OT: General OT Thread [NO POLITICS, RACE OR RELIGION]

[ReasonablySober]

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[MikeIsGood]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

[ReasonablySober]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

If you think that things can get worse, stay on your toes and be proactive. I've been in your position where I would have been laid off if I hadn't been the one person in the building who could do a specific kind of work for our clients. It only made me so safe and eventually months later I got the axe. But with the writing on the wall I'd been updating the resume, cover letter, doing some independent training on skills that had fallen behind, and had interviews elsewhere. When I got laid off it was literally for one day before I had an offer for a better job with a better company. I've been with them now for 13 years.

Be proactive and look out for yourself.

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I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

We had a few slashings last year, with a good amount let go in November. I just told myself those people will be better off and will find a better company. Plus a chance to recharge is nice.

My biggest issue is dealing with the anxiety that I'm next (apparently the logic I use for others isn't as easily applied to myself).

Oddly enough, there are some pretty dire rumors surrounding my parents workplace and I think they are in an all hands meeting right now. Patiently waiting for the text to see if they are being let go.

Edit - Can't trust the rumors, apparently the meeting was about something else so they are safe for now. I think the layoffs from late 2022 through 2023 have most people on edge.

[MartyConlonOnTheRun]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

We had a few slashings last year, with a good amount let go in November. I just told myself those people will be better off and will find a better company. Plus a chance to recharge is nice.

My biggest issue is dealing with the anxiety that I'm next (apparently the logic I use for others isn't as easily applied to myself).

Oddly enough, there are some pretty dire rumors surrounding my parents workplace and I think they are in an all hands meeting right now. Patiently waiting for the text to see if they are being let go.

Edit - Can't trust the rumors, apparently the meeting was about something else so they are safe for now. I think the layoffs from late 2022 through 2023 have most people on edge.

RS is obviously right about being proactive, but if you are going to get laid off it then November wasn't horrible. Take your severance through the holidays and then find another job. We added another 1/4m jobs last month and unemployment rate is at 3.7%. It may not be your dream job, but there are plenty out there that will allow you to pay the mortgage and keep food on the table.
https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/empsit.pdf

[Finn]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

I hope you can get over your survivor's guilt because you had nothing to do with management's choices. If any of your buddies lost their jobs, make sure to keep in touch with them.

I've survived multiple layoffs & also been laid off twice from 2 different companies. Life goes on. Assuming you've planned accordingly (saving, living within your means, etc.), you should be OK until you find another job (if you do get laid off). Even with the layoffs I went through, I retired at 59. Not only does life go on, but life is good!

[jschligs]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

[TroyD92]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt worse after surviving a round of layoffs. Knock on wood, I’ve never been laid off myself (feels inevitable these days), but several team members were and I’ve got a good deal of survivor’s guilt going. Any perspectives on handling that are welcome.

Don't feel bad. I dont know what size company you work in, but my manager told me last year that layoffs are usually not as targeted as you'd think. In almost all cases its a numbers thing instead of a productivity/need thing.

[MissKhriddleton]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

If it’s drugs then no, never really ends up being worth it after the moment.

[MissKhriddleton]

What industry are you guys in that are seeing a bunch of layoffs? I’m still trying to find a better job…

[jute2003]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

If it's something they feel that strongly about, than I likely don't do it.

[M-C-G]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

Interesting question. My wife and I had a big disagreement about something with our kids, and honestly feels like we just put a pause on it and it will come back up later.

Without prying, I am curious what the situation is for you


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[jschligs]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

Interesting question. My wife and I had a big disagreement about something with our kids, and honestly feels like we just put a pause on it and it will come back up later.

Without prying, I am curious what the situation is for you


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I kept it vague intentionally to hear answers before the topic came up haha.

So it was actually her that wanted to do something. She wanted to do Botox, she’s 32 and noticed a single wrinkle on her forehead. I’m pretty against it, we have a daughter and I want to teach her to be comfortable and beautiful in her own skin and I hate the beauty standards now. It’s also expensive and we’re tight financially because my wife overspends. We had a length discussion on my beliefs on it, and I really wouldn’t want her to do it. I hope she doesn’t but obviously I can’t control her body. She wasn’t sold on doing it and I thought she’d wait but within 24 hours she went and got it. I had hoped my beliefs would’ve had a stronger impact on her decision but it didn’t. And it bothers me because she makes me compromise on stuff all the time, or when she doesn’t like something I want to do, I don’t do it.

