O.T.- Is it aggressive to take a women friend as a guest to a wedding?

2010 · Post #161 » by **2010** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 11:08 am

There are many reasons a girl may be interested in you and take you to the strip club for your b-day:

* She genuinely isn't the jealous type or the type to be trippin' and just wants you to have a good time on your born day

* She likes girls and could possibly be open to a Steph Curry

* She wants the strip club to be the appetizer that sets the mood while she is the main course afterwards

* She might be the type who is like "one of the guys" meaning she may not be pursuing a relationship with you, but is down for a friends w/ benefits situation and nothing more

* Lastly, maybe she just wanna see how you operate around women in a sexually charged environment. Checking your confidence levels. Since you not picking up on her hints she could think you need a mental Viagra and maybe in her eyes the strip club will do the trick

But to me, this is no indicator of lack of interest. If anything, I see it as a confirmation of interest on some level.

EricAnderson · Post #162 » by **EricAnderson** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 1:45 pm

Are We Ther Yet wrote:Yo! Who mans is dis? Why would she want to take you to a strip club? She's either freaky...testing you in some twisted female logic....or trying to get you laid/handjob whatever so you don't push up on her. Other than those 3 reasons...maybe you're in the friend zone hardcore.

Would need more background on the relationship and just in general what kind of chick she is.

YEah part of me thinks her wanting to take me to a stripclub is almost a friend zoning lol it’s like she’s saying pay attention to these other women not me..

But if she’s truly was friendzoning me and trying to show she has no interest taking me to a stripclub then spending the night with me at a wedding is weird way to try to send that message there would be much easier ways to show me she’s not interested

EricAnderson · Post #163 » by **EricAnderson** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 1:52 pm

2010 wrote:There are many reasons a girl may be interested in you and take you to the strip club for your b-day:

* She genuinely isn't the jealous type or the type to be trippin' and just wants you to have a good time on your born day

* She likes girls and could possibly be open to a Steph Curry

* She wants the strip club to be the appetizer that sets the mood while she is the main course afterwards

* She might be the type who is like "one of the guys" meaning she may not be pursuing a relationship with you, but is down for a friends w/ benefits situation and nothing more

* Lastly, maybe she just wanna see how you operate around women in a sexually charged environment. Checking your confidence levels. Since you not picking up on her hints she could think you need a mental Viagra and maybe in her eyes the strip club will do the trick

But to me, this is no indicator of lack of interest. If anything, I see it as a confirmation of interest on some level.

Like I said part of me wonders if she’s friendzoning me by doing this wheter consciously or unconsciously saying pay attention to other women not me.

On the other hand if she’s trying to tell me I’m friendzone taking me to a stripclub then going to a wedding and staying overnight with me is a extremely odd way of doing that lol

2010 · Post #164 » by **2010** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:06 pm

EricAnderson wrote:
2010 wrote:There are many reasons a girl may be interested in you and take you to the strip club for your b-day:

* She genuinely isn't the jealous type or the type to be trippin' and just wants you to have a good time on your born day

* She likes girls and could possibly be open to a Steph Curry

* She wants the strip club to be the appetizer that sets the mood while she is the main course afterwards

* She might be the type who is like "one of the guys" meaning she may not be pursuing a relationship with you, but is down for a friends w/ benefits situation and nothing more

* Lastly, maybe she just wanna see how you operate around women in a sexually charged environment. Checking your confidence levels. Since you not picking up on her hints she could think you need a mental Viagra and maybe in her eyes the strip club will do the trick

But to me, this is no indicator of lack of interest. If anything, I see it as a confirmation of interest on some level.

Like I said part of me wonders if she’s friendzoning me by doing this wheter consciously or unconsciously saying pay attention to other women not me.

On the other hand if she’s trying to tell me I’m friendzone taking me to a stripclub then going to a wedding and staying overnight with me is a extremely odd way of doing that lol

Read everything I wrote over again.

Your main issue is confidence level. Stop assuming the worst. The strip club invite does not have to equate to a friendzoning. I have been taken to stripclubs by a female and smashed right after. I also have been taken to a stripclub by a female and we left with one of the strippers (threeeeeee point goal, Steph Currryyyyyyy).

