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Re: OT: Art, Music, Literature, Media, and More! Part 3 

Post#561 » by bucknersrevenge » Sun May 14, 2023 7:22 pm

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Ed Pinkney wrote:Watched the first two episodes of Silo on Apple TV. I know nothing about the books, but it was pretty good. Looking forward to the rest of the season at the moment.

I am required by law to watch anything with Rebecca Ferguson in it. Show’s pretty good and premise has me hooked so I will keep watching, not that I have a choice in the matter.



The third episode was solid, I am really enjoying this show so far.


Agreed. Loving it so far. Any word on Severance yet?
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Post#562 » by Romeiro Celtic » Mon May 15, 2023 10:52 pm

Guys, I really need this help:

Well, I've met this girl, let's call her Julie, on June/2022 while doing an internship on a hospital and while she's on residency. We didn't talk at first, but followed each other on instagram. On January I slowly started to interact with her through her stories and we started talking by February, while she was on vacation traveling. We took things slow and had our first date by the end of March (29th), we had a coffee, talked a lot and had a great time together, leading to our second date right on the next sunday (April 2nd). It was amazing, we went to a museum and then had dinner together, but right after it when we were on the car, she asked me to keep things slow, because she wanted to be sure of her feelings and of everything that was happening to us. I agreed in no time.

On Easter I gave her chocolate with a kind card and a spotify playlist QR code that I created. We started connecting more, going out more often, but we never kissed, we only held hands and hugged. By the middle of April (18th), it was her birthday and I made this really significant gift, talking to a few of her best friends and making a surprise for her, which she loved. And then we kept things going really nice and well, going out, talking a lot about each other and being very open all the time.

On May 3rd I asked her to be my girlfriend. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either, she asked me to wait a little, while she's solving some internal issues she has right now (all of them she told me about and explained me everything about them), but really asked me to wait for her, we finally kissed for the first time and I accepted to wait for her, since I truly believe we're meant to be together. Ever since, I've been waiting and I feel like this is somehow killing me from the inside, because I know all her friends, her family knows about me, my family knows about her, my friends know about her and we keep developing intimacy, but she never gives me an answer. I don't want to be pressuring her about it, I don't want to be all over her being that annoying guy asking her to give an answer. I feel that I truly love her and all my actions say so. She's a bit different from me in terms of expressing emotions, she's a bit more distant and does it less often, but she still does and shows to me how much she appreciates me. What should I do now? Do I ask her again or just keep waiting? Next month she'll be out of town and we won't be seeing each other + there's valentines day where we live...

EDIT: Forgot about this: between our date to the museum and her birthday, we had a date night where we went to my favourite restaurant and it was one of the most significant nights we've had so far, but as I was dropping her home, she asked me to talk a bit on the car and asked again for us to keep things to going slow, since she really wanted the things to go right and wanted a serious relationship. I agreed once more. And things kept going really well.
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Post#563 » by Smart2Nesmith43 » Mon May 15, 2023 11:37 pm

Romeiro Celtic wrote:Guys, I really need this help:

Well, I've met this girl, let's call her Julie, on June/2022 while doing an internship on a hospital and while she's on residency. We didn't talk at first, but followed each other on instagram. On January I slowly started to interact with her through her stories and we started talking by February, while she was on vacation traveling. We took things slow and had our first date by the end of March (29th), we had a coffee, talked a lot and had a great time together, leading to our second date right on the next sunday (April 2nd). It was amazing, we went to a museum and then had dinner together, but right after it when we were on the car, she asked me to keep things slow, because she wanted to be sure of her feelings and of everything that was happening to us. I agreed in no time.

On Easter I gave her chocolate with a kind card and a spotify playlist QR code that I created. We started connecting more, going out more often, but we never kissed, we only held hands and hugged. By the middle of April (18th), it was her birthday and I made this really significant gift, talking to a few of her best friends and making a surprise for her, which she loved. And then we kept things going really nice and well, going out, talking a lot about each other and being very open all the time.

