WAYYY O.T But good read for 11 Tips For Getting Over Your X

TonyMontana · Post #1 » by **TonyMontana** » Mon Mar 10, 2008 11:27 pm

Okay I do realize this has nothing to do with B.Ball , and I probably needed to put this on Community thread , BUTTTTTTT

I posted it on here since a lot more people can see it than community .
I hope the Mods will leave it here since I think its a good read and it has helped me in the past ..

Anyhow my buddy had a asked me a question about my past realtionship that I was in for 6.5 years , and how I got over it , since he is going through the same thing too.......
Well here it is .....
Oh by the way I found this online a year ago .
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Your sweetie ended it, that heartless girl. Now your future is in shambles. You feel the need to panic and beg for her back. You'll do anything to make things right.

But no matter how you try, you can't get back to that little spot of sunlight where you were so comfortable and safe.

There's only one thing left for you to do: Forget her. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but with this blueprint, you'll forget that girl and pick up the pieces of your shattered heart -- and manhood -- in no time.

1- Take her off that pedestal
Don't idolize her and build her up into something great. She is nothing of the sort. So don't gaze lovingly at pictures of her. Don't jump to answer her e-mail or phone calls. And definitely don't go out of your way for her. She no longer deserves preferential treatment.

2- Get closure
It's essential to definitively end any hopes of reconciliation between the two of you. And if you can't get that into your head, she owes you the courtesy of it crystal clear. She needs to tell you: "I never loved you. I don't love you now. We'll never get back together." After some prodding, she'll probably do it, just to get rid of you. It provides what therapists call "closure." And you can begin to heal.

3- Don't contact her
After the relationship reaches finality, you have to break off contact or you will go mad. Don't beg or cry. Don't drunk-dial. Don't write her e-mail. Don't send packages or CDs. Don't dedicate a song to her on the radio. Get the picture? She will find you if she wants to. And even if you can talk your way back into her arms, it's only a temporary reprieve. She already knows you want her back, and she doesn't care. Take that as a sign.

4- Get negative feelings out on paper
Write her a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings, then disassociate them from yourself. Throw the letter away or burn it. But definitely don't send it to her. You will only regret it. She will show her friends and her new boyfriend. And they will all share a good laugh.

5- Avoid her friends & the places she hangs
Don't venture into her territory. You won't be welcome. Find new places to hang out for the first few months and make new friends, if necessary. If any of your friends insist on maintaining contact with her, you may have to shut them out, too -- at least temporarily. After some time has passed, you should go back to living normally, and that means hanging out at these places and reconnecting with mutual friends.

6- Throw away anything that reminds you of her
You don't have to burn it all, but definitely get pictures, gifts, clothing, letters, and e-mail out of your living area, or at least out of your line of vision. If that means giving away roughly half of your wardrobe to get rid of the memory of her, so be it. As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds you of your ex, discard it. This can save your sanity.

7- Don't try to get your stuff back
Unless it's a diamond ring or something that's one-of-a-kind, you're better off not contacting her to get it back. DVDs, clothes, your extra toothbrush... just let 'em go. They're only possessions. Is it really worth the pain of being in her presence just to reclaim a pair of boxer shorts? Don't exchange your dignity for menial belongings.

8- Hang out with your friends
Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn't all that to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea. A little male camaraderie can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We've all been detonated by a woman before and most of us will likely get detonated again.

9- Exercise your newfound freedom
Freedom is always intoxicating. There's a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your "other half" didn't approve. So indulge. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Play video games on your computer. Watch TV all weekend. Do anything you want. Why not start boxing? Ideally, you want to find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress.

10- Remember the bad times
If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times she was a bitch to you. That should do it. Remember the time she made you wait by the dressing room as she endlessly tried on clothing? Or the time she reminded you not too drink too much in front of your posse? Nobody wants that back.

11- Sleep with another girl
Nothing reminds you that you are a man quite like having a new woman in your bed. So take solace in the arms of another. Call it a rebound if you wish. Plenty of heartbroken guys go this route and for a very good reason -- it makes you feel better, even if it's only temporary. So go out there and feel better about yourself!

Chubby Chaser · Post #2 » by **Chubby Chaser** » Mon Mar 10, 2008 11:47 pm

Maybe you should change your name from Tony Montana to Dr Phil

MikeyMike · Post #3 » by **MikeyMike** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:00 am

lol, nice post.

Post #4 » by **snaquille oatmeal** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:00 am

WTF, only eleven?
where is the 12th step?

Kreuk · Post #5 » by **Kreuk** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:04 am

snaquille oatmeal wrote:WTF, only eleven?
where is the 12th step?

anything that takes 12 steps isn't worth doing.

Chubby Chaser · Post #6 » by **Chubby Chaser** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:16 am

Kobot wrote:-= original quote snipped =-

anything that takes 12 steps isn't worth quiting.

fixed

TonyMontana · Post #7 » by **TonyMontana** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:41 am

Kobe D wrote::o Maybe you should change your name from Tony Montana to Dr Phil

Na thats OKAY MANG ....... But if you want you can call me Dr Montana .... :rofl:

Oh I have a lot of info when it comes to women .... Believe me ...

For instance ....Pick up lines ....

All that cheese line junk never works on women these days ...

You need lines like this .....

"Wow! I really like that (insert item of clothing or fragrance) you

Post #8 » by **TyCobb** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 12:52 am

My favorite lines to use:

Please tell me you're not pregnant...

Can I use your phone real quick? I got to call my wife and make sure the kids are in bed.

Here's 75 bucks, go get your hair done.

Why do you keep looking at me? Is there a **** problem?

Hey what's up! Man, I am so happy right now. I thought I was due for my herpes outbreak, but it looks like it's going to be dormant for today! Wanna go out some time?

CITYOFANGELSX3 · Post #9 » by **CITYOFANGELSX3** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 1:39 am

Just do 11, if she does it better. You'll forget that other girl ever existed.

Post #10 » by **milesfides** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 2:24 am

12. Log on to realgm and tell us about step 11.

13. Watch every single Laker game, and pretend the opponent is your ex. Or pretend that the most annoying player is your ex. Dwayne Wade out for the season? That's right, your ex is out of your life.

14. Maybe instead of forgetting her, examine what happened. Did she do you wrong? Then you need to see her in the proper light, which will take her off her pedestal. On the other hand, did you do something wrong? Then you need to buck up and take the pain. Maybe you really are a douche bag. I'm looking at the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways. Michael couldn't, but that doesn't mean you can't.

"Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness

MikeyMike · Post #11 » by **MikeyMike** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 2:45 am

So funny this thread came up today...becuase I actually just hooked up with my ex today too.

ahhh, the irony.

tracey_nice · Post #12 » by **tracey_nice** » Tue Mar 11, 2008 3:56 am

milesfides wrote:12. Log on to realgm and tell us about step 11.

13. Watch every single Laker game, and pretend the opponent is your ex. Or pretend that the most annoying player is your ex. Dwayne Wade out for the season? That's right, your ex is out of your life.

14. Maybe instead of forgetting her, examine what happened. Did she do you wrong? Then you need to see her in the proper light, which will take her off her pedestal. On the other hand, did you do something wrong? Then you need to buck up and take the pain. Maybe you really are a douche bag. I'm looking at the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways. Michael couldn't, but that doesn't mean you can't.

"Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness