I_Like_Dirt wrote:daoneandonly wrote:The social life, yeah sure, you did an act to get pregnant, you have an obligation to see that child has life. There are things like adoption that's readily available, so no there's no being responsible for 18 years, it';s 9 months. 9 friggin months, but no, kill the child and make my life easier.
Thank goodness you're here to explain how simple of a problem this really is and how simply it can be resolved. Adoptions and foster care? Why didn't anyone else thing of that!
Wait! All those pregnancies early? I wonder how many abortions are a result of all of that. You know what! You've convinced me. Let's forget all this banning abortion stuff and take some time and fix the foster care system! I hear you have an added $200 every paycheck from some recent tax cuts that's burning a hole in your pocket.
As for your quote about how they "did an act" and it's "9 friggin months," for one, how about you prove they did an act without any sense of coercion involved whatsoever. Why are we presuming guilty and forcing them to prove their innocence? Why are we disproportionately placing the costs involved on them? And how on earth did you come to the "9 friggin months" number? I'm guessing because you're aware that's roughly the incubation time for a baby. But the medical fallout, social stigma, and potential career damage as a result of missing time at work as well as the social stigma are definitely not over in 9 months. For the male who was far more likely to have "done an act" without any coercion, the consequences are largely nonexistent.
adoption reform would go a long way to fix these problems in our adoption system. I dont know this topic well at all and if you are informed then i would gladly listen....but your problems listed above have unknown origins. Here are some ideas:
1. No foreign adoptions until our own american babies are adopted first. How many foreign babies are adopted each year.
2. better foster care. better vetting. unfortunately...weirdos that want to hurt children often work with children...so children in the system are often traumatized and difficult which scares away potential adoptive parents. fix that. redirect abortion money to adoptive services instead. Money and good legislation with good oversight can fix almost anything.
3. charge money to adopt. If millionaires like Angelina jolie and laura ingraham want to adopt babies, charge them $500K each baby. Use that money to help other families that adopt older children that are older and less desired.
I'm willing to bet that most of the children in foster care come from troubled parents. drug addicts, felons, criminals in general, or otherwise abusive parents etc. <--poor desperate people where the likelihood of them having a child is tied to the monthly check that they will receive each month. As induveca pointed outed...many young poor women look at as having a baby as a means to maybe keep a buy around and pay the the bills. then she has a few more children and that check gets larger. But...
If you get rid of the incentives. get rid of the "free stuff" like section 8 housing and a monthly check and food stamps just for having children, many many many women will choose not to have a child. Use condoms, Use other forms of birth control. In many cases the safety net program has simply become a life style itself has exacerbated the problem and the spending.
Look, i dont want children to have children. I dont want a 15,16,17,18 year olds having children. In the US the chances of that teenager being ready to be a mom or dad is very low. I prefer those teenagers go to college. So if we remove the "free stuff" altogether most wont have children. Instead of "free stuff" just for having a child, give employers tax incentives to hire moms and provide day care so long as mom works. I can support and want to help those that help themselves.
But if mom and dad dont or wont work? And buy drugs with safety net money? Not good. For anyone. Those types of "parents need their funds removed and need to be shamed by the entire community into changing. And i fear its "parents" like this that have created the adoption crisis you describe above.
like i said, its a full rebuild.