Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School

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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#106 » by og15 » Sat Jan 11, 2014 4:51 am

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og15 wrote: A 25 year old marrying a 20 year old isn't something odd.


It isn't odd, but personally I feel like everyone goes through a big change in character and outlook on life from ~18-23, and then again in another 3-5 years, becoming quite different people (at least in things effecting life decisions, like changing thoughts on career, changing your mind about things you care about the most) and perhaps with completely different tastes. And it's also impossible to predict. The world is a big place and it's pretty hard to be totally sure what you will be satisfied with when your experience is so limited.

I'm not saying it's weird/wrong but I'd be very, very cautious if I were either of them. A lot of people who "strike out" on marrying their loved one decide they were glad they missed out/got rejected, given 5 years.

I agree, and that is why people shouldn't get married impulsively
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#107 » by LukasBMW » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:07 am

With those eyebrows, she should have married Anthony Davis. Their kids would have one THICK unibrow!
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#108 » by 13th Man » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:09 am

It may look good for him now to lock down some prime bait but when he's 35 (still prime age for a man), she'll be 30. Who's going to be laughing then? :)
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#109 » by Sonny Carson » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:27 am

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It was a merry Christmas for Utah Jazz player Gordon Hayward: he proposed and she said, "Yes!"

Hayward, 23, posted a photo on his Instagram account of himself and his new fiancee, Robyn Van Vliet, on Christmas day, with the caption: "Merry Christmas to everyone out there! Hope it’s a good one! Mine was especially good bc SHE SAID YES!!!! So thrilled I get to marry my best friend and such an amazing person @robynvanvliet! I love you!!!"


According to Van Vliet’s Facebook page, she graduated in 2013 from an Indiana high school and is currently attending cosmetology school.


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Apparently they been dating since September....whats your thought?

Gordon on that bait..
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#110 » by KyletheDingbat » Sat Jan 11, 2014 6:48 am

Culture's a little crazy when the pressure is on people to marry and start families 10+ years after their biological primes. Get married young and get after it! Don't wanna be your own kids grandpa. Good on ya Gordon.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#111 » by WOX_69 » Sat Jan 11, 2014 7:08 am

Good Lord people, let the man be. If he wants to be married to the lady then be happy for him.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#112 » by MitchellUK » Sat Jan 11, 2014 7:17 am

Lot of people talking like he's married her already. He only proposed. Yes, it's a commitment in and of itself, the first step towards a marriage, but it isn't legally binding and it could be years before it actually becomes official. My wife and I were engaged for 5 years. I've got a couple of friends who have been together for 13 years and have been engaged for more than half that time, and they still haven't set a date.

Sure, 18 seems young, and they don't appear to have known each other for that long, but if they are happy, good for them.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#113 » by G.A. Clone » Sat Jan 11, 2014 8:19 am

She's pretty and looks like a keeper. Good for him and hope they have a happy life together.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#114 » by twix2500 » Sat Jan 11, 2014 8:29 am

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heatwillbeback wrote:23 and most likely 18 isnt a big deal at all age wise.


This. I'm 33 and my wife is 28. Pretty normal, actually.


There is a difference between relationships that are older like 33-28, compare to younger 23-18. When you are near your 30s a five years difference can relate to each other better than a couple 23 & 18, because they have been through life.18-25 there is a rapid change and maturity. Just like a 15 year old dating a 10 year old, you cant compare that to a 30 yr old dating a 28 yr old. There is a huge maturity gap. Yea she is an adult but the girl hasnt become a woman yet, she needs to learn and grow up. Most people who get married around 18 end up a failure more than any older couple. Usually people who prey on young partner like that is because they are vulnerable and impressionable. Most likely he took advantage of the young girl vulnerability. Being a 18 you never had a true adult relationship.

Hell my cousin spent a year in prison for statutory rape for being caught having sex with a girl he was dating, she was 16 and he was 18. Lost his full basketball scholarship and now registered as a sexual predator because of the situation.
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Post#115 » by BK nets BK » Sat Jan 11, 2014 9:11 am

when me and my wife got married i was 28 and she was 12 :)
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#116 » by miltk » Sat Jan 11, 2014 9:39 am

SHAQ32 wrote:
miltk wrote:when he's 40, she'll be 35.

so what.


When he was 5 she was 0. Think about that for a second.

Perv' if you ask me.


somehow,,,,going BACK in time doesn't compute. not worth thinking about :)
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#117 » by pwrshft99 » Sat Jan 11, 2014 9:44 am

Just cuz you tell her your gonna marry her don't mean your gonna marry her....

If he is smart, he popped the question, popped the rock, then popped that cherry.
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Post#118 » by DFolks » Sat Jan 11, 2014 2:18 pm

SpinninHouse wrote:I don't care who his GF and he can come to Chicago and play for da Bulls.


lol man we could use any skilled young scorer :lol:
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#119 » by Green Backpack » Sat Jan 11, 2014 2:26 pm

A high school girl.... dating since September.... getting engaged 4 months later.... yeah, this is going to end well.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#120 » by Friend_Of_Haley » Sat Jan 11, 2014 2:41 pm

MitchellUK wrote:Lot of people talking like he's married her already. He only proposed. Yes, it's a commitment in and of itself, the first step towards a marriage, but it isn't legally binding and it could be years before it actually becomes official. My wife and I were engaged for 5 years. I've got a couple of friends who have been together for 13 years and have been engaged for more than half that time, and they still haven't set a date.

Sure, 18 seems young, and they don't appear to have known each other for that long, but if they are happy, good for them.

This is actually a pretty decent point. If they wait a solid 2-3 years before actually getting married it won't seem as weird.

