The Real Dalic wrote: axeman23 wrote:
Duke4life831 wrote:Never to early to learn life lessons. You want to be good and win at something you better dedicate yourself to it. I was told much harsher things growing up from my parents when it comes to sports, so I don't really see the issue here. If he named the girl or pointed her out in the pic would be one thing.
If this was a boys team and I was on that team and Kobe said this. I know for a fact my parents would say, "he has a point, if you want to stand out and excel in something, you need to be prepared to dedicate all your time to it."
Or MAYBE she just wants to play sport and do dance with her friends? Not everyone wants to be the king/queen of the world, and that's ok...
He didn't force her to play and in my opinion didn't even shame her. He was just stating that she wasn't serious about basketball and that clearly she likes dancing better. I just don't see the problem. Man I hate the "everybody is a winner" mentality
But that's exactly what I was saying, some people like to play/participate, without a sociopathic need to win. It's not about "everyone needs to be a winner", it's about not being called out for not "being a winner" when you're 12 years old, playing club basketball. It's not like she's taking up someone's spot on a university/pro/national team, she's a 12 year old kid probably playing for a medallion and a pizza party IF they win, and good memories with her friends if they don't... My brother coaches the exact same demographic, a 12 year old girls' club team. He'll come home after games, and while we're sitting around having a drink, tell me about all the ditzy stuff they do, running around like headless chooks. He'll joke around with their parents at the game when their child does something that goes pear-shaped. What he won't do is go on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram and talk about how little Susie isn't committed to the sport, little Sally lost the game with 2 clanked free-throws, etc. It's all pictures of smiling kids having fun playing the sport they enjoy, with positive captions. Who knows what will happen with those girls? One might play for Australia/in the WNBA one day, and another might end up a couch potato. Both are fine, just enjoy the moment. I realise Kobe is competitive, so is my brother. But if winning and focus on basketball, forsaking all else is that important to him, maybe Kobe needs to be coaching older age-groups or something?