[MikeIsGood]

What industry are you guys in that are seeing a bunch of layoffs? I’m still trying to find a better job…

HC tech. I think layoffs are pretty common still in tech right now. Google is about to layoff 30,000.

Also, thanks everyone for your input. Feeling better now a couple days gone by.

[M-C-G]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

Interesting question. My wife and I had a big disagreement about something with our kids, and honestly feels like we just put a pause on it and it will come back up later.

Without prying, I am curious what the situation is for you


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I kept it vague intentionally to hear answers before the topic came up haha.

So it was actually her that wanted to do something. She wanted to do Botox, she’s 32 and noticed a single wrinkle on her forehead. I’m pretty against it, we have a daughter and I want to teach her to be comfortable and beautiful in her own skin and I hate the beauty standards now. It’s also expensive and we’re tight financially because my wife overspends. We had a length discussion on my beliefs on it, and I really wouldn’t want her to do it. I hope she doesn’t but obviously I can’t control her body. She wasn’t sold on doing it and I thought she’d wait but within 24 hours she went and got it. I had hoped my beliefs would’ve had a stronger impact on her decision but it didn’t. And it bothers me because she makes me compromise on stuff all the time, or when she doesn’t like something I want to do, I don’t do it.

I hear you. With two young daughters, they tell me they want to wear make up to be pretty. I kind of hate that.

My mom has done the plastic surgery thing and I get it but it kind of find it a sad thing. She had Botox in her lips and looked like an absolute clown for a while.


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[Mags FTW]

Random question/scenario:

You want to do something. Not something necessarily dangerous, but something that someone could feel is unhealthy/perpetuating something you don't like. Your partner is strongly against it, and have a 2 hour conversation explaining why. Even though beliefs are different on said thing, are you going to do it, knowing how much they hate it/disagree with it?

Currently in quite a big argument with my wife on something lol.

Interesting question. My wife and I had a big disagreement about something with our kids, and honestly feels like we just put a pause on it and it will come back up later.

Without prying, I am curious what the situation is for you


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I kept it vague intentionally to hear answers before the topic came up haha.

So it was actually her that wanted to do something. She wanted to do Botox, she’s 32 and noticed a single wrinkle on her forehead. I’m pretty against it, we have a daughter and I want to teach her to be comfortable and beautiful in her own skin and I hate the beauty standards now. It’s also expensive and we’re tight financially because my wife overspends. We had a length discussion on my beliefs on it, and I really wouldn’t want her to do it. I hope she doesn’t but obviously I can’t control her body. She wasn’t sold on doing it and I thought she’d wait but within 24 hours she went and got it. I had hoped my beliefs would’ve had a stronger impact on her decision but it didn’t. And it bothers me because she makes me compromise on stuff all the time, or when she doesn’t like something I want to do, I don’t do it.

You get to spend the same amount of money the Botox cost on something you want to do now. Enjoy!

[jschligs]

I get it as people want to feel better about themselves, I just don’t like that’s how society is. And aging is natural, she’s a mother of 2, so they’re going to happen eventually.

And sure, I’d be happy to spend that money she did on Botox on something I enjoy. Thing is, I save my “fun money” and she overspends, so I usually end up covering her crap. And hell if im going to spend my fun money on her Botox haha.

Really it just was if she ever told me she felt so strongly about something I was going to do, I wouldn’t consider doing it. Oh well, marriage in a nut shell!

[ReasonablySober]

TBH, I don't think I've ever seen a woman with botox or lip injections and thought that was a good look. I don't get it.

[ReasonablySober]

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YO. I made Saúl's frittata here and it was delicious. I had hot italian sausage to use up so I made little fried sausage balls instead of fried oysters, but followed everything else. Even ordered a new non-stick oven safe pan.

Good as hell. Highly, highly recommend.

[jute2003]

TBH, I don't think I've ever seen a woman with botox or lip injections and thought that was a good look. I don't get it.

I don't think you could even tell with the majority of people that have gotten botox as long as they don't overdue it and you dont know them well prior.

The lip injection thing though is soooooo fugly. Fake looking perma duck face ****.