[Community Thread] Welcome To New York! - Intros Here Too

[sushibear]

Yeah. I can't think of anything else why she turned you down especially after you all ready had sex with her. Ouch

[Lord Commander]

You tipped your feelings way too soon, bro. It’s been my experience that women respond better when you seem disinterested. It’s a bs game to play, but that’s how it is. Next time you’ll know.

The lies.
If a person doesn’t like you they just don’t like you. No need to play games. Move on and find someone that does like you.

We’ve already gotten past the baseline like/dislike. Question: what’s more appealing and interesting to you, a guy in your face expressing his feelings for you after two dates, or a guy who’s inaccessible and hard to figure out?

[Fat]

You all need to leave apps alone. Go find women while doing everday things. Grocery store, mechanics, nail salons(get your feet done). Food spots. Gas stations. Department stores. Malls.



If not you will simply continue to get curved with the quickness.

women in grocery stores = married with kids
women in nail salon = stripper
women at the Mechanics = admires a manly job and wants the D
women in food spots = fat and depressed
women at Gas stations = running from the law
women in malls = gold digger

[magnumt]

This is going to be a lame thread and probably reactionary so please don’t jump on me too much. I know I’ll sound like a loser.

I went on 2 dates with this girl and we had a great time. Second time was at her apartment and we had sex. We kept talking for days after and she wanted to see me again but today she dropped it on me that she doesn’t feel anything romantically and doesn’t want to hurt me. That’s fair - but is it weird that I feel hurt by being turned down after 2 dates? That’s not a long time. It’s like 2-3 weeks but I really liked this girl and feel like **** because apparently she didn’t have the same feelings back.

Am I a lame for having feelings for someone so quickly?

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Not really. I mean - you've gotta be what? 30s? Late 20s at least. You know what you want.

Sounds like you're generally more interested in and ready for something longer term and she wasn't. That's too bad but something you can bring into your next sitch.

I'll just say she did you a favor. This would've hurt a lot more if done two months down the road.

Gold wisdom here.

Like Cap said tho, it seems like you guys went into this looking for casualness but ended up in more seriousness territory (which might've scared her away as she wasn't ready for that). Since you seem to be tho, you need to look for something serious from the get-go. Something you can bring up in conversations on future dates.

It's a fine line to tread tho as you don't want to come across as clingy/needy, but you do want to make your intentions clear enough to not end up b in situations like these. Where you're becoming emotionally involved and it's not mutual.

Hope that helps! Good luck!

--Mags

[spree8]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

[MP4LIFE]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

[kenneyy88]

So you don't support women's rights?

[Fat]

relationships from online rarely work, However you feel about that person there are probably 10 other dudes shes been communicating with on that same app that she smashed, will smash or has some type of feeling for


i used to be on those apps but i never took it serious i posted face only pictures, flirted with multiple females which lead to some relaxing phone sex. i usually blew them off once they wanted to meet up or started asking for full body pictures then it was onto the next one

[MP4LIFE]

relationships from online rarely work, However you feel about that person there are probably 10 other dudes shes been communicating with on that same app that she smashed or will smash or has some type of feeling for


i used to be on those apps but i never took it serious i posted face only pictures, flirted with multiple females which lead to some relaxing phone sex. i usually blew them off once they wanted to meet up or started asking for full body pictures then it was onto the next one

Where are you meeting women at, fatboy? Church?

[spree8]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

Bruh, you should’ve dipped first lol.

[mrpoetryNmotion]

Where did you meet her? context helps

Bumble, which I think is a step above Tinder.

Welp, there you go. You met her on a dating app. You got your answer.

I use Bumble and Tinder. They're one in the same. The issue is what I said in my first post. Girls who have access or use dating apps are almost impossible to date because they know they have the entire menu on their plate so there's no need to settle for one.

I've dated approximately 15 different women from Tinder/Bumble this Winter alone and can tell you similar things have happened to me. She found a new guy to play with on Bumble or is having second thoughts as she doesn't know what she wants. I'm giving you that advice because it's happened to me so many times before via dating apps.

I kind of disagree or at least think this applies to both sexes so we're back at square one. Dating in this day and age is can be depressing or fun depending on your outlook and how you approach things. Honestly, I've experienced the "having too many options" thing more often than have been a victim to it. I think everyone is just trying to find that mutually realized match and will cut their other options once they find it...or at least won't commit to anything until they do.

Hard to generalize this particular girl, but yeah, she might have found what she deemed a better option. Sex is one thing, but I wouldn't catch feelings until there's some clarification regarding what y'all both are looking for, generally, and what you might be looking for with each other. Sucks to be turned down, but the blessing (and curse) with dating apps is that you can match with someone else tomorrow who could completely make you forget about whatever that two date fling was.

[Fat]

relationships from online rarely work, However you feel about that person there are probably 10 other dudes shes been communicating with on that same app that she smashed or will smash or has some type of feeling for


i used to be on those apps but i never took it serious i posted face only pictures, flirted with multiple females which lead to some relaxing phone sex. i usually blew them off once they wanted to meet up or started asking for full body pictures then it was onto the next one

Where are you meeting women at, fatboy? Church?

i don't meet anyone im not a relationship type of guy i have a friend with benefits and thats all i need.. for now. But if i was trying to meet someone id just let it happen on its own and let fate guide me to that moment. Its not something ill sign up for or wake up one day and just go looking for somebody.

