OT: Failed NBA player Rashad McCants explains the womanizing in the league - Ex Raptor Dwane Casey also involved

[tanuki1031]

Only found out recently why Steve Nash divorced his wife the day after she gave birth. PHX teammates Jason Richardson and Barbosa were both getting it in with her at the time. That's pretty **** sad.

[Clay Davis]

As much as I joke about rizz, unrestrained lust is a serious, debilitating condition. A person's desires, indulged and not restrained, make a man a slave. Unless they admit their problems, these men are not free. They will continue being suspect to their whims for the rest of their lives, and not know security -- since they'll suspect every woman of being as flighty as they are. There's no difference between the guy who sleeps with 7 different women in 7 days and compulsive, porn-addicted masturbators.

It's better to love a woman with all of yourself -- at the level of providing, of being a source of safety, and of restraining yourself -- than to love her with only your sexual organ. Even Wilt Chamberlain said it's better to be with one woman many times than many women one time. There's a reason why every spiritual path enshrines self-discipline. There's a reason why many of the world's greatest fighters/warriors practiced abstinence.

I say this as someone who fights against my self constantly, you can't run from yourself. There will always be a day of reckoning. You yearn for love, so love yourself (no, not in that way, lol) and you'll have more abundance than you can even imagine -- since you'll be in love with life, and life will love you.

This post really hits home.

Very well written.

I'm merely paraphrasing Krishna, when he said the following to Arjuna on the plains of Kurushetra:

For a person thinking of sense objects [objects of desire] there grows an attachment for them. From attachment results desire, from desire results anger, from anger results delusion, from delusion results confusion of memory, from confusion of memory results destruction of intelligence and from destruction of intelligence he perishes.

That this was written thousands of years ago and is only just beginning to be verified "empirically" blows my mind.

I've been thinking very deeply lately about the rizz of our attention -- about how what you fix in your mind fixes you, as a person. The Muslims say "He who knows himself, knows his Rabb (Lord)" and say that salah (prayer) is difficult except for those who worship God as if they see Him. Similarly, many athletes speak less about discipline and more about obsession. For some this obsession is very pernicious (see Michael Jordan's pathological behaviour) but it illustrates just how much of our being goes into what we continuously focus on. Your body will, generally, align with what your mind is aligned with, and in turn the mind is itself embodied. This process, then, is reciprocal: your mind will deepen in its sensitivity when it is aligned with your mind. This is a cool thing to observe when the person is enfixed upon something that is, for lack of a better word, virtuous. The focused athlete... the focused scientist... the focused writer. There's single-mindedness.

However, our mind and body can be self-indulgent. Just as there is the focused athlete, there is the sex addict. The pathological thief. The glutton. The drug addict. These, actually, are all manifestations of the same phenomenon. Sometimes it's okay to live like this for a bit, but you've got to actually live it in light of yourself (rather than letting it become your life, and being stuck on that stage). The rizz of life yo it's crazy dawg

[Clay Davis]

I say this as someone who fights against my self constantly, you can't run from yourself. There will always be a day of reckoning. You yearn for love, so love yourself (no, not in that way, lol) and you'll have more abundance than you can even imagine -- since you'll be in love with life, and life will love you.

What if life constantly wants to have sex with you and brings out the baby oil? Sometimes you have to say 'Life, I don't get down like that.' You got to tell life no.

Lol or sometimes you do. It's that lover archetype dawg life is tryna rizz you up. You finna experience the baby oil, and grow through it... just don't let it outshine life itself.

[M3tro]

Human nature.

I've had my share of women that were in relationships or married and I'm not on an athletes level.

Cold world out there.

Perv.

Vote Quimby.

In the words of the famous 21st century philosopher, Christopher Brown...

These huzz ain't loyal

[Kevin Willis]

Human nature.

I've had my share of women that were in relationships or married and I'm not on an athletes level.

Cold world out there.

Perv.

Vote Quimby.

In the words of the famous 21st century philosopher, Christopher Brown...

These huzz ain't loyal

Women are just as bad as guys, even they can get bored or 'in the mood.'

[M3tro]

Perv.

Vote Quimby.

In the words of the famous 21st century philosopher, Christopher Brown...

These huzz ain't loyal

Women are just as bad as guys, even they can get bored or 'in the mood.'

After 40 years on this earth, I've definitely come to learn that they are far, far worse.

[Kevin Willis]

I say this as someone who fights against my self constantly, you can't run from yourself. There will always be a day of reckoning. You yearn for love, so love yourself (no, not in that way, lol) and you'll have more abundance than you can even imagine -- since you'll be in love with life, and life will love you.

What if life constantly wants to have sex with you and brings out the baby oil? Sometimes you have to say 'Life, I don't get down like that.' You got to tell life no.

