The Main Event wrote:ldnk wrote:Boundaries. We apparently need to have that conversation.
Scenario #1 - I take the bus to work every day. There is this girl on the bus that is kind of cute. I don't know her but we are on the same bus pretty much every day so I could very easily pick her out of a crowd. I know the tambor of her voice because there have been enough times where we have pretty much been the only two people on the bus and we have this wonderful thing called technology (cellphones) so I have heard it enough over the last 3 years that I could again, probably pick out her voice despite barely saying a handful of words to each other over that time.
If I try and talk to her all of a sudden and she turns away, that doesn't mean that I have the right to continue to pursue her. If I get off the bus at her stop and follow her. I'm stalking.
Scenario #2 - I watch the Raptors pretty much every time they play. I've been a huge fan for years and I have this huge obsession with the team. There is this guy who does commentary nearly every day and I could easily pick his face out of a crowd. I have never personally spoken to him but we have this wonderful thing called technology (television) and I have heard it enough that I could again, probably pick out his voice despite never speaking a word to him over that time.
If I try and talk to him all of a sudden and he turns away, that doesn't mean that I have the right to continue to pursue him. If I chase him down the aisles of a grocery store and follow him. I'm stalking.
Hold on, so you pursued a random girl on the bus?
Pursued. No. I was trying to highlight that chasing after a guy AFTER he already showed an unwillingness to engage in friendly stranger chit-chat is creepy. There is nothing wrong with trying to start a conversation. But if you get shut down and then decide to chase after the person, that is just inherently wrong regardless of whether they are a random nobody on the bus or a guy who puts himself in the media spotlight as a player/announcer.
They have to accept that people are going to try and talk to them, but we really shouldn't think that they are automatons who only exist to serve our interest. They have lives too. Their job just happens to be in the public eye. I'd be pissed if a guy chased me around trying to talk to me when I was trying to do errands.