League Circles wrote:Michael Jackson wrote:dice wrote:like you, i am not black, but i would imagine that the most damaging form of personal racism these days is the subtle kind. when someone mistreats you and you suspect that they're racist but aren't sure. in most locations, so few people are overtly racist these days that they're broadly seen as ridiculous. but i defer to the black posters here if they care to speak to that
Subtle racism is so bad right now. I think it is so subtle that most people are unaware that they are being racist, they truly are oblivious of their racism. I believe that they believe that they aren't being racist, but that is not the case. An example in my life is my mother in-law claiming she is not racist, before making racist comments about African Americans, which she does in our house in front of her half black granddaughter. She was asked to leave and still clueless that she was being racist. That is far from an only example but that one is pretty on the nose. It is odd how many times I hear that my daughter is "ok". WTF do you mean she is OK? "I mean I am not racist, see I talk to your daughter so I don't have a problem with her being black?" Insanely ignorant. This is by no means a broad scope of white people, but it sometimes is shocking to see how many do have those views. It seems to be to simply qualify as not being racist, is you don't drop N Bombs in front of Black people and viola I am not racist? It's a real low bar to qualify with that tag. The I'm not racist or I have a black friend statement is often said and immediately followed by a racist statement that that person is willfully oblivious is a racist statement. The reason I say willfully is because if they weren't thinking their statement is racist they would not need to "qualify" their statement.
I agree there is a lot of that - racists disclaiming racism. That said, there is also some disclaiming of racism when there actually isn't racism being used due to outrage culture where so many things are immediately tagged with the "racist" accusation. I believe you but FWIW you haven't offered any detail that would lead one to believe one way or the other in this case (you haven't indicated what was uttered).
In that particular case, it was a misinformed tirade on how the neighborhood was being ruined (Lisle and Naperville) by all the blacks moving, how crime was on the rise because the liberal government is letting them into our safe communities. In fairness there is nothing "subtle" about their racism at all, and good for them they hate all equally, be it mexican, asian, or "sand n's" just flat out disgusting. They scratch their head on why my kids aren't allowed to visit them except under my supervision...
That example though isn't really the point as we know those people exist, it isn't an outlier but to be honest there isn't much that gets through to people like that and they are a waste of breathe. My issue the past week is the views of some people (I mean it is exhausting listening to some of these arguments) and the closed mindedness to the whole subject. Easily dismissing this because it is all just an "excuse" to loot. That is more of the subtle racism, where people aren't even willing to look at systemic racism as being a problem at all (not saying there are no counter points but there seems to be a brush off of even having the discussion) just to often ignoring everything and saying that "those people" just bring on their problems, but I am not racist you know, we are both friends with "this black guy" etc... He is one of the good ones....
While I get that this exists in droves out there, I didn't know it existed as much as it did.
Mind you I don't think systemic racism is all too blame, there are a lot of factors, but to just disregard what is going on, is well close minded to me and just furthering the problem. It does take more than simply not being one who has a desire to lynch minorities.
League you are more than willing to have open honest dialogue... and that is really needed right now. Any extremist view either way is not going to enact change but just create greater division. This thread has a lot of great discussion indeed.
One of my most frustrating things I have heard from people (I have a lot of customers in multiple states) is that people are afraid that Black people are trying to enslave them.... It is an illogical fear that misses the whole point, reactionary uneducated thoughts like that need to be changed in order for discussion to be had. Oddly a lot of poor white people who have been discriminated against by police and the system are the ones most vocal about this, yet they are blind to see they are also being oppressed, yet they have been convinced that supporting the oppressors is the right thing to do. This is simply about not complete racial equality, but just the stopping of UNFAIR treatment of certain communities. It's not just racial, it is absolutely a soci-economic issue too, but we have a plethora of examples from the black community recently to show well especially in this community we need to make a change first. Stop sweeping it under the rug.
This topic was started prior to Floyd, and was about the merciless killings that have been going on in Chicago for decades. If you look up the statistics, when Benji was killed was actually higher than it is today and I think 90 or 91 was the peak with over a 1000 dead. I too often hear that is how "they" want it? Who wants that? That community wants that? They do? They want to fear for being murdered everytime they leave their house? It does baffle me that people cn be so callous and simplify and dismiss the situation to that and then move on with their lives. I get it there is no turn key solution, but just to brush it off is inhumane in my eyes.
SORRY seriously this is mostly incomprehensible and all over the place but I have been all over emotionally. As a child I was beaten by children at school, even got stomped on in third grade and had my head cracked open by 4 older kids. I had no control over the discrimination which had nothing to do with race in any way shape or form. It does bring up PTSD in me though and I get a bit unraveled when I see it happen. I ended up defending myself and got really good at it and everyone eventually left me alone by the time HS came around. Blah blah blah no more sidecar distraction I have to stop typing LOL