[Capn'O]

Like Cap said tho, it seems like you guys went into this looking for casualness but ended up in more seriousness territory (which might've scared her away as she wasn't ready for that). Since you seem to be tho, you need to look for something serious from the get-go. Something you can bring up in conversations on future dates.

That's exactly what I think happened.

My boss recently told me that when he was on his first date with his wife he told her at the end of the date that

1. he wouldn't get married before finishing college
2. he wouldn't have kids before getting a house

A bold strategy Cotton, indeed, but that's his style right there. Not gonna be a winning hand every time but if it works once you're gucci

[HarthorneWingo]

A couple more things to keep in mind:

1. The pussy is all powerful. Don't forget that.

2. Strictly from a transactional perspective, you made an offer and she accepted. You could have withheld the offer until you get to know her better but then you wouldn't have gotten the pussy. I wouldn't crawl back into a shell over this. You did pretty good. Just keep offering yourself up.

Watch on YouTube

[DOLPHIN2020]

You all need to leave apps alone. Go find women while doing everday things. Grocery store, mechanics, nail salons(get your feet done). Food spots. Gas stations. Department stores. Malls.



If not you will simply continue to get curved with the quickness.

women in grocery stores = married with kids
women in nail salon = stripper
women at the Mechanics = admires a manly job and wants the D
women in food spots = fat and depressed
women at Gas stations = running from the law
women in malls = gold digger

brilliant post

[MP4LIFE]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

Bruh, you should’ve dipped first lol.

True, it wasn’t going to work. I think I just wanted more sex...lol

[Context]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

no offense my brother but thats how i know you didn't (excuse the term) fu*k her into the ground. If after you have a sex with a women and she doesnt look at you with puppy eyes- you didnt f*ck her right...I dont care what time period we're in- if you dont know how to f*ck a women like that (learn) and if you do but took off for the night - NEVER do that in the beginning...And I agree with Spree stay away from politics. Women know how to avoid certain discussions with a man as well. You need to do the same.

Outside of that - be yourself, be nice but at the same time dont "give a f*ck" too much...

[MP4LIFE]

Damn man, you shouldn’t be having a political convo with a girl you just met and especially thru text. And if you are, who cares about that shyt.. just agree with whatever she says. With so much competition out there, you give her the smallest reason and it’s on to the next. That’s where you fuq’d up.

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

no offense my brother but thats how i know you didn't (excuse the term) fu*k her into the ground. If after you have a sex with a women and she doesnt look at you with puppy eyes- you didnt f*ck her right...I dont care what time period we're in- if you dont know how to f*ck a women like that (learn) and if you do but took off for the night - NEVER do that in the beginning...And I agree with Spree stay away from politics. Women know how to avoid certain discussions with a man as well. You need to do the same.

Outside of that - be yourself, be nice but at the same time dont "give a f*ck" too much...

I **** and left. You’re saying **** (good) and stay in the beginning? I couldn’t physically stay.

[Context]

I agree but it wasn’t my choice. She initiated it and, honestly, it was very very important to her so in the long run it wasn’t going to work out because she wanted someone who thought exactly like her. She also was like ‘men can stay home and cook and can take care of the kids too’.

no offense my brother but thats how i know you didn't (excuse the term) fu*k her into the ground. If after you have a sex with a women and she doesnt look at you with puppy eyes- you didnt f*ck her right...I dont care what time period we're in- if you dont know how to f*ck a women like that (learn) and if you do but took off for the night - NEVER do that in the beginning...And I agree with Spree stay away from politics. Women know how to avoid certain discussions with a man as well. You need to do the same.

Outside of that - be yourself, be nice but at the same time dont "give a f*ck" too much...

I **** and left. You’re saying **** (good) and stay in the beginning? I couldn’t physically stay.

not sure what youre asking?

[Mecca]

Bumble, which I think is a step above Tinder.

Welp, there you go. You met her on a dating app. You got your answer.

I use Bumble and Tinder. They're one in the same. The issue is what I said in my first post. Girls who have access or use dating apps are almost impossible to date because they know they have the entire menu on their plate so there's no need to settle for one.

I've dated approximately 15 different women from Tinder/Bumble this Winter alone and can tell you similar things have happened to me. She found a new guy to play with on Bumble or is having second thoughts as she doesn't know what she wants. I'm giving you that advice because it's happened to me so many times before via dating apps.

I kind of disagree or at least think this applies to both sexes so we're back at square one. Dating in this day and age is can be depressing or fun depending on your outlook and how you approach things. Honestly, I've experienced the "having too many options" thing more often than have been a victim to it. I think everyone is just trying to find that mutually realized match and will cut their other options once they find it...or at least won't commit to anything until they do.

Hard to generalize this particular girl, but yeah, she might have found what she deemed a better option. Sex is one thing, but I wouldn't catch feelings until there's some clarification regarding what y'all both are looking for, generally, and what you might be looking for with each other. Sucks to be turned down, but the blessing (and curse) with dating apps is that you can match with someone else tomorrow who could completely make you forget about whatever that two date fling was.

I'm saying online dating. This is because the apps are normally 65/35 male/female ratio with most men being more active and even paid users, thus women have more options.

I normally experience the "having too many options" as well so it definitely is a 2 way street. I'm usually talking to 3-5 girls at one time because only 1 normally hits into sex or something greater. It's almost like sales in a way.