OT-Boston Community Thread

[London2Boston]

This was an epic read. Errm..I'll give you guys a quick lowdown on myself(I'm a pretty boring guy anyway).

21. Born and raised Londoner(no I don't like tea or crumpets or have bad teeth lol). Obviously a huge Celtics fan aswell as a Man United fan. 2008 was pretty easily the best year ever as a result of this. I should hopefully have my Honours degree in Economics this summer. Genuinely have no clue where my life goes after that.

I got into the Celtics around 2006 when my uncle from Detroit bought me NBA live and I decided to play it. At the time I knew big name nba players and legends like Bird,MJ and Magic etc, but I didn't really have a team or as big an interest in it as football(soccer) due to the fact I found it difficult to connect to a team. My dad told me to pick Celtics even though they were pretty sucky in the game and started telling me how great the 80s team was so I went for them in the game and decided to follow them properly. Due to the game Pierce pretty much became my guy as I awaited the 06-07 season. Let's forget all about that year though lol. That season was pretty sucky to follow, but I stuck with it and then I felt like I had cheated abit when KG/Ray joined and the team became contenders again when other fans had been waiting years for that to happen. My love for them has grown more and more since. I've never been Boston, but now I've finished Uni and have nothing to do I intend on going later this year for like a Month and hopefully catching a couple games and soaking in the great city. It sucks I can't really enjoy being a Celtics fan in person with others as anyone who does follow the nba here is usually just a Heat bandwagon or Lakers/Bulls. I love watching Manchester United at Old Trafford(and even more following them away) so I desperately need to witness a TD Garden atmosphere. One day man..

[Captain_Caveman]

What are everyone's summer plans? Other than maybe moving at the end of August (staying in Philly just trying to find a nicer place) I'm pretty much swamped in work for the next few months (work at Randomhouse, about to start work on several short story collections).

Its a bit frustrating that I won't get to go back to Boston much this summer, will probably end up going back 2 or 3 times max (one of those for the Liverpool/Roma game at Fenway). I had also planned to visit my Ex in Egypt where she is curently living but it looks like work is going to prevent that as well.

My mother works in Maine, Irie, this winter sounded COLD from what she said but she's much more north than you are. Despite having lived in the North East my while life I haven't hit up Portland much. Gonna be there for a wedding in November maybe we could grab a brew/burn one.

Im basically just gonna work, drink and go to the beach. Lol

Well, probably doing a week up in NorCal too.

[irie]

What are everyone's summer plans? Other than maybe moving at the end of August (staying in Philly just trying to find a nicer place) I'm pretty much swamped in work for the next few months (work at Randomhouse, about to start work on several short story collections).

Its a bit frustrating that I won't get to go back to Boston much this summer, will probably end up going back 2 or 3 times max (one of those for the Liverpool/Roma game at Fenway). I had also planned to visit my Ex in Egypt where she is curently living but it looks like work is going to prevent that as well.

My mother works in Maine, Irie, this winter sounded COLD from what she said but she's much more north than you are. Despite having lived in the North East my while life I haven't hit up Portland much. Gonna be there for a wedding in November maybe we could grab a brew/burn one.

I'm down

[irie]

So what's everyone doing for draft night?

[Celtics_Champs]

So what's everyone doing for draft night?

Checking my phone vigorously during work.

I woulda held a draft party had I been off. This seems like a big one

Yourself?

[bendyone]

So what's everyone doing for draft night?

Checking my phone vigorously during work.

I woulda held a draft party had I been off. This seems like a big one

Yourself?

I'll be at work..... dif time zone and all. So, I'll be trying to look busy and checking the web sites til at least pick 17

[SMTBSI]

Greetings RealGM Celtics board.


Long, long, looooong time lurker here. Was active back on the Boston.com forums well before the Big Three era (same username), but my account was nuked in one of the early site updates, wiping out my 4,000 posts, and the staff could not have had less interest in helping me recover it, so I sort of ragequit, and have been forum-homeless ever since.

I have been reading RealGM pretty much daily since shortly thereafter, so I'm in that odd situation where I feel like a creeper who knows you all really super well and you don't know me. This board has been my go-to for rumors for years, before any news site or anyone's twitter. Maybe for no other reason than because it has that homey feeling. Anyway.

I'm from New England originally. Never lived in Boston city limits technically, but also never lived anywhere else for more than a few years, so I don't really know how to say where I'm 'from'. All told I've lived in 11 cities in six states... and now I'm living out west. So... I don't really have a hometown. I just tell everyone out here I'm 'from Boston', until I run into that occasional person who is actually FROM Boston and asks me 'oh yeah, whereabouts?', and then I have to explain more thoroughly.