On May 3rd I asked her to be my girlfriend. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either, she asked me to wait a little, while she's solving some internal issues she has right now (all of them she told me about and explained me everything about them), but really asked me to wait for her, we finally kissed for the first time and I accepted to wait for her, since I truly believe we're meant to be together. Ever since, I've been waiting and I feel like this is somehow killing me from the inside, because I know all her friends, her family knows about me, my family knows about her, my friends know about her and we keep developing intimacy, but she never gives me an answer. I don't want to be pressuring her about it, I don't want to be all over her being that annoying guy asking her to give an answer. I feel that I truly love her and all my actions say so. She's a bit different from me in terms of expressing emotions, she's a bit more distant and does it less often, but she still does and shows to me how much she appreciates me. What should I do now? Do I ask her again or just keep waiting? Next month she'll be out of town and we won't be seeing each other + there's valentines day where we live...

EDIT: Forgot about this: between our date to the museum and her birthday, we had a date night where we went to my favourite restaurant and it was one of the most significant nights we've had so far, but as I was dropping her home, she asked me to talk a bit on the car and asked again for us to keep things to going slow, since she really wanted the things to go right and wanted a serious relationship. I agreed once more. And things kept going really well.

It seems to me that she has been pretty honest and clear about what she wants (ie. resolving her personal issues before pursuing a relationship with you). You just have to decide if that's something that you are confortable with. I think you have the right instinct and that pressuring someone into something they are not ready for isn't the way you want to start out a relationship.

If you want this to move faster, you have to figure out a way to help her solve her issues. If you don't know what you can do to help, ask her. If they are aware of what those issues are, ask her friends too. They are the people that can help you make the right decision because they actually know her so go get their advice instead of looking for words of wisdom from some stranger on the internet. Good luck.
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Re: OT: Art, Music, Literature, Media, and More! Part 3 

Post#564 » by Romeiro Celtic » Mon May 15, 2023 11:46 pm

Smart2Nesmith43 wrote: It seems to me that she has been pretty honest and clear about what she wants (ie. resolving her personal issues before pursuing a relationship with you). You just have to decide if that's something that you are confortable with. I think you have the right instinct and that pressuring someone into something they are not ready for isn't the way you want to start out a relationship.

If you want this to move faster, you have to figure out a way to help her solve her issues. If you don't know what you can do to help, ask her. If they are aware of what those issues are, ask her friends too. They are the people that can help you make the right decision because they actually know her so go get their advice instead of looking for words of wisdom from some stranger on the internet. Good luck.


Well, I've been really trying to keep myself patient, going to therapy weekly (sometimes even twice a week), as I always did, to discuss everything about it to make me understand things better and just be more comfortable with the situation.

She explained everything she is dealing right now and I'm trying my best to help her, to show her I'm there for her and that she can really trust me. I mean, I'm really doing all my best as I've never done for anybody before. I just need to find some inner peace, so I can keep going on this.




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Re: OT: Art, Music, Literature, Media, and More! Part 3 

Post#567 » by canman1971 » Tue May 16, 2023 3:28 am

Romeiro Celtic wrote:Guys, I really need this help:

Well, I've met this girl, let's call her Julie, on June/2022 while doing an internship on a hospital and while she's on residency. We didn't talk at first, but followed each other on instagram. On January I slowly started to interact with her through her stories and we started talking by February, while she was on vacation traveling. We took things slow and had our first date by the end of March (29th), we had a coffee, talked a lot and had a great time together, leading to our second date right on the next sunday (April 2nd). It was amazing, we went to a museum and then had dinner together, but right after it when we were on the car, she asked me to keep things slow, because she wanted to be sure of her feelings and of everything that was happening to us. I agreed in no time.

On Easter I gave her chocolate with a kind card and a spotify playlist QR code that I created. We started connecting more, going out more often, but we never kissed, we only held hands and hugged. By the middle of April (18th), it was her birthday and I made this really significant gift, talking to a few of her best friends and making a surprise for her, which she loved. And then we kept things going really nice and well, going out, talking a lot about each other and being very open all the time.

