There is a difference between relationships that are older like 33-28, compare to younger 23-18. When you are near your 30s a five years difference can relate to each other better than a couple 23 & 18, because they have been through life.18-25 there is a rapid change and maturity. Just like a 15 year old dating a 10 year old, you cant compare that to a 30 yr old dating a 28 yr old. There is a huge maturity gap. Yea she is an adult but the girl hasnt become a woman yet, she needs to learn and grow up.
heatwillbeback wrote:23 and most likely 18 isnt a big deal at all age wise.
This. I'm 33 and my wife is 28. Pretty normal, actually.
Most people who get married around 18 end up a failure more than any older couple. Usually people who prey on young partner like that is because they are vulnerable and impressionable. Most likely he took advantage of the young girl vulnerability. Being a 18 you never had a true adult relationship.
Hell my cousin spent a year in prison for statutory rape for being caught having sex with a girl he was dating, she was 16 and he was 18. Lost his full basketball scholarship and now registered as a sexual predator because of the situation.
I agree with most of the bolded section. Both are just way too young. Perhaps he's grown up a bit quicker being in the NBA, I dunno, but she's only 18 years old. They've so much to learn still, so much to grow maturity wise and still so much to figure out about themselves. I'm 47 and my wife is 38. We've been together about 8 years and married the last 3 years. She has kids, I have kids so we have a lot of common experience bringing up the kids. I just think there's a lot missing at such a young age.
Now that does not necessarily mean their marriage will fail. They could be the one in a hundred couple that makes it. As someone else mentioned, they may not even get married for a while. Tha twould help, although I don't know why the rush to get engaged then unless she was dating another NBA player (hahaha). The bottom line is... these kids are adults and capable of making their own decisions, no matter how wrong you or I or anyone else may think it is. just wish them luck cuz they're gonna need it, just as a lot of other relationships need it.