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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1581 » by Maikson » Fri Aug 16, 2024 6:00 pm

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Maikson wrote:Hey guys, a lurker here would like some help and didn't want to disrupt the forum by creating a topic for this. I'll be in NY for a few days in November and unfortunately the Knicks will only play one home game during my stay, on the 8th against the Bucks. I tried to find tickets for the game on the NBA website and they just don't show up. For the Nets game on the 4th, there are some. Is it normal for there to be no single ticket games available right after the schedule is released? How does it work? It's going to be my first time in the country and seeing an NBA game is a dream.

check the resellers market for tickets. season ticket holders may resell their tickets for that game there...



Also worth noting, though the prices for Nets games are much cheaper, the experience is definitely not the same. I'd spring the extra money and go to the Garden and enjoy the atmosphere.


Although it will cost me so much money, I have plans to watch both games, Knicks one sitting far and Nets sitting closer because is cheaper (sadly I can't use the word affordable with my third world currency).

Another question, should I buy now since there aren't many seats available or over time more seats could show up? I'm anxious and didn't want to risk not getting a ticket. I'm going to the Knicks game with a friend and I'd like to sit together.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1582 » by The Vo Show » Fri Aug 16, 2024 6:22 pm

Maikson wrote:
The Vo Show wrote:
Context wrote:check the resellers market for tickets. season ticket holders may resell their tickets for that game there...



Also worth noting, though the prices for Nets games are much cheaper, the experience is definitely not the same. I'd spring the extra money and go to the Garden and enjoy the atmosphere.


Although it will cost me so much money, I have plans to watch both games, Knicks one sitting far and Nets sitting closer because is cheaper (sadly I can't use the word affordable with my third world currency).

Another question, should I buy now since there aren't many seats available or over time more seats could show up? I'm anxious and didn't want to risk not getting a ticket. I'm going to the Knicks game with a friend and I'd like to sit together.


The only trick I heard of for buying tickets is to buy them on Friday morning for Friday night games. A lot of people make plans to go in advanced (since its a friday game) then something comes up and they need to dump their tickets. Otherwise, I'd assume the earlier the better.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1583 » by Guano » Fri Aug 16, 2024 6:23 pm

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Guano wrote:I always use all my sick days so who am I to complain about other workers who "load manage"


I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1584 » by Maikson » Fri Aug 16, 2024 6:38 pm

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Also worth noting, though the prices for Nets games are much cheaper, the experience is definitely not the same. I'd spring the extra money and go to the Garden and enjoy the atmosphere.


Although it will cost me so much money, I have plans to watch both games, Knicks one sitting far and Nets sitting closer because is cheaper (sadly I can't use the word affordable with my third world currency).

Another question, should I buy now since there aren't many seats available or over time more seats could show up? I'm anxious and didn't want to risk not getting a ticket. I'm going to the Knicks game with a friend and I'd like to sit together.


The only trick I heard of for buying tickets is to buy them on Friday morning for Friday night games. A lot of people make plans to go in advanced (since its a friday game) then something comes up and they need to dump their tickets. Otherwise, I'd assume the earlier the better.


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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1586 » by MrDollarBills » Fri Aug 16, 2024 7:00 pm

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MrDollarBills wrote:
Guano wrote:I always use all my sick days so who am I to complain about other workers who "load manage"


I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


I needed to read this. Thank you Guano. This puts a lot into perspective.

This job is just one that is a means to an end and I'm great at what I do, but hell I'd be lying if I found anything fulfilling about it. I just like the money and stock options. I'd rather be with my family and the dogs, or messing around with music.

I'm bout to add a few load management days to my calendar :lol:
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1587 » by MrDollarBills » Fri Aug 16, 2024 7:02 pm

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Where is OG? The Knicks in January were elite when the squad was at full strength and OG was a major reason why.

This is the same 2K that just gave Caitlin Clark and Angel Reese 90 ratings are rookies. Like come on :lol:
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1588 » by MrDollarBills » Fri Aug 16, 2024 7:09 pm

The Vo Show wrote:
Context wrote:
Maikson wrote:Hey guys, a lurker here would like some help and didn't want to disrupt the forum by creating a topic for this. I'll be in NY for a few days in November and unfortunately the Knicks will only play one home game during my stay, on the 8th against the Bucks. I tried to find tickets for the game on the NBA website and they just don't show up. For the Nets game on the 4th, there are some. Is it normal for there to be no single ticket games available right after the schedule is released? How does it work? It's going to be my first time in the country and seeing an NBA game is a dream.

check the resellers market for tickets. season ticket holders may resell their tickets for that game there...



Also worth noting, though the prices for Nets games are much cheaper, the experience is definitely not the same. I'd spring the extra money and go to the Garden and enjoy the atmosphere.


I co sign this. The Barclay's is not a bad facility at all, depending on what kind of ticket access you have there is an amazing food buffet on the lower level and a full sized basketball court you can take kids down to pre game to shoot hoops.

