DaGawd wrote:Isocleas2 wrote:Is it really that hard not to **** someone you work with AND that you have power over? Couple billion other fish in the sea.
not to excuse what udoka has done but easy access can be extremely tempting. that plus the fact you see these folks every day sometimes more than your own family so you naturally draw a close bond to them
Yup, I've dated co-workers and I started going out with a former boss of mine at my going away party. In the later case, the main reason I left was to pursue that relationship. It is quite normal. I'm middle aged and know multiple married couples via work.
But employers, understandably, don't want boss-employee relationships for several reasons.
1. Consensual relationships can devolve into sexual harassment if the employee knows or feels the boss will retaliate for ending the relationship.
2. The employee's co-workers may think they get special treatment for sleeping with the boss even if the employee hasn't gotten special treatment. This is bad for morale.
3. Employers get especially nervous about bosses who habitually pursue staff members. No guy's radar is 100% correct. If you constantly ask out co-workers, even if you think they are interested, you will miss sometimes and ask out someone who dislikes you but has to pretend otherwise because you are the boss.
4. Sexual harassers will often times exploit other people's consensual relationships. They'll tell their staff that a consensual relationship is really a quid pro quo and if you want to do well here we will have the same.
