Doctor MJ wrote:What more Paul could have done? Stop being annoying. Read the people around you, particularly when you bring any sort of negativity their way, adjust your approach until you've found a way that works well with them.
And again, Paul did what you asked. HE adjusted his approach to work with Harden and the rest of the team. He was careful not to step on Harden's toes, he accepted his role, he accepted the system, he put Harden on the pedestal in the media, saying he's the guy, he's the MVP, i'm just helping him win the title.
But everything has a limit. Doesn't matter if Harden is the top dog, if you are 2nd in command, and you feel like you are pulling your end of the bargain but your needs aren't being met by your superiors, you will let them know. Sooner or later.
The media has painted CP3 as if he explodes emotionally and starts whining as soon as things don't go his way. Maybe he did try to communicate with Harden/MDA like a normal human being behind the scenes but felt like he wasn't being acknowledged. What then? This leads up to pent up anger and emotional outbursts when push comes to shove. Harden is the same, it's just that he doesn't get in your face about it, he just ignores you and does his own thing. Which may even be worse in a team setting then straight out venting the issue.
If that seems too much to ask, understand that I would advise literally everyone to aim to do this. It's not something you need a great talent at to be able to do, all you have to do is try to see things from others perspectives.
It's not as simple as just looking things from a different perspective. Working with different people who have different personalities and personal goals is one of the most difficult things in life, bar none. They have whole colleges and educational courses dedicated to this exact thing, teaching people how to work with one and other. Most NBA players have to develop these skills on their own, and the more you are put on a pedestal as a player, the less you will want to hear about it. It will be just 'my way or the highway'.
At the end of the day, it becomes about boundaries. The alpha has more leverage to do what he wants, because he holds the most power, but this doesn't mean he can't cross the line.
1) You keep talking as if Harden had an obligation to meet Paul halfway. He did not. When the older player is also the worse player and he says he wants to join the team, the better, younger, existing franchise player is the one who is judge.
Yes, he did. Not halfway necessarily, but if Harden's true intent and best interest in mind was really winning a championship at all costs, he would've sacrificed more. Simple as that. He would've accepted the difference in approach and personality in an attempt to find a work around. He did not, but expected Paul to, which again, is fine because Harden is alpha in this case, but it's a strike on Harden for me, because it shows a lack of awareness/understanding and leadership skills.
We just saw Curry, the undisputed alpha and face of a 73-win team in one of the greatest individual seasons ever, who could do basically whatever he wanted on his team, take a step back to accommodate Durant and make sure his needs are met, because he realized he needed him to secure titles. And you can say an aging CP3 isn't Durant, and that's fine, but it doesn't matter as much. Curry had no reason to limit himself individually to appease Durant, but he did so, he realized it would be the best way to reach the end goal.
Even LeBron made sure Kyrie is comfortable in playing his own way, even though Kyrie's way of playing isn't necessarily the most optimal approach at maximizing winning, LeBron realized the most important thing is that Kyrie is happy and doesn't feel disrespected. And it worked out about as well as it could considering Kyrie's rogue-like bipolar personality.
So yeah, just because you are the alpha on a team, and people are expected to sacrifice and cater to your needs most by default, that does not absolve you from the responsibility of doing the same to a lesser albeit still important degree. And to me, Harden doesn't seem to realize this. Neither does someone like Westbrook. And what makes it worse is both of these guys were heavily supported and pampered by their franchises for this behavior. And that's a big part of why they are in the positions they are. When top talent does play with them, it creates problems. We've seen this multiple times now.
2) We have a sense for how the conflicts started here. Paul is a constant chatterer and Harden is a guy who tends to go silent when he's bothered - until he explodes. It would be one thing if Harden were the one we saw as initiating the conversations that turned negative, but it's just generally known that it was Paul who did this, and has been doing this for a long time. It's one thing not to know how to respond when an alpha starts a negative conversation with you, but it's quite another thing when you're starting conversations with the alpha that he doesn't like. Frankly had it been the other way around, I bet Harden doesn't demand Paul gone.
Just because Paul is more direct/vocal in expressing his discontent doesn't automatically mean he's the source of the problem. Paul had a choice of put up or shut up. And this option only bodes well for so long, especially when shut up means you literally (as a star player nonetheless, not some scrub) can't even express your displeasure and it starts to emotionally effect you on the inside routinely, and then it leaks on-court as well and potentially effects the whole team atmosphere.
It's the age old question on how to deal with the passive-aggressive guy in the room. This becomes even a bigger problem when the passive-aggressive guy has a lot of power like Harden does. Obviously, Harden has no reason to 'initiate' any conversation because he doesn't need to, he's already doing what he wants, win or lose. Communication isn't possible when one side doesn't feel the need to communicate, you are just talking to a wall at that point. CP3 felt like something needed to be said, and as 2nd in command, former alpha himself, a leader, senior player and one of the best players of all-time, it was always going to be either him or nobody else who was going to say it, because Gerald Green sure as hell wasn't going to say anything to Harden. He felt like he needed to take that step to steer things into a different direction, he did it and, as expected, he was met with resistance and that was the end of that chapter in his story. And it's okay. I don't see this as a ''PAUL IS IMPOSSIBLE TO PLAY WITH AND CANCEROUS'' sign, i see it as two parties having different views on how to move forward that can't coexist, so the right move was made to trade Paul. Being traded away from a contender doesn't automatically mean we assume the worst.