he is not developing my son to be successful and he’s so nervous of screwing up on the court. He’s never come off the bench before. I know this is probably not the place to be asking for help but I have run out of resources. Please advise and I thank you all in advance and apologize if I’m not supposed to post anything like this.
We were counting on him getting a scholarship from a D1 or D2 school but the chances of him getting noticed as a bench player makes it highly unlikely. He’s an elite defender, can shoot the three, likes contact in the paint and can drive and make the basket with defense on him and is an exceptional point guard and finds the right players to pass the back to in their favorite spots on the court.
Again I thank you for any advice you can share.
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Nbabrothers wrote:Hi Realgm, I have a topic regarding basketball but it is for advice that I am seeking. My son who is 15 years old is an elite point guard who plays for his freshman high school team. He’s played for the third ranked national team of the 11U NYC Gauchos, 12U and was the starting point guard for the 13U Gauchos. He was also the starting point guard for the NJ ShoreShots 14U team.
For some weird reason, the coach has him coming off the bench as either the 6th or 7th man. His confidence has been shattered by this coach because if he makes one mistake he gets benched. He is better than three of the starters and that’s not just because I’m his father but because he truly is better.
My wife and son both don’t want me talking to the coach regarding how he is not developing my son to be successful and he’s so nervous of screwing up on the court. He’s never come off the bench before. I know this is probably not the place to be asking for help but I have run out of resources. Please advise and I thank you all in advance and apologize if I’m not supposed to post anything like this.
We were counting on him getting a scholarship from a D1 or D2 school but the chances of him getting noticed as a bench player makes it highly unlikely. He’s an elite defender, can shoot the three, likes contact in the paint and can drive and make the basket with defense on him and is an exceptional point guard and finds the right players to pass the back to in their favorite spots on the court.
Again I thank you for any advice you can share.


Your son is 15. Let him continue to improve his game. Scholarships should not be a concern of you or his at this point. He's 15. You talking about scholarships this early puts pressure on him. I know that is not your intention. He's 15. Let him relax and play ball. Everything else will take care of itself.
To play devils advocate, at 15 he has to be on college radars, very short window between 15 and college admissions.

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Post#24 » by Nbabrothers » Mon Sep 6, 2021 3:18 pm

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Post#25 » by Nbabrothers » Mon Sep 6, 2021 3:20 pm

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This was supposed to be a video of my son dunking the ball. How do I post videos here? I don’t have it on YouTube and don’t want to post it there now Instagram.

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