My biggest forum pet peeve is fans of the same team getting at each other. To me, it's like Thanksgiving, with all of your crazy cousins / in-laws / senile grand-relatives; some of them you may not always agree with or be the most fond of, but if a gunman came blazing into the middle of your celebration, you're still going to war to protect them. I feel that there are more than enough foes from other teams out there waiting to troll us / try to get us down, that there's no sense in manufacturing any more. Argue: yes. Rage: what for?

Historically, I've been more sports-forum-active in down years. This is because it's just way too stressful for me when we're good - a regular season loss depresses me, a post-season loss throws me completely off-balance, and a post-season-series loss upends me for a month. When we're bad, on the other hand, I don't stress about it - just watch and root for the kids, entertain myself constructing convoluted trade ideas, get excited about every rumor, etc.

Anyway, I always write too much. I'm a fast enough typist to write out huge walls of text like this in a couple of minutes, before I realize what I've even done. So, you'll have to excuse me that in advance; I'll try to keep it under control, but won't always succeed.

[irie]

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Welcome!

Anyone in the area, I'll be giving a speech at Harvard on July 24th on immigration in the USA in terms of being legal. I'll be presented as Prof. Finley. I'll be in the area for a couple days before as well. So if any Realgmers wants to meet up I am open

Quickly, personally, I am banned from citizenship in the US despite being only a semester away from being a doctor (Phd - not medical doctor) due to familial connections and earning all my degrees in the US. Basically they let me in to learn and teach ... but to become a citizen? Nope.

I think you see where my speech is going. If you don't want to hear a personal account of an individual who can't get into the US despite being almost a doctor... look. You have to understand why people immigrate illegally. You can't even get in legally.

[SeizeCoup]

Historically, I've been more sports-forum-active in down years. This is because it's just way too stressful for me when we're good - a regular season loss depresses me, a post-season loss throws me completely off-balance, and a post-season-series loss upends me for a month. When we're bad, on the other hand, I don't stress about it - just watch and root for the kids, entertain myself constructing convoluted trade ideas, get excited about every rumor, etc.

Me too. Plus, forums attract all sorts of lames when a team is really good. No fair weather fans around here!

[truth18]

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Welcome!

Anyone in the area, I'll be giving a speech at Harvard on July 24th on immigration in the USA in terms of being legal. I'll be presented as Prof. Finley. I'll be in the area for a couple days before as well. So if any Realgmers wants to meet up I am open

Quickly, personally, I am banned from citizenship in the US despite being only a semester away from being a doctor (Phd - not medical doctor) due to familial connections and earning all my degrees in the US. Basically they let me in to learn and teach ... but to become a citizen? Nope.

I think you see where my speech is going. If you don't want to hear a personal account of an individual who can't get into the US despite being almost a doctor... look. You have to understand why people immigrate illegally. You can't even get in legally.

Word, man, I'm from Cambridge and will be home around that time to see the Liverpool/Roma game at fenway. We should definitely meet up.

Is anyone else going to the Liverpool/Roma game?

[DijonRondo]

I **** hate my life and wish someone would just kill me. That is all.

[truth18]

I **** hate my life and wish someone would just kill me. That is all.

I'm sorry, man. Hope things improve soon

[DijonRondo]

I **** hate my life and wish someone would just kill me. That is all.

I'm sorry, man. Hope things improve soon

Thanks man. <3

[DijonRondo]

This is totally not the right place to talk about this, but since really nothing is happening in the NBA, I guess I might as well.

I'm 17 years old, and I recently recovered from a break up with another girl after she chose one of my friends over me. I was heart broken and it took me a year and a half to recover from a 2 year old relationship in which a girl took my virginity. Life was just starting to look bright again with the help of my best friend, whose been there every step of the way to console me and cheer me up. Well, I fell in love with her, sh** happens.

I didn't know how she felt, and I didn't have the balls to jeopardize the only relationship by asking her out. So I steadily uped the ante of our relationship, blurring the boundaries between from friendship to something more. We did everything a couple would do, just without calling each other boy or girl in front of the friend.

After a day of arguing about some petty ****, she agreed to meet up with me to talk it over. We were able to hash things up, and I walked her home. My instincts took over, and I pecked her on the cheek. I didn't know why I did it, but sh** happens.

Due to this, she finally approached me about what my intentions are, and I came clean. I confessed my love, fully expecting a rejection. Indeed, she did reject me with the patented "school comes first" and "I'm not ready" bull that every guy faces when they get rejected.

Yet, even though she rejected me, she left it open to the possibility of dating after high school, without explicitly saying it. Although I confronted her about it, demanding an answer, she wouldn't give me a legitimate answer.

Furthermore, my love for her did not wane at all. I felt the need to be there for her regardless of the rejection, almost as if I felt it was my duty to be there for her and not cheat her out of a close friend. In addition, I desired to keep her as a friend. We did everything together, talking on the phone, texting, skype chats, going home together after school, etc. Leaving her alone to make myself look independent and attractive seems out of the question.