On May 3rd I asked her to be my girlfriend. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either, she asked me to wait a little, while she's solving some internal issues she has right now (all of them she told me about and explained me everything about them), but really asked me to wait for her, we finally kissed for the first time and I accepted to wait for her, since I truly believe we're meant to be together. Ever since, I've been waiting and I feel like this is somehow killing me from the inside, because I know all her friends, her family knows about me, my family knows about her, my friends know about her and we keep developing intimacy, but she never gives me an answer. I don't want to be pressuring her about it, I don't want to be all over her being that annoying guy asking her to give an answer. I feel that I truly love her and all my actions say so. She's a bit different from me in terms of expressing emotions, she's a bit more distant and does it less often, but she still does and shows to me how much she appreciates me. What should I do now? Do I ask her again or just keep waiting? Next month she'll be out of town and we won't be seeing each other + there's valentines day where we live...

EDIT: Forgot about this: between our date to the museum and her birthday, we had a date night where we went to my favourite restaurant and it was one of the most significant nights we've had so far, but as I was dropping her home, she asked me to talk a bit on the car and asked again for us to keep things to going slow, since she really wanted the things to go right and wanted a serious relationship. I agreed once more. And things kept going really well.


I say walk. Not to be insensitive, but you are only hurting yourself at this point. If it’s meant to be, she will let you know.
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Re: OT: Art, Music, Literature, Media, and More! Part 3 

Post#568 » by canman1971 » Tue May 16, 2023 3:28 am

Romeiro Celtic wrote:Guys, I really need this help:

Well, I've met this girl, let's call her Julie, on June/2022 while doing an internship on a hospital and while she's on residency. We didn't talk at first, but followed each other on instagram. On January I slowly started to interact with her through her stories and we started talking by February, while she was on vacation traveling. We took things slow and had our first date by the end of March (29th), we had a coffee, talked a lot and had a great time together, leading to our second date right on the next sunday (April 2nd). It was amazing, we went to a museum and then had dinner together, but right after it when we were on the car, she asked me to keep things slow, because she wanted to be sure of her feelings and of everything that was happening to us. I agreed in no time.

On Easter I gave her chocolate with a kind card and a spotify playlist QR code that I created. We started connecting more, going out more often, but we never kissed, we only held hands and hugged. By the middle of April (18th), it was her birthday and I made this really significant gift, talking to a few of her best friends and making a surprise for her, which she loved. And then we kept things going really nice and well, going out, talking a lot about each other and being very open all the time.

On May 3rd I asked her to be my girlfriend. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either, she asked me to wait a little, while she's solving some internal issues she has right now (all of them she told me about and explained me everything about them), but really asked me to wait for her, we finally kissed for the first time and I accepted to wait for her, since I truly believe we're meant to be together. Ever since, I've been waiting and I feel like this is somehow killing me from the inside, because I know all her friends, her family knows about me, my family knows about her, my friends know about her and we keep developing intimacy, but she never gives me an answer. I don't want to be pressuring her about it, I don't want to be all over her being that annoying guy asking her to give an answer. I feel that I truly love her and all my actions say so. She's a bit different from me in terms of expressing emotions, she's a bit more distant and does it less often, but she still does and shows to me how much she appreciates me. What should I do now? Do I ask her again or just keep waiting? Next month she'll be out of town and we won't be seeing each other + there's valentines day where we live...

EDIT: Forgot about this: between our date to the museum and her birthday, we had a date night where we went to my favourite restaurant and it was one of the most significant nights we've had so far, but as I was dropping her home, she asked me to talk a bit on the car and asked again for us to keep things to going slow, since she really wanted the things to go right and wanted a serious relationship. I agreed once more. And things kept going really well.


I say walk. Not to be insensitive, but you are only hurting yourself at this point. If it’s meant to be, she will let you know.
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Post#569 » by Ed Pinkney » Tue May 16, 2023 10:33 am

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zoyathedestroya wrote:I am required by law to watch anything with Rebecca Ferguson in it. Show’s pretty good and premise has me hooked so I will keep watching, not that I have a choice in the matter.



The third episode was solid, I am really enjoying this show so far.


Agreed. Loving it so far. Any word on Severance yet?



I’m the wrong person to ask if you are asking me about Severance. I haven’t watched the first season yet, so I have no idea sorry. I heard good things when it came out though, I plan on getting to it at some stage.

