GetOverIt wrote:CBS7 wrote:GetOverIt wrote:
Sounds like a great life for your parents. Sit at home until you die of old age or take the .03% chance of death and leave the house and be around loved ones. I know my answer. God speed to you and your parents. I hope everything turns out how you wanted in the end.
My parents are old. My dad's health is poor enough to where he probably will die if he got it. Definitely not a .03% chance.
My parents and i don't live near our loved ones. They live across the country. Flights are already tough for my dad. Wouldn't be a good idea to do it with the added stress, not to mention the risk.
Floated the idea of renting an RV and driving cross country. but they are incredibly hard to find in my area lately. Plus I've never driven a vehicle bigger than a small pickup, so it would be a bit nerve racking.
Yea that's a hard situation you are going through man, especially with your dads health. I just hope all this **** doesn't cause you to miss valuable time with your parents (it sort of sounds like it has already) that you may never have the chance to get back. I am a lot different then most when it comes to this. I'd rather take my chances with the Rona then never see my kids or loved ones for multiple years and depending on my age maybe ever again. I respect your view on it but I will never allow the fear of anything keep me from people I enjoy to be around. Our time here isn't that long to begin with in the grand scheme of things. Like I said. I really hope everything works out for you and yours.
It's definitely a hard situation. I understand your opinion, that gambling on ducking the disease or not infecting your high-risk family members trumps avoiding them for all this time. Back when this was ravaging NYC, I had to see the desperate sadness of a great friend not be able to bury his own father, at the height of the fears. He's still in such grief, and just furious at the rest of the country's malaise to respond when it was clear early on it might spread like wildfire through this country, not just China then Italy.
I met my best friend's newborn second daughter all of two times - Day 5 and Month 1 - now she's almost 7 months old and he and I are both limiting our personal interactions to close family. His 3 year old at least recognizes me on a Zoom. My father, like CBS7's, is a very high-risk target. He's already suffered some very threatening health setbacks unrelated to the virus - though likely related to the stress of living a very, very confusing and isolated life. I think a lot of communities and large families will never have a direct, close loss. And, since there's simply no right side to any of this, I know more people whose lives have been completely upturned into catastrophe simply because of the shutdown, not the actual virus.
If I wasn't interacting daily with my parents, and had I not seen the misery of multiple friends who buried parents, I would bet I'd be back bartending (my town is open and the bars are pretty openly flaunting no-masks). There are still a ton of people out having a blast, and I've turned down some pre-covid fantastic bar opportunities now. Turned down so many texts from friends and a couple no-strings hookups. Cancelled what I planned on being the most travel in one year of my life. My lifestyle the last 20 years has come to a crashing end. On my side, though, it's worth it to know that I'm keeping my parents (and everyone else I'd interact with in a busy bar) safer by limiting my own exposure so much as well. Underneath the socialite skin, my inner introvert is doing well and excels at this whole loner thing. I hope you and yours as well come out of this safely, with more new good habits than bad; that's my goal anyway!
