OT: Need advice for getting over a break up

[TRG]

The first one is always hard to get over, it takes a while. Just go out have fun and do stuff. Seriously get out of the house. 20 years old sheesh you're just starting. To be honest ages 18-28 should be just going out having fun none of that serious relationship stuff. Get your grades up, get your money up.

Maybe you guys spent too much time with one another. Not sure why anyone 20 yrs old would want to act like a married couple. You don't need to make her regret leaving you, it such a waste of time and energy. Don't ever contact her again EVER EVER AGAIN. It's a learning experience, learn from it and move on.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HIPJrrQlxzY[/youtube]

^ which one of these chicks was her?

LOL that vid was hilarious I got a good laugh out of it... I'd say she was a mix of the cute yet insecure girl and the friend. :p

[theFRANCHISE]

The first one is always hard to get over, it takes a while. Just go out have fun and do stuff. Seriously get out of the house. 20 years old sheesh you're just starting. To be honest ages 18-28 should be just going out having fun none of that serious relationship stuff. Get your grades up, get your money up.

Maybe you guys spent too much time with one another. Not sure why anyone 20 yrs old would want to act like a married couple. You don't need to make her regret leaving you, it such a waste of time and energy. Don't ever contact her again EVER EVER AGAIN. It's a learning experience, learn from it and move on.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HIPJrrQlxzY[/youtube]

^ which one of these chicks was her?

LOL that vid was hilarious I got a good laugh out of it... I'd say she was a mix of the cute yet insecure girl and the friend. :p

I am assuming she was the hot dumb one lol insecure? No daddy growing up? I've dated 5 out of the 6, lol but they were mixed also (The Dumb Hot One/That Likes To Party) (The Perfect One/Goes to Church) (The Best friend) lol

[DieHardBallFan]

If it makes you feel better likely she is still thinking of you and lots remind her of you as well.

I been through this but I was the one who broke up with her. She likely is not showing you she misses you because she wants to make you feel pain and think she doesn't care. But she does. Trust me.

Let her go to the new guy and see he doesn't give her what you did. Sure they might sleep together once, then she will soon realize he just doesn't mentally please her. Majority of first time relationships that end, end up back together at some point.

Don't know if that helps at all but its all about being a man and not running back to her and telling her you miss her. Just show her you can move on to.

my 2 vents.

[mopper8]

If you're friends on facebook, you should definitely not visit her facebook page, and if you can't keep yourself from doing it, defriend her. Similarly, if you have photos of her on your computer, you should delete them (save 'em first on an external hard drive if you want, just no easy access). Lots of studies show that having reminders easily accessible extends the feelings.

Best way to move on is to move on. Get reminders of her out of your life, and do all the other things you would normally do--play ball, go to work/school, hang out with your buddies, etc. It's okay to wallow in it for a few days, to be expected, but then, the more you indulge those feelings, the worse off you'll be. Getting out of the house/apartment/whatever and into social situations helps too.

[Heat fan06]

How's things now?

[robbie_886]

Once you fall in love and start having sex with your new girlfriend, you won't even remember her.

[crazy_me_87]

wow Miami Heat fans seem to be great love advisers i´m freakin impressed


seriusly.. to the OP.. sure it is tough.. after my first girlfriend left me 5 years ago.. i thought my life would end... but it didn´t she will always be "special" to you because she was the first.. but i can assure you... 3 relationships later.. life goes on.. it is trail and error most of the time until you hit the jackpot

just keep going and always remember: if you are true to yourself... trying to be the best man you can be.. at one time you will met this special women^^ someone earlier here said it very well: you can´t even imagine how many girls on this planet would love to be with you right now... you just need to stay you and be happy with your own life... then love will find you

[GeneralNash]

Get the money....get the power...get the power...get the girl. Scarface I think? Any way Op 20 years from now you will be old and have a gut, and engulfed in your job, and your parents will be passing on soon...and the last thing on your mind will be some chick from 20 years ago who thought her poop didn't stink. Crazy I know but enjoy the 20s and stop sulking because father time is ruthless and takes us all one by one. Man I got depressed after this response. Any way live worry free as long as you can.

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[Wydmuch]

Go get some gaaaiiinnnsss - muscle gains. Really, for once: 1) you're gonna build a new level of confidence and pretty quickly hook up with another chick ; 2) if you ever meet her again - LOOK AT THAT FOOORMMMMMHHH, man! Look at it! Might sound weird, but when I broke up with my ex, thinking about meeting her again and me being in super shape (better when we were together), that gave me some real nice motivation.

Seriously, hit the gym, get some muscles. I promise you that it will add a lot.

As for other things you can do - some people will say "don't hit the bottle", "don't drink, it won't help you in anyway". I call BS on that. Its normal to feed bad, hopeless, etc., so go out with your male buds, or even better - female buddies - and treat yourself good. Heck, go wild, get drunk, fool around with some random, mediocre chicks! Get crazy.

Thats my advice. 20 yrs old? MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN. You will meet plenny of women, trust me. Better than this one, I guaranteeeee it!

[TripleC]

Go get some gaaaiiinnnsss - muscle gains. Really, for once: 1) you're gonna build a new level of confidence and pretty quickly hook up with another chick ; 2) if you ever meet her again - LOOK AT THAT FOOORMMMMMHHH, man! Look at it! Might sound weird, but when I broke up with my ex, thinking about meeting her again and me being in super shape (better when we were together), that gave me some real nice motivation.

Seriously, hit the gym, get some muscles. I promise you that it will add a lot.

As for other things you can do - some people will say "don't hit the bottle", "don't drink, it won't help you in anyway". I call BS on that. Its normal to feed bad, hopeless, etc., so go out with your male buds, or even better - female buddies - and treat yourself good. Heck, go wild, get drunk, fool around with some random, mediocre chicks! Get crazy.

Thats my advice. 20 yrs old? MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN. You will meet plenny of women, trust me. Better than this one, I guaranteeeee it!

YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[seminoles1993]

Lmao this thread is still up? The guy prolly met another girl and married already but seriously how's it going for you dude? This winning streak must've helped in a big way.