Lol or sometimes you do. It's that lover archetype dawg life is tryna rizz you up. You finna experience the baby oil, and grow through it... just don't let it outshine life itself.

Damn, I wasn't expecting you to go so deep.

[Clay Davis]

What if life constantly wants to have sex with you and brings out the baby oil? Sometimes you have to say 'Life, I don't get down like that.' You got to tell life no.

Lol or sometimes you do. It's that lover archetype dawg life is tryna rizz you up. You finna experience the baby oil, and grow through it... just don't let it outshine life itself.

Damn, I wasn't expecting you to go so deep.

Eyyy it's that bay-bay oiiiy-al, bay-bay! Got that rizz glidin' effohlissly

[mdenny]

As much as I joke about rizz, unrestrained lust is a serious, debilitating condition. A person's desires, indulged and not restrained, make a man a slave. Unless they admit their problems, these men are not free. They will continue being suspect to their whims for the rest of their lives, and not know security -- since they'll suspect every woman of being as flighty as they are. There's no difference between the guy who sleeps with 7 different women in 7 days and compulsive, porn-addicted masturbators.

It's better to love a woman with all of yourself -- at the level of providing, of being a source of safety, and of restraining yourself -- than to love her with only your sexual organ. Even Wilt Chamberlain said it's better to be with one woman many times than many women one time. There's a reason why every spiritual path enshrines self-discipline. There's a reason why many of the world's greatest fighters/warriors practiced abstinence.

I say this as someone who fights against my self constantly, you can't run from yourself. There will always be a day of reckoning. You yearn for love, so love yourself (no, not in that way, lol) and you'll have more abundance than you can even imagine -- since you'll be in love with life, and life will love you.

This post really hits home.

Very well written.

I'm merely paraphrasing Krishna, when he said the following to Arjuna on the plains of Kurushetra:

For a person thinking of sense objects [objects of desire] there grows an attachment for them. From attachment results desire, from desire results anger, from anger results delusion, from delusion results confusion of memory, from confusion of memory results destruction of intelligence and from destruction of intelligence he perishes.

That this was written thousands of years ago and is only just beginning to be verified "empirically" blows my mind.

I've been thinking very deeply lately about the rizz of our attention -- about how what you fix in your mind fixes you, as a person. The Muslims say "He who knows himself, knows his Rabb (Lord)" and say that salah (prayer) is difficult except for those who worship God as if they see Him. Similarly, many athletes speak less about discipline and more about obsession. For some this obsession is very pernicious (see Michael Jordan's pathological behaviour) but it illustrates just how much of our being goes into what we continuously focus on. Your body will, generally, align with what your mind is aligned with, and instance the mind is itself embodied, this process is reciprocal: your mind will deepen in its sensitivity when it is aligned with your mind. This is a cool thing to observe when the person is enfixed upon something that is, for lack of a better word, virtuous. The focused athlete... the focused scientist... the focused writer. There's single-mindedness.

However, our mind and body can be self-indulgent. Just as there is the focused athlete, there is the sex addict. The pathological thief. The glutton. The drug addict. These, actually, are all manifestations of the same phenomenon. Sometimes it's okay to live like this for a bit, but you've got to actually live it in light of yourself (rather than letting it become your life, and being stuck on that stage). The rizz of life yo it's crazy dawg

Appreciate some of the deep thoughts expressed throughout this thread. I stopped having casual sex about 10 years ago.

Man...they say women are only supposed to feel empty inside the day after casual encounters. But in being honest with myself....it made me feel empty too.

When we have an encounter with someone....it should be something that makes you smile and feel good about it the days after. And that really only happens when you care about the person.

I realize it sounds corny....but I came to conclusion it was alot more corny to acknowledge my true feelings. I can still have a no strings attached encounter....but it has to be a very close friend that I actually care about. And it has to be something that creates a good memory....not something we want to forget about the day after.

[Kobe Anunoby]

You secure a baddie in Nia Long and then you end up sleepin with a team staffer that costs you your job smh. Im surprised bro still got a job after

Men are polygamous, women are hypergamous

It wasn't just the staffer.

https://www.yardbarker.com/nba/articles/ime_udokas_alleged_affair_partner_was_revealed_to_be_the_wife_of_a_valued_boston_celtics_consultant_and_had_personal_ties_with_danny_ainge/s1_16751_37977785

This dude had an affair with the wife of a consultant working with the VP of the Celtics who has close ties to Danny Ainge. Ultimately Ime was lucky that he's allowed to continue coaching after his BS. The Celtics agreed to let him go in exchange for not having to pay him the rest of his money.

Ugh wow this does happen in everyday life but still surprising....this woman has a beautiful family with 3 kids and Udoka carried on, what an ****. And she willingly destroyed her family. I had a lady also willing to destroy her family at work because her life needed a "spark".

Sharia law FTW

Actually she’s still with her family, check her instagram.