Relax man, you got this! :lol:

El Poochio · Post #165 » by **El Poochio** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:24 pm

EricAnderson wrote:
2010 wrote:There are many reasons a girl may be interested in you and take you to the strip club for your b-day:

* She genuinely isn't the jealous type or the type to be trippin' and just wants you to have a good time on your born day

* She likes girls and could possibly be open to a Steph Curry

* She wants the strip club to be the appetizer that sets the mood while she is the main course afterwards

* She might be the type who is like "one of the guys" meaning she may not be pursuing a relationship with you, but is down for a friends w/ benefits situation and nothing more

* Lastly, maybe she just wanna see how you operate around women in a sexually charged environment. Checking your confidence levels. Since you not picking up on her hints she could think you need a mental Viagra and maybe in her eyes the strip club will do the trick

But to me, this is no indicator of lack of interest. If anything, I see it as a confirmation of interest on some level.

Like I said part of me wonders if she’s friendzoning me by doing this wheter consciously or unconsciously saying pay attention to other women not me.

On the other hand if she’s trying to tell me I’m friendzone taking me to a stripclub then going to a wedding and staying overnight with me is a extremely odd way of doing that lol

I am going to save you a lot of time and headache OP

Ask her if she is friendzoning you or whatever that means

Jalen Bluntson · Post #166 » by **Jalen Bluntson** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:52 pm

EricAnderson wrote:
Are We Ther Yet wrote:Yo! Who mans is dis? Why would she want to take you to a strip club? She's either freaky...testing you in some twisted female logic....or trying to get you laid/handjob whatever so you don't push up on her. Other than those 3 reasons...maybe you're in the friend zone hardcore.

Would need more background on the relationship and just in general what kind of chick she is.

YEah part of me thinks her wanting to take me to a stripclub is almost a friend zoning lol it’s like she’s saying pay attention to these other women not me..

But if she’s truly was friendzoning me and trying to show she has no interest taking me to a stripclub then spending the night with me at a wedding is weird way to try to send that message there would be much easier ways to show me she’s not interested

Ask her out on a real date my man. You obviously feel something for her. What's the worst that can happen? She says no? You will get your answer and will be able to move on. No sense trying to decipher hidden meanings in her behavior.

That's what I would do. GROW A PAIR!!! :lol:

Women usually prefer confidence and stability...not timid indecision. :thumbsup:

Buttah304 · Post #167 » by **Buttah304** » Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:37 pm

2010 wrote:There are many reasons a girl may be interested in you and take you to the strip club for your b-day:

* She genuinely isn't the jealous type or the type to be trippin' and just wants you to have a good time on your born day

* She likes girls and could possibly be open to a Steph Curry

* She wants the strip club to be the appetizer that sets the mood while she is the main course afterwards

* She might be the type who is like "one of the guys" meaning she may not be pursuing a relationship with you, but is down for a friends w/ benefits situation and nothing more

* Lastly, maybe she just wanna see how you operate around women in a sexually charged environment. Checking your confidence levels. Since you not picking up on her hints she could think you need a mental Viagra and maybe in her eyes the strip club will do the trick

But to me, this is no indicator of lack of interest. If anything, I see it as a confirmation of interest on some level.

Everything you said is so spot on its scary. But if I had to choose one it would be the bold.

EricAnderson · Post #168 » by **EricAnderson** » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:19 pm

Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

F N 11 · Post #169 » by **F N 11** » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:42 pm

EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

Bruh! She made you go down on her and played you? Move on man move the fuq on. I don’t know how else to put it.

EricAnderson · Post #170 » by **EricAnderson** » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:49 pm

K P 6 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

Bruh! She made you go down on her and played you? Move on man move the fuq on. I don’t know how else to put it.

Nah I didn’t go down on her just her breasts lol..we just made out besides that.. we probably would have done a lot more that night but her daughter was home..I still could probably sleep with her when we hangout again and have some adult beverages but I have to move on why keep getting attatched to her and hurting myself more?

And it’s not like she ever said we were in a relationship or anything.So I don’t see how she played me

Jalen Bluntson · Post #171 » by **Jalen Bluntson** » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:50 pm

EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

That sucks. Friend zone. You got to 2nd base. Oh well. Thanks for the update!

EricAnderson · Post #172 » by **EricAnderson** » Mon Sep 24, 2018 11:51 pm

Are We Ther Yet wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

That sucks. Friend zone. You got to 2nd base. Oh well. Thanks for the update!

Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Jalen Bluntson · Post #173 » by **Jalen Bluntson** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 1:09 am

EricAnderson wrote:
Are We Ther Yet wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

That sucks. Friend zone. You got to 2nd base. Oh well. Thanks for the update!

Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Seems odd but...she probably just wants to move on from that part of her life.

Phish Tank · Post #174 » by **Phish Tank** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 2:29 am

oh, so she is your friend's ex-wife and she has a daughter? Is your friend the father of the child? Well damn.

Da_Mane_Man · Post #175 » by **Da_Mane_Man** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 2:50 am

ABSOLUTELY not

2010 · Post #176 » by **2010** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 3:10 am

EricAnderson wrote:
Are We Ther Yet wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:Nothing happened at the wedding but a few weeks ago after leaving a bar we started making out in the back of an uber and she took her top down and let me go to town lol.

A few days later when I saw her she was talking too her sister and vaguely mentioned a guy she met and was talking too so a few days later I asked her where we stand and she said I’m her everything and she loves me but because she has major issues with some of my friends who talked badly about her after my friends divorce with her she can’t go back into the same social circle as before.

Even sex she said she can’t do because she doesn’t want to lose me as a friend and has a thing about only sleeping with guys she’s in a relationship with.

So when I met her I told her I have no interest in just being friends with you and seeing you around other guys it would hurt me too much.

That sucks. Friend zone. You got to 2nd base. Oh well. Thanks for the update!

Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Basically, she just don't wanna look like she running thru the whole squad. Lol

EricAnderson · Post #177 » by **EricAnderson** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:01 am

2010 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:
Are We Ther Yet wrote:
That sucks. Friend zone. You got to 2nd base. Oh well. Thanks for the update!

Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Basically, she just don't wanna look like she running thru the whole squad. Lol

Why make out with me then and attack me in the back of an uber? Lol

Slicin N Dicin · Post #178 » by **Slicin N Dicin** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 5:08 am

EricAnderson wrote:
2010 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:
Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Basically, she just don't wanna look like she running thru the whole squad. Lol

Why make out with me then and attack me in the back of an uber? Lol

2010 · Post #179 » by **2010** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 11:12 am

EricAnderson wrote:
2010 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:
Lol no problem..

It’s a weird friend zone though because she admits she loves me and has feelings for me but won’t act on it because of my social circle lol

Basically, she just don't wanna look like she running thru the whole squad. Lol

Why make out with me then and attack me in the back of an uber? Lol

Cuz that is a more discreet situation. Yes, the Uber driver was there but he doesn't know y'all. Obviously she really trusts you. So she doesn't think you'd kiss and tell.

But the issue is if you guys commit to a relationship then everything will be out there and she don't want your boy (her ex-husband) and all his friends to know. Why? Cuz it makes her look bad.

Even though they aren't together it makes it look like A) she is running through the squad; and B) like you two may have possibly been attracted to each other or interacting with romantic intentions while they were still married.

If I were you I would have my fun with her until she gets into a serious relationship with someone else and just ride this till the wheels fall off. Cuz with this new information I highly doubt she will ever be with you long term for the reasons I stated above. It is just potentially too messy for her reputation. And she is right to think that. Especially if her ex-husband friends were already talking schit about her even before knowing anything is going on with you two.

Just have fun and take what she is comfortable giving you. "It's better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all"

FACTS!

EricAnderson · Post #180 » by **EricAnderson** » Tue Sep 25, 2018 1:55 pm

2010 wrote:
EricAnderson wrote:
2010 wrote:
Basically, she just don't wanna look like she running thru the whole squad. Lol

Why make out with me then and attack me in the back of an uber? Lol

Cuz that is a more discreet situation. Yes, the Uber driver was there but he doesn't know y'all. Obviously she really trusts you. So she doesn't think you'd kiss and tell.

But the issue is if you guys commit to a relationship then everything will be out there and she don't want you boy (her ex-husband) and all his friends to know. Why? Cuz it makes her look bad.

Even though they aren't together it makes it look like A) she is running through the squad; and B) like you two may have possibly been attracted to each other or interacting with romantic intentions while they were still married.

If I were you I would have my fun with her until she gets into a serious relationship with someone else and just ride this till the wheels fall off. Cuz with this new information I highly doubt she will ever be with you long term for the reasons I stated above. It is just potentially too messy for her reputation. And she is right to think that. Especially if her ex-husband friends were already talking schit about her even before knowing anything is going on with you two.

Just have fun and take what she is comfortable giving you. "It's better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all"

FACTS!

My thing is if she has feelings for me and said she’s thought about us being together before then why care what other people think?

Throwing away potential love because of what other people might say is weak to me