moocow007 wrote:On a serious note though...look to join clubs that do things that you're interested in or that you have a background in. No these aren't school clubs and don't require you to be in school of any sort.
Example would be if you're big on outdoors and organics there a club I used to belong to called the Appalachian Mountain Clubs (they have Chapters pretty much throughout the northeast). One of their big ones is right in NYC. They have events and outings constantly out in the outdoors (camping, canoeing, park cleanups, feed the hungry, etc.) and will usually go grab food as a group afterwards. All sorts of things. And the people are very chill and just good honest people. No fakes or pretenders. A lot of them are older and plenty of opportunities for relationship building cause they're divorced or their significant other has passed).
I joined only cause they also have a softball club and I was just looking to play some softball on a regular basis without having to deal with big beer bellied macho guys that keep wanting to talk crap and that want to fight you if you beat them lol (grew up with those types). But for those that want to try and find someone that is nice and down to earth, clubs like these I would definitely suggest.
They get to see you and feel who you are and you them likewise without any pressure cause you're doing "community" things. Then as you do more and more things together maybe something builds. Don't need to worry about being catfished or doxed, pressure of knowing what to do on a blind date when it's just you and her (and the pressure's on), concerns that they may be nuts, etc. Think of this approach as more "organic" way of maybe finding someone.
Let's be honest the biggest problem with dating online is that everyone tries so hard to look and sound their best in their bio. Inevitably and almost always one or both will be disappointed (potentially heavily disappointed depending how much you tried to fluff yourself up lol). So instead try something where you get to meet different people pressure free. That way you get to see them as they really are and they get to see you as you really are. Then if you like each other then it's a whole lot more likely to not go right down the **** fast.
Moocow with the Zen-Asian philosophical approach.
If you don't look for it, it will come. Perfect! Get involved with others in the activities you enjoy. This is the same advice I gave to many young people I'd meet at the dog parks who complained about how difficult it is on Long Island for young adults to meet others in their peer group. That was never a problem for me back in 1976 when I graduated from high school. 18 year olds were legally allowed to bars and drink and the bars were open to 4 or 5 a.m. Crazy.
Philadelphia, on the other hand, is like the singles capital of the country from an article I recently read in The Philadelphia Inquirer. And the construction of new apartment buildings has exploded. I think many people who live or lived in NYC have moved here after going hybrid at work. It's sooo much less expensive here compared to NYC. And there's also so much to do here, just like in most major cities.
That was until one day my roommate at the time brought home a smart, attractive and seemingly "normal" girl. 