But the other thing is that, if one half of this relationship is going to regret it, theres just a good of a chance its the girl! 18-19 is really damn young to make a decision like that (even 23 is kind of young) and let's just hope she actually knows what she wants at this point (and Gordon). I do wonder how he met this girl though. Like someone said, its not like he could have met her in a club since she's still under 21.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#121 » by pg16kid » Sat Jan 11, 2014 3:27 pm

She's beautiful man. Good job Gordon!
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#122 » by DaVoiceMaster » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:38 pm

twix2500 wrote:
SpinninHouse wrote:
heatwillbeback wrote:23 and most likely 18 isnt a big deal at all age wise.


This. I'm 33 and my wife is 28. Pretty normal, actually.


There is a difference between relationships that are older like 33-28, compare to younger 23-18. When you are near your 30s a five years difference can relate to each other better than a couple 23 & 18, because they have been through life.18-25 there is a rapid change and maturity. Just like a 15 year old dating a 10 year old, you cant compare that to a 30 yr old dating a 28 yr old. There is a huge maturity gap. Yea she is an adult but the girl hasnt become a woman yet, she needs to learn and grow up. Most people who get married around 18 end up a failure more than any older couple. Usually people who prey on young partner like that is because they are vulnerable and impressionable. Most likely he took advantage of the young girl vulnerability. Being a 18 you never had a true adult relationship.

Hell my cousin spent a year in prison for statutory rape for being caught having sex with a girl he was dating, she was 16 and he was 18. Lost his full basketball scholarship and now registered as a sexual predator because of the situation.


I agree with most of the bolded section. Both are just way too young. Perhaps he's grown up a bit quicker being in the NBA, I dunno, but she's only 18 years old. They've so much to learn still, so much to grow maturity wise and still so much to figure out about themselves. I'm 47 and my wife is 38. We've been together about 8 years and married the last 3 years. She has kids, I have kids so we have a lot of common experience bringing up the kids. I just think there's a lot missing at such a young age.

Now that does not necessarily mean their marriage will fail. They could be the one in a hundred couple that makes it. As someone else mentioned, they may not even get married for a while. Tha twould help, although I don't know why the rush to get engaged then unless she was dating another NBA player (hahaha). The bottom line is... these kids are adults and capable of making their own decisions, no matter how wrong you or I or anyone else may think it is. just wish them luck cuz they're gonna need it, just as a lot of other relationships need it.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#123 » by Damas » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:47 pm

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twix2500 wrote:
SpinninHouse wrote:
This. I'm 33 and my wife is 28. Pretty normal, actually.


There is a difference between relationships that are older like 33-28, compare to younger 23-18. When you are near your 30s a five years difference can relate to each other better than a couple 23 & 18, because they have been through life.18-25 there is a rapid change and maturity. Just like a 15 year old dating a 10 year old, you cant compare that to a 30 yr old dating a 28 yr old. There is a huge maturity gap. Yea she is an adult but the girl hasnt become a woman yet, she needs to learn and grow up. Most people who get married around 18 end up a failure more than any older couple. Usually people who prey on young partner like that is because they are vulnerable and impressionable. Most likely he took advantage of the young girl vulnerability. Being a 18 you never had a true adult relationship.

Hell my cousin spent a year in prison for statutory rape for being caught having sex with a girl he was dating, she was 16 and he was 18. Lost his full basketball scholarship and now registered as a sexual predator because of the situation.


I agree with most of the bolded section. Both are just way too young. Perhaps he's grown up a bit quicker being in the NBA, I dunno, but she's only 18 years old. They've so much to learn still, so much to grow maturity wise and still so much to figure out about themselves. I'm 47 and my wife is 38. We've been together about 8 years and married the last 3 years. She has kids, I have kids so we have a lot of common experience bringing up the kids. I just think there's a lot missing at such a young age.

Now that does not necessarily mean their marriage will fail. They could be the one in a hundred couple that makes it. As someone else mentioned, they may not even get married for a while. Tha twould help, although I don't know why the rush to get engaged then unless she was dating another NBA player (hahaha). The bottom line is... these kids are adults and capable of making their own decisions, no matter how wrong you or I or anyone else may think it is. just wish them luck cuz they're gonna need it, just as a lot of other relationships need it.


Wow congrats on your relationship.

I got a lot of flack from people saying that he could get any girl but he chose a high school girl....I guess all I was really saying was why not experiment and have some fun. You are young, rich and plenty of opportunities....why shack up so young. He is going to see his other teammates do whatever they want while he is restricted to his girl. Not to mention, him being so young he will be on the road a lot and so he has to place faith in the girl. And she has to place even more faith on him not to screw around.

So my sentiments mirror yours, they need to do some growing up and explore who they are before making this gigantic leap in commitment but its their decision to go that direction. I wish them luck since nearly half of all marriages end up in divorce.
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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#124 » by Zubby » Sat Jan 11, 2014 5:51 pm

Sakuragi_ wrote:Fresh out? She probably already finished her first semester of college...Someone is baiting here.



Shes really cute too. Wifey material.

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Re: Gordon Hayward Marries Girl Fresh Out of High School 

Post#125 » by TheGoodDoctor » Sat Jan 11, 2014 6:09 pm

All jokes aside, personally I think it's creepy to have been dating a girl in high school at his age.

No doubt she's a beautiful girl but I can't imagine being in my last year of university and dating a girl still in highschool, that just feels wrong even picturing it. I mean just to top it off, picture being a pro bball player and I'm dating a girl in highschool; creepy....I mean whatever man but good luck with that.

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