Post#77 » by thehandler3 » Sun Apr 10, 2011 6:31 pm
Damn, so many heartbreaking stories told here makes me question whether I should take that same leap of faith with the girl I like. I'm a sophomore in college and I've been talking to this girl for about a full year now. I'd have to say she's about a 7/10 with me probably being in that same range. We're pretty good friends, not like "BFFs" like some other guys here because I've tried to make sure I don't enter that dreaded "Friend Zone"(Something, I've been victim of on numerous occasions). We'll talk about 2-3 times a week and we have good conversations, nothing flirty but still good talks, rarely bad ones if any bad ones at all. I don't really flirt with her because, first I am not good at it honestly, but second one of the things she's talked to me about are the horrible guys that've tried to spit game to her and how she doesn't understand people she rarely knows can be so bold and "creepy"(in her words). However she never talks about guys she does like so thats gotta be a good sign I guess.
She knows I want to be a Sports personality (tv, journalism, radio) and we're both Media Studies majors so she's helped out on a few occasions in getting me in contact with the school's internship coordinator and she forwarded me information to an internship fair at my school last week which she even decided to attend with me once I suggested she go with me. We've also taken trains and buses together to and from school on occasion as well .The problem with this girl is that she can kind of be tough to read (my brother's talked to her and agreed with me). Like I've seen her with people she doesn't like or feels uncomfortable around and there's definetly an iciness that's never there when she talks to me, but she's not really one of those outgoing girls where it's easy to tell how she feels about you by looking at her body language.
I have my reservations about asking her out because like I said it's hard to read her, but also I go to a commuter school and while we're not BFFs like I said, I don't have that many friends at school (most of the people I hangout with are from High School which she went to as well but we never talked back then) and I really wouldn't want to lose one of my closer friends in college when perhaps I could have known better if she liked me if I would have been more patient. She's already told me about one guy, who I happen to be friends with, who she recently rejected because she felt she didn't know him well enough and felt uncomfortable jumping in a relationship before she really got to be friends with him and now she feels really awkward around him. I pretty much know for a fact that I am on better terms with her now than he was but as a guy who's damaged friendships in the past by asking friends out, stuff like that sill makes me wary to make a move. Thoughts?