In other Apple TV news, I noticed a new trailer for Foundation season 2 came out the other day with a release date in July. I really enjoyed the first season, but like Silo I haven’t read any of the source material so I knew nothing about it prior to watching it. I know a lot of the die hard Asimov fans weren’t happy with some of the changes they made, but I thought it was a great show.
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Post#570 » by bucknersrevenge » Tue May 16, 2023 1:52 pm

Smart2Nesmith43 wrote:
Romeiro Celtic wrote:Guys, I really need this help:

Well, I've met this girl, let's call her Julie, on June/2022 while doing an internship on a hospital and while she's on residency. We didn't talk at first, but followed each other on instagram. On January I slowly started to interact with her through her stories and we started talking by February, while she was on vacation traveling. We took things slow and had our first date by the end of March (29th), we had a coffee, talked a lot and had a great time together, leading to our second date right on the next sunday (April 2nd). It was amazing, we went to a museum and then had dinner together, but right after it when we were on the car, she asked me to keep things slow, because she wanted to be sure of her feelings and of everything that was happening to us. I agreed in no time.

On Easter I gave her chocolate with a kind card and a spotify playlist QR code that I created. We started connecting more, going out more often, but we never kissed, we only held hands and hugged. By the middle of April (18th), it was her birthday and I made this really significant gift, talking to a few of her best friends and making a surprise for her, which she loved. And then we kept things going really nice and well, going out, talking a lot about each other and being very open all the time.

On May 3rd I asked her to be my girlfriend. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either, she asked me to wait a little, while she's solving some internal issues she has right now (all of them she told me about and explained me everything about them), but really asked me to wait for her, we finally kissed for the first time and I accepted to wait for her, since I truly believe we're meant to be together. Ever since, I've been waiting and I feel like this is somehow killing me from the inside, because I know all her friends, her family knows about me, my family knows about her, my friends know about her and we keep developing intimacy, but she never gives me an answer. I don't want to be pressuring her about it, I don't want to be all over her being that annoying guy asking her to give an answer. I feel that I truly love her and all my actions say so. She's a bit different from me in terms of expressing emotions, she's a bit more distant and does it less often, but she still does and shows to me how much she appreciates me. What should I do now? Do I ask her again or just keep waiting? Next month she'll be out of town and we won't be seeing each other + there's valentines day where we live...

EDIT: Forgot about this: between our date to the museum and her birthday, we had a date night where we went to my favourite restaurant and it was one of the most significant nights we've had so far, but as I was dropping her home, she asked me to talk a bit on the car and asked again for us to keep things to going slow, since she really wanted the things to go right and wanted a serious relationship. I agreed once more. And things kept going really well.

It seems to me that she has been pretty honest and clear about what she wants (ie. resolving her personal issues before pursuing a relationship with you). You just have to decide if that's something that you are confortable with. I think you have the right instinct and that pressuring someone into something they are not ready for isn't the way you want to start out a relationship.

If you want this to move faster, you have to figure out a way to help her solve her issues. If you don't know what you can do to help, ask her. If they are aware of what those issues are, ask her friends too. They are the people that can help you make the right decision because they actually know her so go get their advice instead of looking for words of wisdom from some stranger on the internet. Good luck.


First of all RC, I give you credit for having the balls to even post something as vulnerable as this in here. In regard to your question. it sounds like it's a matter of time. I agree with the above post with regard to you having to decide if you are comfortable with this pace and if she is in fact worth waiting for. Liking someone, and them liking you isn't enough. Sometimes people just meet at the wrong times in their lives. If she's got other stuff she's working through, it's possible that you might need to take a step back and let her do it. And that may mean you might have to even let her go if you are at a different place in your life. And that may suck, but that's real life.

As said above, you can't put pressure on her to get right because that will put pressure on the relationship right at the start that you don't need. What I don't agree with is the idea that you have or SHOULD "help her solve her issues". That is an unmitigated disaster in waiting. That adds exactly the kind of pressure you don't want. And worse, those solutions will be yours, not hers, and it could lead to self-doubt for her and later, resentment in you for pushing her. In other words, it's selfish. She needs to sort her own **** out in her own time. In the meantime, you can be a friend, you can move on, or both. But you need to be honest with yourself about what you need/want. If she can't provide that right now, then she can't provide that. And that's just what it is. Prepare yourself to walk if you have to. Otherwise, you're just hurting yourself and her.
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Post#571 » by Bad-Thoma » Tue May 16, 2023 2:04 pm

Romeiro Celtic wrote:
Smart2Nesmith43 wrote: It seems to me that she has been pretty honest and clear about what she wants (ie. resolving her personal issues before pursuing a relationship with you). You just have to decide if that's something that you are confortable with. I think you have the right instinct and that pressuring someone into something they are not ready for isn't the way you want to start out a relationship.