It's summer, and we made a bunch of plans to hang out together and complete this scavenger hunt together throughout the city, and she tells me that it has to be put on hold because she needs time.

I'm naturally an introvert, so my group of friends, albeit close, has always been small. Losing my best friend, temporarily or indefinitely, has created this deep sense of loneliness. It isn't the concept of getting rejected that hurts me, I fully expected that, it's the combination of being in this awkward as **** situation as well as the loss of a vital part of my life.

I have no idea what to do with my life. I want to pursue a relationship with her, but that's going to be a year from now. I want to support her and be there for her, but she's simultaneously pushing me away and keeping me on the proverbial leash, albeit subconsciously.

So the question is: what do I do now, and what can I do to take my mind off of her while she cools off and reassesses the situation?

She has already stated that she wants our friendship to remain what it was pre-confession (minus the holding of hands and corny **** like that).

[KGboss]

At 17, I'm just going to tell you that life is bigger than high school and there are plenty of girls out there that are 10x anyone you have seen at school so far.If you go to college, when you go to college, even just life in general in your 20's things get so much better and high school doesnt matter.

I will share with you this though. After I graduated college and before me and my current wife started dating, me and my best friend at the time, a girl who i was close with all through high school tried to do the girlfriend/boyfriend thing. Albeit we were 22 and not 17 at the time, but we went to concerts together, went to parties together, tried it out. I cared for her a lot, but we both realized that the awkwardness of it wasn't worth it. She has a great guy in her life now and I met a girl I had no history with and was able to grow a whole new exciting thing with her - now we are married and I have a daughter on the way come October.

I still think about my friend from time to time, but I realize after time has past that life is better without that between us.

I guess my advice is to not get hung up on this whole thing if it isn't there. I know you miss her as your friend, but your young and youve got plenty of life to live. And this type of pain does not last long. It hurts, but it passes, and there are tons of females out there. Nothing wrong with being young and dumb and sewing your oats for a while.

[DijonRondo]

At 17, I'm just going to tell you that life is bigger than high school and there are plenty of girls out there that are 10x anyone you have seen at school so far.If you go to college, when you go to college, even just life in general in your 20's things get so much better and high school doesnt matter.

I will share with you this though. After I graduated college and before me and my current wife started dating, me and my best friend at the time, a girl who i was close with all through high school tried to do the girlfriend/boyfriend thing. Albeit we were 22 and not 17 at the time, but we went to concerts together, went to parties together, tried it out. I cared for her a lot, but we both realized that the awkwardness of it wasn't worth it. She has a great guy in her life now and I met a girl I had no history with and was able to grow a whole new exciting thing with her - now we are married and I have a daughter on the way come October.

I still think about my friend from time to time, but I realize after time has past that life is better without that between us.

I guess my advice is to not get hung up on this whole thing if it isn't there. I know you miss her as your friend, but your young and youve got plenty of life to live. And this type of pain does not last long. It hurts, but it passes, and there are tons of females out there. Nothing wrong with being young and dumb and sewing your oats for a while.

Thanks for not being an **** about it. The people over at the Knicks board just roasted me.

[KGboss]

Well thats your first problem. IDK why youd post anything on the Knicks board anyway.

[DijonRondo]

Cause they have way more traffic and I'd probably get 1 good response out of 10. Oh well. Maybe some of you guys will stumble across this and give me some more advice.

[cl2117]

I guess my advice is to not get hung up on this whole thing if it isn't there. I know you miss her as your friend, but your young and youve got plenty of life to live. And this type of pain does not last long. It hurts, but it passes, and there are tons of females out there. Nothing wrong with being young and dumb and sewing your oats for a while.

This.

Go out live you life. Obsessing over this isn't going to make you any happier.

You sound a bit clingy to be honest. Give the girl some space. Go get yourself a summer job, make some friends, enjoy your summer. If you and this girl are ever going to be a thing, she is going to be the one to make that decision and you hovering over her ain't going to help your case.

Everything seems like life or death at 17, but it's not. Go have some fun. It'll put things in perspective and honestly you'll seem more appealing if you aren't so clingy.

[London2Boston]

I'm going to tell you what I tell my brother your age when he has **** like this. All of the things that seem so huge now will end up meaning nothing once you finish school. People can tell you that from experience. I was in a similar position to you where I got friend zoned in high school hard and I would see her go from **** boyfriend to boyfriend and it sucked. Fast forward to now when I'm 21 and she still texts me now and then to keep contact, but there really is no attachment from me towards her like that. Hell..half the time I genuinely reply the next day. I've moved on and so will you once high school is over. It's a big world out there bro.

Trust me.