But in terms of game experience, MSG is a much more livelier building for a game. It's not even close. A NY Liberty game at Barclay's is a 100x better fan experience than a Nets game. There are actually passionate fans in the building and it gets hype. Nets games are so dead they have to pipe in chants over the PA system. It's a waste of money.

MSG may be pricier but it's worth it. It's also easier to get to via mass transit.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1589 » by MrDollarBills » Fri Aug 16, 2024 8:25 pm

Someone on the Knicks subreddit made a post comparing the 4 Nova Boys to the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles personality wise and it honestly tracks.

Brunson = Leonardo

Donte = Raphael

Mikal = Donatello

Josh = Michaelangelo

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Post#1590 » by 3toheadmelo » Fri Aug 16, 2024 9:12 pm

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Melo goes in depth about the Tatum situation.

Agreed 100%. Kerr clearly wasn't communicating with him and his role was never defined. Booker had his role laid out and he was excellent because he knew what his job was. What happened with Tatum???

Same thing I was saying. He was 3rd on the depth chart at PF, so no, his mins weren't guaranteed but the guy still could have had a carved out role and whether not he played, he knew where he stood.

Celtics be damned I feel like Kerr did the dude dirty.

Either way this is a good episode where he recounts what happened. I'll never forget that game versus Serbia, ever. That was a once in a life time type of game and Melo had everyone amped up.

Yep. It seems obvious Kerr never gave a defined role to Tatum and he only gave him mins based on the backlash he got from media, fans, players etc. And then when Kerr gave him sympathy minutes in the final game, Tatum was overthinking it because he had no defined role on what to do like Melo said. Melo said “we human too” which critics forget when it comes to slandering players. Just a terrible situation for Tatum to be in. Hopefully it motivates him to win a MVP.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1591 » by Guano » Fri Aug 16, 2024 9:38 pm

MrDollarBills wrote:
Guano wrote:
MrDollarBills wrote:
I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


I needed to read this. Thank you Guano. This puts a lot into perspective.

This job is just one that is a means to an end and I'm great at what I do, but hell I'd be lying if I found anything fulfilling about it. I just like the money and stock options. I'd rather be with my family and the dogs, or messing around with music.

I'm bout to add a few load management days to my calendar :lol:


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Post#1592 » by Im Coming Home » Fri Aug 16, 2024 9:44 pm

Surprised us and Atlanta lost the MLK day game.. feels like we always had one.
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Post#1593 » by SelbyCobra » Sat Aug 17, 2024 12:11 am

Guano wrote:
MrDollarBills wrote:
Guano wrote:I always use all my sick days so who am I to complain about other workers who "load manage"


I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


You guys are doing the right stuff. About a decade ago the door to becoming a stay at home parent was open just a crack, and, experiencing all the same things you guys are describing, I nervously kicked that b*tch open and haven't looked back since.

I definitely still get the moments where I panic that my career is drifting further and further away, or that I'm somehow less-than because I'm not earning a salary like "I should be as a husband and father", but I truly have no regrets - literally ZERO.

This is also why I get so mad at myself for caring so much about the Knicks. Like, I've figured that whole aspect of my existence out, but still get emotionally manipulated by inconsequential sporting events. :lol:
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1594 » by Guano » Sat Aug 17, 2024 1:25 am

SelbyCobra wrote:
Guano wrote:
MrDollarBills wrote:
I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


You guys are doing the right stuff. About a decade ago the door to becoming a stay at home parent was open just a crack, and, experiencing all the same things you guys are describing, I nervously kicked that b*tch open and haven't looked back since.

I definitely still get the moments where I panic that my career is drifting further and further away, or that I'm somehow less-than because I'm not earning a salary like "I should be as a husband and father", but I truly have no regrets - literally ZERO.

This is also why I get so mad at myself for caring so much about the Knicks. Like, I've figured that whole aspect of my existence out, but still get emotionally manipulated by inconsequential sporting events. :lol:


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Post#1595 » by Guano » Sat Aug 17, 2024 1:29 am

Kerr is a champ at every level - carried mj and duncan to rings, made curry, keeps drey in check, and secured gold for an undermaned US Olympic team. If he thinks Tatum sucks and shouldn't see the floor who are we to question a goat.
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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1596 » by spree2kawhi » Sat Aug 17, 2024 5:21 am

SelbyCobra wrote:
Guano wrote:
MrDollarBills wrote:
I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


You guys are doing the right stuff. About a decade ago the door to becoming a stay at home parent was open just a crack, and, experiencing all the same things you guys are describing, I nervously kicked that b*tch open and haven't looked back since.

I definitely still get the moments where I panic that my career is drifting further and further away, or that I'm somehow less-than because I'm not earning a salary like "I should be as a husband and father", but I truly have no regrets - literally ZERO.