If you want this to move faster, you have to figure out a way to help her solve her issues. If you don't know what you can do to help, ask her. If they are aware of what those issues are, ask her friends too. They are the people that can help you make the right decision because they actually know her so go get their advice instead of looking for words of wisdom from some stranger on the internet. Good luck.


Well, I've been really trying to keep myself patient, going to therapy weekly (sometimes even twice a week), as I always did, to discuss everything about it to make me understand things better and just be more comfortable with the situation.

She explained everything she is dealing right now and I'm trying my best to help her, to show her I'm there for her and that she can really trust me. I mean, I'm really doing all my best as I've never done for anybody before. I just need to find some inner peace, so I can keep going on this.


If you have someone that open that you care about that much keep being patient, it will pay all in the end. It sounds like you have great communication which is all important, and it sounds like you are handling it perfectly thus far. There's no guarantees in anything but it you do pressure her odds are it will come back to bite you and you'll end up wondering what would have happened if you had just waited. Best of luck with it Romeiro.
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Post#572 » by Romeiro Celtic » Tue May 16, 2023 6:06 pm

bucknersrevenge wrote: First of all RC, I give you credit for having the balls to even post something as vulnerable as this in here. In regard to your question. it sounds like it's a matter of time. I agree with the above post with regard to you having to decide if you are comfortable with this pace and if she is in fact worth waiting for. Liking someone, and them liking you isn't enough. Sometimes people just meet at the wrong times in their lives. If she's got other stuff she's working through, it's possible that you might need to take a step back and let her do it. And that may mean you might have to even let her go if you are at a different place in your life. And that may suck, but that's real life.

As said above, you can't put pressure on her to get right because that will put pressure on the relationship right at the start that you don't need. What I don't agree with is the idea that you have or SHOULD "help her solve her issues". That is an unmitigated disaster in waiting. That adds exactly the kind of pressure you don't want. And worse, those solutions will be yours, not hers, and it could lead to self-doubt for her and later, resentment in you for pushing her. In other words, it's selfish. She needs to sort her own **** out in her own time. In the meantime, you can be a friend, you can move on, or both. But you need to be honest with yourself about what you need/want. If she can't provide that right now, then she can't provide that. And that's just what it is. Prepare yourself to walk if you have to. Otherwise, you're just hurting yourself and her.


Bad-Thoma wrote: If you have someone that open that you care about that much keep being patient, it will pay all in the end. It sounds like you have great communication which is all important, and it sounds like you are handling it perfectly thus far. There's no guarantees in anything but it you do pressure her odds are it will come back to bite you and you'll end up wondering what would have happened if you had just waited. Best of luck with it Romeiro.


Thank you so much for your honest answer, my man... Well, I couldn't agree more with you guys. What I'm doing as of now is keeping my place as a "friend" that goes out, kiss and she has a lot of openness to talk about everything. She explained to me everything that's happening to her and I'm just giving her space for whenever she wants to talk to me about. And she's actually been talking and sharing with me her worries and the other fears she has. Some things are more about anxiety and insecurity, so I just keep myself present and showing her she can really count on me for whatever she needs, not really as a problem solver, but as someone she can trust.

She's becoming more affectionate towards me and showing a little bit more of her emotions, on her on way. Maybe it's just a matter of time as Bad-Thoma has said... Today we bought tickets to a concert she's really looking forward to go and we're doing it just the two of us. I really want to wait for her, but anxiety is a bitch sometimes man. It's something I'm discussing weekly on my therapy, "Your needs are not necessarily those of the other and vice versa." While she needs her space, I need the label and to feel the love I'm giving is coming back somehow. Maybe the label thing is going to take more time, but feeling loved through her actions and her words is important to me. She never said I was handsome until yesterday, maybe this is a bit silly, but I think is important for me to feel appreciated and even though I'm no Ryan Gosling, she's still thinks I'm handsome or any kind of compliment. As my therapist likes to say, things are moving... Slower than I'd like to, but they are moving. But I do need to have a limit, because I can play boyfriend forever while not being one exactly.




