willbcocks wrote:nate33 wrote:TheSecretWeapon wrote:Just fyi, "shaming" people doesn't stop the compulsive behavior. Many sex addicts are deeply ashamed of their behavior. It's one of the difficulties in getting treatment for them.
I wonder what the illegitmacy rate is in Japan.
You're using Japan as an example of a shaming culture?
The rate of illegitimate children has got to be low here. I can think of a billion reasons why:
-the rate of legitimate children is low
-Nearly impossible to raise children as a single mother because of economic and cultural factors
-No stigma whatsoever regarding abortion
-The incidence of divorce is low, mainly because of different expectations about what marriage is here (men often live away from the house or don't return at night; cheating is condoned in an almost don't ask don't tell kinda way)
-Shame plays a subtle role in all of the above, though it is separate from them.
probably meant saigon or whatever, which reminds me of a song....
"you are everything, you are everything, you are everything wrong! like all the rubbers busting in saigon.
(the low life, you are eveything)