nate33 wrote:Chocolate City Jordanaire wrote:HOW?
Every since slavery most black men haven't been able to raise their families. Bill Cosby played Heathcliff Huxtable. Not many dads like him exist.
I had a great dad (definitely not a perfect dad). Military officer who nurtured from when he was in his 50s until he died at age 84. Before that he provided and stayed married to my mom for over 25 years. I literally saw him redirect a white man who yelled at me and my mom. He did so without gunplay or violence, despite having been a combat veteran with two tours in Vietnam.
If not for his example and my mom's constant prayers I would be putting the I in ignorant.
nate, slavery destabilized black families and stigmatized black men, particularly.
My thought about the "hero mom" who beat her son was "Where is his dad?"
Nate33, I wish you could be a big black man for a week.

CCJ, I hope you keep challenging me on my arguments. I appreciate our back and forth on these issues.
While there can be no doubt that slavery destabilized black families, it is my understanding that black families had largely recovered within the next 75 years.
According to
Thomas Sowell:
• In 1950, 72 percent of all black men and 81 percent of black women had been married.
• Every census from 1890 to 1950 showed that black labor force participation rates were higher than those of whites.
• Prior to the 1960’s the unemployment rate for black 16 and 17-year olds was under 10 percent.
• Before 1960, the number of teenage pregnancies had been decreasing; both poverty and dependency were declining, and black income was rising in both absolute and relative terms to white income.
• In 1965, 76.4 percent of black children were born to married women.
So in the 50's and into the 60's, the black family was doing pretty well by many measures. But since then, this is what happened:
Illegitmacy Rates
Welfare encouraged the economics of poverty. Family court encourages baby mommas to just bank the child support and kick the baby daddy to the curb. Laws like what attorney William Murphy spoke of a few nights ago have promoted rampant incarceration of black men in inner-city settings. Bling culture and reality shows encourage what used to be considered profligate lifestyle. Black men and black women I truly believe have an aversion for one another, for the most part.
All my OPINIONS. Of course I could be wrong.
Nate33, you expand my thinking as well. When I typed I wish you could be a big black man for a week I also thought about how might I perceive the world if I grew up in your shoes and looked like you?
When I was a HS senior, I got to go to Boston. My band teacher was from Millis, MA. All white community. His friend was a band teacher there. Right during heated forced school bussing demonstrations in Boston, each member of our HS band roomed with a local family. (Friendly was about 65/35 white/black then--pretty diverse!) Later, those same (all white) kids visited us at Friendly. A couple white youth stayed at my house in Fort Washington (right off Allentown Road).
The experience was a great one. I never had fresh baked bread. The family had a wood stove, and they had logs for fire. I was very accustomed to being around whites. They must have been cool with me. I don't recall much, other than the HS mischief friends and I engaged in in Boston.
I recall those things and the HOT 25-yr old strings teacher who changed her dress on the charter bus. Teacher in panties and bra, right in front of me.

Ms.A was something that I will never forget...
My band teacher used to ask me if I got high.

Dude was my all time favorite teacher. He understood me.
I also think he was banging Ms A!

I wish I weren't so square and naive back then.

Back to the black family -- great stats and charts, nate33. Personally, I think around he time prayer left schools and people became so "enlightened" in the 60s, stuff went bad for family in America. I recall when my mom became a GS worker at the Library of Congress (in 1972 or 73). Prior to that she was a stay at home mom. She began to challenge my dad once she had money and some autonomy. (But she stilled cooked and acted like a traditional housewife.) Black women have been able to adapt and parlay their work ethic and IMO easier acceptance by whites and corporate America into more lucrative positions.
I think most black women view anything but black male athletes, entertainers, and upwardly mobile men as "scrubs". On the flip side, women of all races are much more apt to use sexuality to advance themselves and not raise a family.
Only the ones from real stable, nuclear families want the "white picket fence".
Underclass folks have all kinds of baby daddies. I married one. Just my very biased opinion...