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Post#575 » by bucknersrevenge » Tue May 16, 2023 10:43 pm

Romeiro Celtic wrote:
bucknersrevenge wrote: First of all RC, I give you credit for having the balls to even post something as vulnerable as this in here. In regard to your question. it sounds like it's a matter of time. I agree with the above post with regard to you having to decide if you are comfortable with this pace and if she is in fact worth waiting for. Liking someone, and them liking you isn't enough. Sometimes people just meet at the wrong times in their lives. If she's got other stuff she's working through, it's possible that you might need to take a step back and let her do it. And that may mean you might have to even let her go if you are at a different place in your life. And that may suck, but that's real life.

As said above, you can't put pressure on her to get right because that will put pressure on the relationship right at the start that you don't need. What I don't agree with is the idea that you have or SHOULD "help her solve her issues". That is an unmitigated disaster in waiting. That adds exactly the kind of pressure you don't want. And worse, those solutions will be yours, not hers, and it could lead to self-doubt for her and later, resentment in you for pushing her. In other words, it's selfish. She needs to sort her own **** out in her own time. In the meantime, you can be a friend, you can move on, or both. But you need to be honest with yourself about what you need/want. If she can't provide that right now, then she can't provide that. And that's just what it is. Prepare yourself to walk if you have to. Otherwise, you're just hurting yourself and her.


Bad-Thoma wrote: If you have someone that open that you care about that much keep being patient, it will pay all in the end. It sounds like you have great communication which is all important, and it sounds like you are handling it perfectly thus far. There's no guarantees in anything but it you do pressure her odds are it will come back to bite you and you'll end up wondering what would have happened if you had just waited. Best of luck with it Romeiro.


Thank you so much for your honest answer, my man... Well, I couldn't agree more with you guys. What I'm doing as of now is keeping my place as a "friend" that goes out, kiss and she has a lot of openness to talk about everything. She explained to me everything that's happening to her and I'm just giving her space for whenever she wants to talk to me about. And she's actually been talking and sharing with me her worries and the other fears she has. Some things are more about anxiety and insecurity, so I just keep myself present and showing her she can really count on me for whatever she needs, not really as a problem solver, but as someone she can trust.

She's becoming more affectionate towards me and showing a little bit more of her emotions, on her on way. Maybe it's just a matter of time as Bad-Thoma has said... Today we bought tickets to a concert she's really looking forward to go and we're doing it just the two of us. I really want to wait for her, but anxiety is a bitch sometimes man. It's something I'm discussing weekly on my therapy, "Your needs are not necessarily those of the other and vice versa." While she needs her space, I need the label and to feel the love I'm giving is coming back somehow. Maybe the label thing is going to take more time, but feeling loved through her actions and her words is important to me. She never said I was handsome until yesterday, maybe this is a bit silly, but I think is important for me to feel appreciated and even though I'm no Ryan Gosling, she's still thinks I'm handsome or any kind of compliment. As my therapist likes to say, things are moving... Slower than I'd like to, but they are moving. But I do need to have a limit, because I can play boyfriend forever while not being one exactly.


As long as you know your limit and are honest with yourself about it. And...we don't blame HER for not knowing YOURS. Stick to that and you'll be fine.
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Post#576 » by Marvel » Tue May 16, 2023 11:12 pm

Sisu. :o My goodness. Wow
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Post#577 » by Marvel » Tue May 16, 2023 11:13 pm

Air was very good. Top top notch.
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Post#578 » by StojkoVrankovic » Tue May 16, 2023 11:17 pm

all voices, zero instruments.....

arguably the best beatbox track of all time

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Post#579 » by Marvel » Wed May 17, 2023 4:54 am

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StojkoVrankovic wrote:all voices, zero instruments.....

arguably the best beatbox track of all time


Hotdamm that go hard. All vocals, no instruments at all? Very impressive
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Post#580 » by bigfoot_cryptozoology » Wed May 17, 2023 5:36 am

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