This is also why I get so mad at myself for caring so much about the Knicks. Like, I've figured that whole aspect of my existence out, but still get emotionally manipulated by inconsequential sporting events. :lol:

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Re: Around the NBA - Offseason Edition 

Post#1597 » by robillionaire » Sat Aug 17, 2024 1:37 pm

SelbyCobra wrote:
Guano wrote:
MrDollarBills wrote:
I need to follow your lead. This year was the first time I ever used a sick time in ages because I fell and got injured. I have over 160 vacation hours.

I don't know if I'm a workaholic or it's due to being raised by a Caribbean dad who -never- called out sick, but man I feel like I need to load manage.

Eh, who am I kidding. I take one week off and I come back to an inbox full of hell and a million questions. And that's not including my phone being called by my direct reports when they can't figure something out for themselves

Being in leadership kind of sucks.

As I type this from my couch while on a teams call


i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


You guys are doing the right stuff. About a decade ago the door to becoming a stay at home parent was open just a crack, and, experiencing all the same things you guys are describing, I nervously kicked that b*tch open and haven't looked back since.

I definitely still get the moments where I panic that my career is drifting further and further away, or that I'm somehow less-than because I'm not earning a salary like "I should be as a husband and father", but I truly have no regrets - literally ZERO.

This is also why I get so mad at myself for caring so much about the Knicks. Like, I've figured that whole aspect of my existence out, but still get emotionally manipulated by inconsequential sporting events. :lol:


My son was born in Nov 2019 a little before covid hit and I did the same thing for about 3 years. But honestly I was somewhat unfulfilled and wanted to go back to work. So a year ago I took a PRN job and I work like once a week. So I still keep my experience recent and my credentials up to date and everything but also still doing load management :lol:
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Post#1598 » by SelbyCobra » Sat Aug 17, 2024 3:15 pm

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i was raised the same way and the work culture here is definitely one of romancing the grind. I fell into that sht hard -tbh was easier than being a present dad(i'm doing great look at the stuff i provide). then i started looking at my wifes family pictures - she looked like a single mom. I saw that my older coworkers were retiring divorced, no hobbies, no friends outside of work and miserable. One thing i've learned as I've got older is i'm not "built different". i can learn from others mistakes. I scaled back how much I work and it's done wonders for my life - family, friends and interest have all gotten better. was an adjustment on balancing a budget. but it's wild how much my quality of life improved even as my net income went down. it's a difficult balance and i'm aware that I'm privilege af - especially now with the cost of living.

what really was a hard transition for me was placing more value on my time than money. giving up an OT day for a hike or a day at the beach with the kids and doing the math in my head. like this beach day is costing this amount of money(damn). what helped was realizing i'll never get 8.1.2024 back. so free time is more valuable than the money my work offers.

I dislike how much pressure is on men to provide/succeed and our worth is tied into work. when personally I've found more value in my relationships and interest. to those who do find purpose and fulfillment and passion in their work - congrats/must be nice. for me it's a means to an end.

as for sick days - i can justify needing to take a mental day to reset. and i use every single one of em, because that is a benefit i've earned.


You guys are doing the right stuff. About a decade ago the door to becoming a stay at home parent was open just a crack, and, experiencing all the same things you guys are describing, I nervously kicked that b*tch open and haven't looked back since.

I definitely still get the moments where I panic that my career is drifting further and further away, or that I'm somehow less-than because I'm not earning a salary like "I should be as a husband and father", but I truly have no regrets - literally ZERO.

This is also why I get so mad at myself for caring so much about the Knicks. Like, I've figured that whole aspect of my existence out, but still get emotionally manipulated by inconsequential sporting events. :lol:


My son was born in Nov 2019 a little before covid hit and I did the same thing for about 3 years. But honestly I was somewhat unfulfilled and wanted to go back to work. So a year ago I took a PRN job and I work like once a week. So I still keep my experience recent and my credentials up to date and everything but also still doing load management :lol:


Yeah man, it's really hard to ever fully disconnect from the machine - keeping a foothold for credentials, etc like you are is a wise move.

For me, I never really loved my industry, so I decided to intentionally let licenses and connections lapse specifically to make sure I didn't get pulled back into a relationship that brought me no joy. When I got that unfulfilled feeling a few years in, I started working at their school part time as a lunch proctor. Now I not only get to see them during the day and receive a small paycheck, but I'm a legend (their words, not mine) amongst all their friends because I'm the "cool dad" that everyone knows. :lol:

One day it may no longer be financially feasible and I'll be forced back into an office, but until that day comes I'm going to take advantage of, and genuinely cherish, every day I'm allowed to have a backstage pass to my kids growing up.

This isht will be over and done, shifted and changed, or whatever else in the blink of an eye, man.
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Post#1599 » by 3toheadmelo » Sat Aug 17, 2024 3:20 pm

Guano wrote:Kerr is a champ at every level - carried mj and duncan to rings, made curry, keeps drey in check, and secured gold for an undermaned US Olympic team. If he thinks Tatum sucks and shouldn't see the floor who are we to question a goat.

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Post#1600 » by god shammgod » Sat Aug 17, 2024 3:30 pm

Melo in here still talking about Tatum like anyone cares he didn’t play

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